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  • I love someone and work with them in a place that offers little privacy. For months now I dont know how to express because I am nervous and cant read him - at one point I felt very clear it may be mutual but now I feel too scared and biased to perceive clearly. It is hard for me to tell if I should be more patient and let things unfold or be more bold and take some action. I dont know what to do. I love him but cant express it. I am in an inferior position to him there as well which complicates matters. I also no longer know how he feels, or what I should do.
  • What should I do? 50.2>56
  • I think this means that the energy I am feeling is maybe jealousy (other coworkers) about my reaching out to him for connection that maybe I should be less forward the better. I also know I have to watch in myself a tendency to feel jealous if he is focused elsewhere at times which I realize is very silly but it happens. I am not sure how else to interpret this as advice to me. Maybe 56 is advising some travel/distance to remedy.. but I also have a habit of running away so again struggle to be objective in this reading.
  • What will happen between us? 37.3.5>27
  • Hopefully 27 means nourishment and improved communications. I'm not sure if this casting speaks to us individually or as composed of a larger body of people i.e. work. Line 5 sounds hopeful.
  • I am very grateful to any help in interpreting. Thank you so much.

 
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Just some thoughts:
50.2


I think your idea of having a relationship with him has merit, but be on guard from jealous others and your own jealous tendencies.

The line changes to 56 so be cautious, as a traveler not in their own country.

37.3.5 > 27

Line 3: I would read as needing to control and order your emotions.

Line 5: I would say indicates his receptivity, so that’s a very good line. “Fear not” and indicates his affection.(y)

Nourishment is possible with him, but be reasonable and cautious in your approach. Is he allowed to date you, or would that cause a problem at work? Would you feel comfortable asking him to an event, a concert, etc.? Or telling him you’d like to be asked by him?
 
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I love him but cant express it. I am in an inferior position to him there as well which complicates matters. I also no longer know how he feels, or what I should do.
  • What should I do? 50.2>56
  • I think this means that the energy I am feeling is maybe jealousy (other coworkers)
Bingo, they are aware of it.

Patienceandjoy
What will happen between us? 37.3.5>27
Have you heard the expression,
'keep your privates out of the payroll' ?
Someone gets scolded in line 3....
Either you or him by his superior.

Is he even single?
 

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  • Thank you fox777 I appreciate your feedback!! To be honest, I am worried about the problematic nature of co worker involvement and am willing to find other work if it would make things possible, I have been looking into other offers I am getting in but given the current nature of things, that might be too soon a step to take and not one I would want to rush in to as it is a lot to weigh. There doesn't seem to be any way I could ask him any of those questions without being overheard which is a big risk and I dont want to get either of us in trouble for my having these feelings and displaying them openly. I especially dont wish him any harm I just would love to sit and talk with him and have tea.

  • Moss elk, thank you! yes I do hear you and agree coworker involvement is problematic I have been in previous work situations where I have seen the effects it can have on the job, the couple and those who work alongside them, it is a delicate matter often best to be avoided though exceptions can exist, they are exceptions not the general rule. As is, I cannot help how I feel and am trying to monitor my actions in this situation.

Excellent question regarding his availability. He reveals nothing on this matter to anyone who has inquired, being mostly a private person.

Asking yi,
Is he single. I received 2.1.2.3.4.5>43

I think this may speak to availability, openeness and receptivity but I am biased. Receptivity changing to determination. It's just hard to say.
 
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Asking yi,
Is he single. I received 2.1.2.3.4.5>43

I think this may speak to availability, openeness and receptivity but I am biased. Receptivity changing to determination. It's just hard to say.
Thought these would give you some food for thought on 2.1.2.3.4.5 > 43; it’s the Essential I Ching, Ewald Berkers:

***Odd that it seems to be advising you as though his single state is to be taken for granted. :unsure:





2. Land
Line 1:
Treading on hoarfrost,
solid ice results.
Things will solidify when making this step. One is really choosing whether or not to go for this now.
(When treading on hoarfrost, which is powdery, the weight will turn it into solid ice. The tracks left by stepping on hoarfrost are clear and hard to erase.)
Line 2:
Straight through a large and unfamiliar area.
Without disadvantage.
Going through unfamiliar territory. There is no disadvantage to that.
Line 3:
Keeping the story to oneself allows for persistence.
Somebody relies upon a king's unfinished matters to come to an end.
One is relying on the other to complete something. This unfinished stuff creates a tension. To allow for a continuation, it is better to not speak one's heart.

Line 4:
Enclosing in a sack.
Without blame, without praise.

Putting something away, saving it for later (for instance not saying something). Nothing wrong with that, however, thus it is not possible to achieve any improvement.

Line 5:
A yellow lower garment.
A source of good fortune.

Being modest and ordinary. This allows for things to go well.
(Such a lower garment is like a kilt or skirt, and was commonly worn in ancient China. Nobles had embroidered ones. Yellow was considered the color of the sand, being ordinary.)
 

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I see 50, The Ting as representing your job. Within the boundaries of this job, this ting, you have managed to cook up this delicious potential office romance complete with envious coworkers and maybe even a wife! I think you are being advised to enjoy your crush, but keep everything very low key. Take no action to move things forward or you maybe (56) moving forward alone. Or maybe it’s that your mood changes and your feelings move on,
Meanwhile, how about bringing some home made soup to the office for everyone to share?
 
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What should I do? 50.2>56
hex 50 means grasping renewal: Hex 56 means connecting the scattered few.

Set realistic aspirations, reflect on what is happening inside and outside. All the ingredients are in the pot for a new start (50.2) gather them together and step out into the world

What will happen between us? 37.3.5>27
hex 37 means being on the inside: hex 27 means correcting the source of nourishment.

Whatever is feeding this situation for you needs to be corrected. Look inside - check the influences around you. check that you thoughts and words have real positive substance and that your actions are aligned with them.

37.3 - make sure your house (relationship) is in order - honesty and discipline (whatever that means for you) - and not ruled / overly influenced by hurts and misfortunes of the past ( check out the baggage you might both be carrying). If the old wounds are still there then carrying on with them in tow could lead to harsh words and resentment.
37.5 - if you are both able to act with respect for each other and the positions you both hold (at work and at home) then your continued association will be built on mutual respect and respect for those others also involved in the situation.

This will nourish you both and bring the relationship to one of mutual acceptability.

Good Luck
 
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Hello Patienceandjoy!

What should I do? 50.2>56
50 symbolizes slow transformation.
50.2: "Liu: The cauldron is filled with food. My associates are jealous, but they cannot harm me. Good fortune." There is real potential, but beware of others who may destroy the process. This situation is temporary (56).

What will happen between us? 37.3.5>27
I'm not sure. 37 may indicate someone who is married.
37.3: "Wilhelm/Baynes: When tempers flare up in the family, too great a severity brings remorse. Good fortune nonetheless. When women and children dally and laugh, it leads in the end to humiliation." There will be a hard-to-handle tension: it's of great benefit to manage it, and shameful to come loose.
37.5: "Wilhelm/Baynes: As a king he approaches his family. Fear not. Good fortune." If the guy is married he'll return to his family. If not, a powerful man will have a great role in solving the issue.

27: "Wilhelm/Baynes: The Corners of the Mouth . Perseverance brings good fortune. Pay heed to the providing of nourishment and to what a man seeks to fill his own mouth with." You'll find out if this love is a good way to fulfill your emotional needs.

Good luck!

 

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similar to rosada i see 50.2 as pointing to your job, but i see it in a different light (though i love the soup idea :D ). it tells me that maybe you're simply good at your job or doing it right - have enough to offer in that area, and so even if the chemistry between you two becomes visible and might make others jealous, there's nothing for you to worry about. maybe simply you can't be blamed that he likes you, cause you're good at what you do?

i don't think it makes sense to move away, maybe the advice in 56 is to also stay cautious in this situation, as a traveller in a new land would. it's hard for me to read though from any of these casts, how to go about taking any action, but i'm leaning most towards my_keys interpretation of change into 56.

37.3 - some form of strict discipline will be put in place? 37.5 - there will be a moment of / for openness i guess. and i rarely take 27 as promise of nourishment as it sometimes plainly meant hunger and more often than not it just tells me to pay attention to all different types of nourishment. but as a linking or resulting hexagram, i'd see a possibility of lines of 37 eventually playing out in some nourishing way.

2 into 43? this one i would leave out and advise to find out, one way or the other, from him directly, it seems only fair i guess and best for you in this situation as well.
 

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Thank you all for your time and thoughtful replies!​
  • Not much of an update, other than I have taken the advice here, my feelings have not changed but I am trying to channel them into positive action / focus on my work. I have not asked him about his status or anything as there is no privacy to do so and I think it would be too uncomfortable at this time. Grateful for the interactions I do have with him.
  • Interesting that some of the posts were about jealousy re work and not so much in terms of my hope for connection. A coworker actually shared with me recently about some patterns of jealousy in the place that I hadnt been aware of so perhaps 50.2 was pointing to this as well.
  • Re the person I inquired about I asked "what is developing between me and x" and received 13.2.5>14.
  • Fellowship of 13 speaking to the overall work environment and group aspect and presence. This to me again speaks to barriers in terms of position and external circumstances but line 5 and 14 make me feel hopeful for eventual more of a connection? I hope it was not too soon to cast but does anyone have any feedback on this?
 

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Fellowship of 13 speaking to the overall work environment and group aspect and presence. This to me again speaks to barriers in terms of position and external circumstances but line 5 and 14 make me feel hopeful for eventual more of a connection? I hope it was not too soon to cast but does anyone have any feedback on this?
Yes, 13.2 is the clannish atmosphere at work. 13.5 seems to point to sadness becoming joy after adversity, in light of great possession (14). I would take that as hopeful indeed.
 

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I see a different message. I see these hexagrams reminding you that Fellowship is the Possession of Great Measure and that by recognizing how very fortunate you are to have this great work environment and you get passed the 13.2 fantasies about having a private, personal relationship with your co-worker (13.2 Fellowship with Family, incestuous!) and look forward to developing 13.5 a warm feeling of familiarity with your co-workers as a group, you will recognize you have the best of all possible worlds right now.
 

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Thank you both. I feel so embarrassed. I am lucky and grateful for all of my relationships and work opportunities but really believed something special about him and feel very silly now to think it was mutual, when in all likelihood I am daydreaming and have no proof of what he may think or feel for me. Thank you again for all of the support and feedback.
 

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Thank you both. I feel so embarrassed. I am lucky and grateful for all of my relationships and work opportunities but really believed something special about him and feel very silly now to think it was mutual, when in all likelihood I am daydreaming and have no proof of what he may think or feel for me. Thank you again for all of the support and feedback.
Well, that’s not necessarily the case; there are different interpretations, and that last one may be valid or not, or only partly true. I think what’s so frustrating in this situation is that you seem to have no way of knowing how he feels, no opportunity to see him in a different setting.....
 

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