what is the purpose for this person being in my life? 25.1.2.3.4>57

[chucklesthegirl]

It's the same situation with the same person I have posted previous threads about....sometimes I wonder why I allow myself to remain in this situation with them.
Out of curiosity, I asked "what is the purpose behind this person being in my life?" and got 25.1.2.3.4>57 as the answer.

With four changing lines, I tried looking at the two hexagrams and just taking in the images of the changing lines....I am a bit lost. Not entirely sure how to read this.
Hexagram 25 is about the unexpected, remaining natural, disentangling, and of course innocence and hexagram 57 is about a gentle/gradual permeation...penetrating to the root of the issue but with a light touch.

I don't know...I just don't see what yi is trying to tell me.

I also asked "why do I allow this person to remain in my life?" and got 52.4>56 as the response.

This is a prime example of yi not responding to my answers directly but instead giving me advice.
Maybe the answers are the same to these questions...if I am not happy, then maybe I should (25) disentangle myself gradually and gently(57) by keeping my heart still (52.4) and move on like the wanderer (56).

If anyone has any ideas i would greatly appreciate hearing them.
Namaste

 

[elias]

I'm old-school about which changing line rules when you get a mess o' them. When you see four changing, look at the top unchanging line. (Which is not to say you should ignore the rest of them...)

I agree with your general assessment of 25. LiSe observes

The best remedy is to make your own body and soul safeproof. Connect your soul to heaven and nature instead of human matters. Live the fullness of a natural and open life, allow your soul to go deep and high, do not stay on the common road where everything is mediocre. Enjoy beauty and happiness, energy and love, so sorrow and fears cannot get hold on you. Where everything is full of life, decay can find no place.

Of line 6, Wing says "Progress is impossible. Even innocent action will create chaos. Do not attempt anything new, nor try to improve your surroundings. Do not do anything at all." (LiSe's even more depressing...)

57 Wind -- Again, your interpretation seems sound. Gentle, continuous effort will succeed in its own time. Do not offer anything that might engage the other's ego. Ambiguity is your friend.

Of your second reading, Mountain always counsels to concentrate on the here and now rather than projecting into the future or mulling over the past. So... do what's in front of you rather than getting caught up in some future fantasy or re-writing history. "You have only to transcend the impulse of your ego to achieve the ideal of meditation" (Wing, line 4)

56-- Travelling. Keep walking... you're passing through a situation. You will quickly exhaust your energies should you take up residence here.

 

[chucklesthegirl]

Thank you for offering insight, Elias. it sounds like I should focus on what makes me happy for how and not think too deeply about this issue for now. Definitely not act one way or the other.
Easier said than done.
I am not very happy with this situation and feel a bit stuck because I like this man a lot, but, he is not willing to get rid of these other women who still have a lot of influence on him. It is very aggravating.

I asked "what is the lesson i am supposed to learn from this relationship?" and got 47.2.4.6>20

At first glance at the moving lines, I noticed each spoke about the situation not being as serious as the person in the image perceives it to be...line 2 the man is oppressed at his meal yet nothing is physically holding him prisoner. It is an emotional state he cannot shake off. Line six, the man is imprisoned by vines from which he could easily break free. Yet he chooses to remain in that state because he thinks he cannot break free. Only through seeing the situation for what it is, is he able to remove himself from that state.

Line 4 is interesting to me. The man is obstructed from reaching his intended goal due to his alliance with others. Hrm. This sounds more like a description of what is going on with the other person. Not sure I can relate that to my side.

Hexagram 20....meditation and seeing from a broad perspective.
Perhaps the lesson is that I should not allow myself to be so seriously affected by relationships since they are rather inconsequential when you look at the whole picture.
Maybe the way I am allowing myself to become depressed and feel awful is nothing more than a transitory state based on nothing but fear?

The earlier readings touch on that.

I will do some reflecting on these lines. They seem to be speaking directly to me about this situation.