What do I do about him 56.3.5 > 12

[skittalion]

There's this guy, I'm in love with him. He doesn't know what to do about me, and spent two years saying I was stalking him or thinks I'm trying to manipulate his life. Long story, we seem to keep running into each other because we have a lot of mutual friends. I ended up buying a house three houses down from where he used to live, he moved over 10 months ago now, however, I guess his family owns the place and he broke up with his gf, so might be around. I can cancel the sale of the house, but there aren't other properties good to buy (this house was an interesting story too and the market is booming right now). I feel guilty and thought of canceling the sale because a snafu happened that will cost me a little more money, but I will have no house and I gave 30 days notice for myself and my roommate, we only have two weeks left here and she has a pit bull. So, I want to travel, but not abandon my friend roommate, and ... I saw him again for the first time in a year. I didn't try to talk to him, tried to avoid him, he said my name, talked to me, and touched my shoulder, then I saw him at my local bar two days later, and avoided him, but he seemed to not be bothered and even sat near where i was sitting. I don't look at him or anything with all the stalker rumors that happened, and he even sent a message to someone about how i was trying to manipulate him through people so I can't understand why he tries to get my attention now. I'm so in love with him I couldn't even have sex with another guy, I told that guy to stop because I couldn't stop thinking of him (embarassing to speak of) and I .... don't know what to do anymore, I'm very confused and worried about the house, and wonder if, even though it's a great deal, and he doesn't live there, and everything..... I didn't even choose it deliberately, I was trying to buy another house that fell through and this was the only one left, there were two offers on it and the realtor I was talking too offered to make the deal that day.... confused

What do I do about him:

56 This hexagram indicates a journey of discovery. It could be an outer journey to a new place or employment, or may reference a journey of self-discovery. This is a time to be sincere and extremely honest with yourself. What are you really looking for? Where do you think it will be found? Wandering over mountain tops, the wise person sees each step as a gift, and knows that home is always right where one stands. If you feel like staying, stay. If you feel like moving, move. Let your heart be your guide.

3:"The Burning Inn"- Extend kindness to strangers on the path. The image of the burning Inn implies you have over-stayed your welcome. Accept this news and move on

5:"Shooting an Arrow Straight On"- This image implies a situation where you will be praised for your talents. You will make friends easily, even if you are in a new land

changing to 12

12: Stagnation

 

[skittalion]

If I buy the house:

35.1.3.5 > 13

35: Progress
The changes to line 1 indicate: "Surpassing Obstacles"- As you are elevated to new heights, others can become vindictive or jealous. Let this negativity slide off you like rain drops.

The changes to line 3 indicate: "Receiving Praise"- Slowly and steadily all your associates will turn into your supporters, if they were not already in your corner. Earn their praise with your integrity and good intentions

The changes to line 5 indicate: "Stabilizing Your Level"- Know that your new position is secure, despite small bumps and minor failures. Stay present with whatever situation arises and remind yourself to keep unattached to the outcome. The prize you are seeking is already here.

13: Fellowship

I was thinking of buying the house and traveling to south america once I have the roommates settled in.

 

[Tim K]

What do I do about him?

56.3.5 (Traveler) > 12 (Standstill)

Line 3: Don't be offensive to people, you can loose your 'inn'.
From your post: "Extend kindness to strangers on the path."
Be kind to him, don't ignore his attempts to establish contact with you.

Line 5, Wilhelm:
Circumstances often cause a man to seek a home in foreign parts. If he knows how to meet the situation and how to introduce himself in the right way, he may find a circle of friends and a sphere of activity even in a strange country.

Even though he seems weird to you, you have a chance to win him over and create something positive.

I would take hex 12 as your current state, going neither up (heaven) nor down (earth), standing in between.

I'm so in love with him I couldn't even have sex with another guy, I told that guy to stop because I couldn't stop thinking of him

If you really have such a strong feelings for him, at least go on a date once.
It will either boost your enthusiasm about him, or dissolve your mental obsession.

If I buy the house

35.1.3.5(Progress) -> 13 (Fellowship)

Line 1: you are hesitating, but have faith and all will turn out well.
Line 3: good sign, you can succeed with the help of your roommates. Wilhelm: "All are in accord."
Line 5: again good sign, Wilhelm: "He must not take either loss or gain to heart; they are minor considerations."

Hex 13 shows you and your roommates united by a common purpose( a new house ).

Don't worry, proceed with buying that house, excellent reading.

 

[Trojina]

If I buy the house:

35.1.3.5 > 13

35: Progress
The changes to line 1 indicate: "Surpassing Obstacles"- As you are elevated to new heights, others can become vindictive or jealous. Let this negativity slide off you like rain drops.

The changes to line 3 indicate: "Receiving Praise"- Slowly and steadily all your associates will turn into your supporters, if they were not already in your corner. Earn their praise with your integrity and good intentions

The changes to line 5 indicate: "Stabilizing Your Level"- Know that your new position is secure, despite small bumps and minor failures. Stay present with whatever situation arises and remind yourself to keep unattached to the outcome. The prize you are seeking is already here.

13: Fellowship

I was thinking of buying the house and traveling to south america once I have the roommates settled in.

If you are quoting someone you have to say who it is ..you have to acknowledge who wrote what you quote and put it in quote marks. We need to know whose commentary this is, it doesn't sound like it's yours.

I can't see why you wouldn't buy the house. As for 'him' it's easy....he's not calling you or asking you out so you can just maintain friendly relations can't you ?

 

[skittalion]

Oh, thank you. I was copying and pasting the descriptions from ifate.com, they have a manual coins flip option

 

[Trojina]

I see , thankyou. Is there a response to Ashteroid's answer or an update on the situation you asked about ?


IMO there's no point for people to answer here when the querant just goes away without saying anything at all. How can we learn from that ?

I see you started a new thread with a new question.....but what about this one ? What happened with the house buying ? What did you do about the guy ?

 

[skittalion]

Ok, I bought the house. Saw the guy twice. He touched me and said my name and made a deliberate attempt to talk to me. Never mentioned the house buying. We can't go on a date, he has a girl friend and doesn't like me. He has not unblocked me on facebook. His girl friend says she's uncomfortable with me because I have strong feelings for him. That is all that I know right now.

 

[skittalion]

i don't know what will happen. i am trying to learn to be true to my purpose right now. I think, my relationships became bad, because I was so caught up with them, I couldn't perservere in my life's purpose the correct way. I need to nourish myself, by emotionally connecting to my purpose as well as to people.