What does he want with me hex 55.2.4

[MeltingPot247]

This is regarding a 2.5 year romantic friendship... we’ve been through quite a bit together in this short amount of time, talk openly about many things and have a good friendship/connection. Everyone says that they can tell that I love him very much when we’re together or apart. I also believe and feel that I love and am loved by him. He is my first love, but there are other women who were involved with him before me and according to him, no one new since me.

I’ve recently expressed my doubts and insecurities to him and we will meet up again tonight to discuss the future of our relationship, pros/cons and anything else that needs to be brought into the light.

I also let him know I’d be reading the Untethered Soul by Michael Singer and Loving What is by Byron Katie - as I think they will be helpful for me.

I know what I want with him, so I asked the question “What does he want with me”

Outcome 55.2.4 > 11. Abundance >Peace/Flow

55.2 > 34 Abundance > Great Power

Perhaps a higher power wants to dispel my fears and anxieties and his as well. For me love is the higher power/frequency - it forgives, covers a multitude of sins, does not envy etc which is how I feel with and about this man. I’ve been talking about why/how I love him in this manner - always/unconditionally. And I feel that he has started to realise recently that I mean what I’m saying.

I’ve been hearing the scripture “Perfect love casts out fear” for a few months now.

55.4 > 36 Abundance > Darkening of the Light/ Shadow

I’ve definitely made a friend/ally in the dark with this guy. Unexpected connection that gets stronger not weaker over time. I’m a bright, sunny person whereas he has demonstrated reclusive behaviour, but has been coming out of his shell a little bit more over the past two years. He’s told me how he used to be life of the party, but the loss of a close male friend changed that for him..

So overall - maybe an abundance of peace and flow is what he wants with me... I’d like that too.

Any ideas from y’all of what 55.2.4 to 11 might mean?

 

[IrfanK]

Hi MeltingPot!

I was recently reading what Hilary had to say about forming good questions. She said something about "mind reading questions" often not really providing satisfactory answers. What other people really think and feel is really one of those unsolvable mysteries. You could ask him what he wants, and he might tell you the truth. But how do you really know? He might be deliberately avoiding telling the truth, or he might not really know the answer himself, or he might feel a certain way now, and tell you what he's feeling, but then his feelings could change. He may tell you something, and you may believe it because you want to believe it. Or you may doubt it, not because he's not telling the truth, but because you are feeling insecure. And how can you tell which one is which?

And you might reply, That's why I'm asking the I Ching! But the same things apply. Maybe you misunderstand the answer. Or maybe other people interpret it for you, but who knows if their interpretation is good or not? Are you trying to read things into the reading because you want to see them? Or are your feelings of insecurity making you see something negative that isn't there?

In any case, what he wants from you can evolve in response to how you act. A relationship doesn't depend on what one person feels or wants, it depends on how the people in it interact with each other.

Hilary talks a bit about forming questions that ask how you should act or behave in a certain situation. With those kind of questions, you may have much more intuitive sense as to whether it's a "good answer" or not. Sometimes, I've asked questions that are more "mind reading," and it seems like the I Ching doesn't answer the question, but it does give me advice on how I should behave.

My take on your reading is that the I Ching is saying to appreciate what you have now and to enjoy it, without striving to attain certainty about the future. Keep on giving what you have to give, with sincerity and trust, rather than pushing for that certainty. Sometimes, the only thing that damages a relationship is one of the people in it being insecure about it. So, expressing doubts or demanding certainty where there is none in life become a negative, self-fulfilling prophecy.

Line five seems to suggest the possibility of meeting someone who is compatible with you, who shares your values. Who knows whether it's this guy, your first love, or someone else in the future?

PS If at some stage you feel like asking another question about this relationship, maybe try the thing of inserting yourself into the question, making it about what you should do and how you should behave, just to see whether the answer is more clear!

 

[MeltingPot247]

Thank you Irfan -

I’m not trying to read his mind per se ... even though the question itself appears that way to you and most people. I’m fully aware of my own doubts/insecurities and we do talk about what I’ve asked. I like how the Yi reflects / mirrors my own heart and mind - and I like to hear how answers I receive come across to others... I believe we’re all interconnected in divine consciousness, so when others read or post how they interpret things, I find it interesting and informative.

My life is good in general, this was an interesting response for me from Yi and You.

Food for my thoughts, feelings, heart and mind.

Thank you

 

[MeltingPot247]

Quote:

“In any case, what he wants from you can evolve in response to how you act. A relationship doesn't depend on what one person feels or wants, it depends on how the people in it interact with each other.”

This is something he has said to me in a different way and something I paraphrased back to him - so I believe I understand this statement quite well.

 

[IrfanK]

Honestly, without reference to the I Ching, it sounds to me like a good, healthy relationship, with good, open communication, sharing ideas and thoughts, and so on. I hope it goes well for you!

 

[Matali]

This is regarding a 2.5 year romantic friendship... we’ve been through quite a bit together in this short amount of time, talk openly about many things and have a good friendship/connection. Everyone says that they can tell that I love him very much when we’re together or apart. I also believe and feel that I love and am loved by him. He is my first love, but there are other women who were involved with him before me and according to him, no one new since me.

I’ve recently expressed my doubts and insecurities to him and we will meet up again tonight to discuss the future of our relationship, pros/cons and anything else that needs to be brought into the light.

I also let him know I’d be reading the Untethered Soul by Michael Singer and Loving What is by Byron Katie - as I think they will be helpful for me.

I know what I want with him, so I asked the question “What does he want with me”

Outcome 55.2.4 > 11. Abundance >Peace/Flow

55.2 > 34 Abundance > Great Power

Perhaps a higher power wants to dispel my fears and anxieties and his as well. For me love is the higher power/frequency - it forgives, covers a multitude of sins, does not envy etc which is how I feel with and about this man. I’ve been talking about why/how I love him in this manner - always/unconditionally. And I feel that he has started to realise recently that I mean what I’m saying.

I’ve been hearing the scripture “Perfect love casts out fear” for a few months now.

55.4 > 36 Abundance > Darkening of the Light/ Shadow

I’ve definitely made a friend/ally in the dark with this guy. Unexpected connection that gets stronger not weaker over time. I’m a bright, sunny person whereas he has demonstrated reclusive behaviour, but has been coming out of his shell a little bit more over the past two years. He’s told me how he used to be life of the party, but the loss of a close male friend changed that for him..

So overall - maybe an abundance of peace and flow is what he wants with me... I’d like that too.

Any ideas from y’all of what 55.2.4 to 11 might mean?

Hello. It is a very good relation for yoo and for him.

 

[marybluesky]

Hello;

I'd say he doesn't reveal all the truth- or doesn't trust your love yet; wants you as his hidden partner, and wants the relationship go on as in the past.

 

[MeltingPot247]

Hello;

I'd say he doesn't reveal all the truth- or doesn't trust your love yet; wants you as his hidden partner, and wants the relationship go on as in the past.

For sure... I went to his place for the talk and he was nervous - this particular time I could have started off the conversation as I was the one who first advised him the issues I was having with our relationship.

He was trying to be friendly which I initially took offence at and became defensive about as this was serious for me although I had been softer to him earlier that day so he probably thought I was in a more kind hearted mood - which I was until I got upset with him for being goofy with me.

Instead of bringing anything up, I kept waiting for him to say something... after dinner we were watching TV and rather than trying to talk with him as planned I almost left - but didn’t and instead confronted him asking why we weren’t having our talk and then he said I was waiting for you to start.

Anyways, we both thought it would be in our best interests to talk about it next day.

So we had a few drinks and then some of our usual fun together.

Next day we talked about the issues I raised and we got on the same page again about most of it.

However, I do think we may have side stepped a few other issues which warrant further discussion - but corona virus has put more pressure on him financially than me at this time, so I’d rather not harm him with relationship drama and want to focus on loving him through these difficulties instead - yet at the same time I’ve wondered about moving on even though I don’t want to love anyone else the way that I love him -

I feel like we may not love each other the same way which makes it challenging, not to say he doesn’t love me, but the way we love is different and still confusing for one another perhaps.

 

[MeltingPot247]

Update: I got this same cast today to the question "Please give Insight into my relationship status with X (same guy)... And what Irfan states above, makes as much sense today as it did back then.



Relationships between people change depending on how they treat each other.



We are in a less emotional, more go with the flow phase now... Since this last cast I have met another person I am interested in / vice versa - they me...so I can see the benefits of looking after all loved ones/ connections ... But not going out of our ways to prove ourselves, not changing for anyone... Live and let live, be yourself and accept others for who they are as long as no one is hurting anyone on purpose... If we get hurt or offended by others, that's our own choice to feel that way I believe - unless physically attacked etc, than it would be intentionally their fault.

 

[redoleander]

55.2.4 > 11 reads as something that can't really be controlled, conclusively labeled, or turned into an official 'thing'. Both lines talk about being in the dark, only partially seeing, and needing to stretch in some way to get to the truth. It feels like a relationship that can mostly only exist in this hidden space, away from everything else, and that while there might be elements of distrust or mystery there, it's also an important and influential connection. It seems like something that needs to be taken for exactly what it is and also to allow it to change, end or whatever it needs to do exactly when that's called for as well. You have an abundance of something that's not without complications and you sort of have to let it come or go as it wants to. "It" not even necessarily being them or you, specifically, but this shared energy or space. The relationship has it's own life and trajectory, one that may not see a lot of daylight but that could help you clarify what you want in the big picture, lead you to the next thing, and help one or both of you through a kind of dark night of the soul. I also agree with what marybluesky wrote above about there maybe being some trust issues there, which is not necessarily abnormal or anything, just seems to be pretty directly expressed in the reading.