What is that empty feeling lots of people are trying to fill?

[maisie]

Dear all
I wondered if anyone can help me with this one?
I'd be most grateful.
I have felt like this sometimes too kind of lonely.
I asked because I had had a conversation with someone a while back who felt the same.
This person tried to fill the hole/ empty feeling with drink or a partner which never really worked out.
They also thought I was the missing piece at one point.
The answer I got was 28 line 3

Oh it sounds like I'm this person well I just worry a lot feel lonely and rush into relationships or ideas without really thinking.
So I asked what should one do to fill the
empty feeling and got 36 line 1 and 2.
Okay so I think 36 line is saying you need to do things for others using strong horses.Or maybe through your own will or get some help yourself.

Would really appreciate any thoughts because I don't understand hex 28 line 3.
Could it be dark thoughts depression?Is it just different for everyone?

Trying to improve myself so any thoughts?

 

[steve]

Hi there

I think the feeling you are talking about that is people in that situation are looking for a new lease on life. Its a bit like an old tree trying to bear fruit, its kind of wishful thinking in a sense. I am not saying its not possible, in fact the line suggests you can actually do what is being wished for. I am just trying to put it in context of the question. In a word people are trying to fill a void with something new and refreshing. Its understandable, I dont think the majority of us were born to be alone.

I have had many failed relationships since i was very young, i have left some people and others have left me. In the past i was very reliant in just being in a relationship pretty much for the sake of it. Once i was happy with my own company, i did find it easier to find someone more compatible. Just a personal take, on that feeling you are talking about.

In relation to what you should do about it line 1 you need possibly a fresh way of thinking about this idea. You have many thoughts but possibly getting a clearer idea of what you are looking for in a relationship or about being happy in general. What makes you happy would be a soul searching question.

Line 2 You could be feeling hurt and this could be holding you back from positive movement or actions or ways of thinking positive, so again its your train of thought or how you a perceiving to fill the void. I would start with you and what makes you happy. Try and get happy and go from there, whatever it takes.

The resulting hex is 46 which i find pretty positive, as mentioned its about making a start like grass starting to grow and pointing directly to the sky and sun or any new plant growing, a new plant is vunerable but gets stronger by the day.

With 46 its highly positive but its not an overnight thing however that is the correct path. Whenever I receive 46 I am asking the right questions and am on the right path again.

I hope this makes sense
I wish you luck on your journey

Steve

 

[diamanda]

Hi maisie,

What is that empty feeling lots of people are trying to fill? 28.3 > 47
28.3: The ridgepole is deformed/twisted/sagging. Misfortune.
A ridgepole is the beam that holds the whole roof in place. So it's a very vital and necessary part of the house (and a house is in turn necessary for survival).
So the issue is not a void, something empty to be filled, but a very tangible defect which is of vital importance to one's life. The "empty feeling" points to a real problem, it points to something defective in one's life, and if this is not corrected then the "house" will collapse.
47: being enclosed and oppressed. If the defect of 28.3 is not corrected, the house will collapse and we're going to be left trapped in its ruins.

So when you're having this uneasy feeling, make sure you try to remedy whatever is faulty and threatens your survival. In this light and to mention your examples, drinking is certainly not the thing to do as it stops us from acting and in itself threatens our survival, whereas a relationship would sound more logical, as a relationship (usually) is a great benefit to a person's survival.

what should one do to fill the empty feeling and got 36.1.2 > 46
It's ok to allow yourself to feel bad for a few ("three") days, but you must have a goal, a purpose - this is what will drag you out of feeling bad (36.1). There is a wound, however someone strong will help you and rescue you, seek assistance (36.2). The situation can certainly be overcome (46).

So overall I'd say your answers show that the issue is not just dark thoughts and a vague depression. There's a real problem, which needs to be solved, with help from others.

 

[steve]

I was replying regarding to 36.1.2>46 just to clarify, I didnt look at 28.3>47 sorry for any confusion.

Steve

 

[iams girl]

Imo, 28.3 is about an empty feeling that comes from striving too hard, even if well-meaning, causing one to lose touch with the Way. It could be due to any number of reasons such as a survival instinct in overdrive, unrealistic expectations caused by a fear of losing control, compensating for a feeling of not belonging, or just being untrained at stilling the senses.

What has worked for me with 28.3 has not been about giving up, but rather pulling back, being gentle with myself, letting others help out, and allowing myself to become more of a spectator at the wonder of how life manifests itself day to day. I think these things are reflected in 36.1.2.