What To Do With My Relationship? Hex 1 and 2 always!

[aron_woolf]

She is about 5 years my girlfriend?
I asked here about our relationships before?
Jesed and others told me some things but i am still confused.
I asked should i end forever our relationship and I Ching told 39>2.
Than i asked should i fight for our relationship and get 11>2. I must tell that we are really ****ed up in 2006.
Than i asked is she my "real one" and I Ching gave me Hex 1.
As u notice i have got 1 and 2 as second hex again!

 

[willowfox]

"I asked should i end forever our relationship and I Ching told 39>2."

Hex 39.3,5 says that separating would not be the right thing to do, stay with her. You have problems with this relationship but you should work to resolve them, do not give up. Friends will arrive to give you advice on how to handle your affairs. These friends could be people you know or it could be people here.

"Than i asked should i fight for our relationship and get 11>2."

Hex 11.1,2,3 says that she is not a perfect person like you want her to be, but be gentle and understanding, and keep going. All relationships experience problems from time to time, nothing runs smooth 24/7, there is always going to be some problem cropping up but persevere and remain strong,tolerant and positive.. You are connected, stay together. It always takes two to fight.

Hex 2 says you should listen to her, learn how to deal with her, not use force to settle any problems, be more of a passive and understanding nature, do not try to lead, learn how to help and be of assistance to her. She needs your help and advice from time to time, be there and provide it.

"Than i asked is she my "real one" and I Ching gave me Hex 1."

Hex 1 is upto you to make this relationship into something very good and positive. Take action and work together, share the experience 100%.

 

[dobro p]

"I asked should i end forever our relationship and I Ching told 39>2"

End the relationship, and it's a hard road for you, limping along, that you will have to learn to accept.

"Than i asked should i fight for our relationship and get 11>2."

Fight for the relationship, and your life will be pervaded by heaven's influence in a way that you will have to learn to accept.

"Than i asked is she my "real one" and I Ching gave me Hex 1."

She is your real one, your creative one, your divine one.

As for me, I don't believe that a person has only one possible life partner. I'd say we have about fifty or so, and if you're lucky you find one of them and recognize him/her as one of them. But what do I know?

 

[hollis]

dobro

:bows: that answer.

 

[aron_woolf]

Thank u all for answers!
Best wishes!

 

[jesed]

Hi aron

Just in case the comment could be useful

Try this dialogue, following this order:
a) General Diagnosis of the relatiion between X and I
b) Qualification of my position within the relationship
c) Qualificaction of X's position within the relationship
d) Best path for me to follow related to this relation

I hope this dialogue could bring you more clarity.

Best wishes

 

[aron_woolf]

Hi everybody!

Hi Jesed!
I asked your questions:

a) General Diagnosis 36>1
b) Qualification of my position within the relationship 7>2
c) Qualificaction of she`s position within the relationship 30>1
d) Best path for me to follow related to this relation 17>1
I don`t believe these are correct answers, cause u can see hex 1 and 2 as second. I don`t believe my approach is good. I use I Ching about 16 years but something is ****ing wrong.
I must tell you that she is very arrogant this year. She tells me ugly words cause i don`t play by her wishes. I don`t tolerate that behavior and i am very cold with her. And than she is much more aggressive and boor.

 

[jesed]

Hi aron

Just in case the comment could be of any use:

a) darkening of the light seems a good description of the situation in this relationship.. even more, the changing lines seems to shows the croosroad you are facing: leave the relation (lines 4 and 6) or remain (lines 2 and 5)

BTW.. had you noticed that the 2 lines about remain are in central position?

Hex 1 has a dual practical aplication. In one hand... is a call for Wisdom; on the other hand, is the risk of sttuborness. Wich one reflects more the dynamic of the relation? Wich one you want to chose?

Just one question.... what happened in the relation between December 17, 2005 and March 16, 2006. Whatever happened in that time (the facts are in the past), is ruling your present (you are attached to past facts AS present effects)

You need to review that situation/facts, without sttuborness but wisdom.

b) Your position. You want order, discipline.. everything in propper place, with clarity. You accept only what is in accordance with your own nature (hex 7).. but the goal is to be more receptive to the other, even if you need to accept some things that are not in accordance with your own way (hex 2). in order to achieve that, you need to be like a general, who is not distant, but living in the middle of the army (7.2).

c) Her position... she wants passion, brightness...emotion. She can be temperamental and sttuborness (30). The goal is to be wiser, and leave the sttuborness (hex 1). In order to achieve that, she needs to find the middle way (yellow light, line 30.2) and achieve clarity of mind, learning to handle better both desires and fears (line 5)

Now... here, you can see a situation of 2 people walking in opposite ways: one wants discipline, order; the other wants passion. If you can find balance (due to receptive-ness and wisdom), the situation could be solve. Otherwise.... So... the diferences, make you both walk appart? or complementing one to each other?

d) best path... gain her following... but you need to chose between being like a child (line 2) or being like an adult (line 3).. line 6 is a good horizon.. IF you chose the Wisdom (hex 1)


Finally... (Ihope not to be rude... I apologize if I am)... instead of getting desperate because all the hex 1 and 2 as tendential hexagrams... you could learn the lesson: avoid stubborness and chose wisdom (hex 1), and be more receptive (hex 2)

Best wishes

 

[willowfox]

If you are doing the coins or whatever correctly then nothing is wrong with your answers, they are just trying to get the message across to you. But there is absolutely no point in keep asking similar questions.

It seems to me that you are both being pig headed, she will not back down and you will not tolerate her behaviour. From what you have said, it appears that it is you who is at fault here, you are not being helpful or understanding towards her, so she reacts in the only way that she can, by giving you an earful. Then you stupidly over react by being cold with her which then only makes her more angry with you. How about you look at what you are doing and correct the problem that you are making. If she had no feelings for you she would have told you to **** off a long time ago. You are lucky that this woman still puts up with your macho ways and still hangs in there. Change your attitude and then you will see a different woman.

Hex 2 is telling you to be more understanding and stop being forceful and pushy with her. Hex 1 is saying that something very good could come of this relationship if you both work at it. Unfortunately your attitude is wrong, it takes two to make a relationship, it is not a one sided affair. If you don't want her to talk back to you, then better you get a dog because that will listen to you and obey.

Why has she become so *arrogant* this year? Does she finally want to get married after hanging out with you for five years?