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Oh man. I sure hope soAn unexpected blossoming
Did you take the opportunity?I had the opportunity
What expenses are you able to manage without steady income?I don't have a steady income yet but I'm managing.
Its a good idea. Make it real.I am on the lookout for a job that pays the bills
I agree 1000%bills have to be paid
Interesting. Is this the main issue?my mom is taking me and my sister on the trip of a lifetime
Being shamed because you still rely on others for help?I don't want to be broke when we get there.
Did this shaming in the past or even now make you feel traumatized and compelled to seek security by being by yourself? Or sheltered/isolated by somebody else?It's time to step out of isolation.
Who is pressuring and how?I am feeling some pressure to come up with solutions quickly.
Great, optimism. This is positive. Its your light in the darkness. You love what you do. But now the question:not stressing to much about the future of my business. I am doing something I really love.
I asked the I Ching:
Financial Front. This is a warlike situation. Organized discipline is necessary or peace has to be reached, maybe even surrendering. Two months until the trip. Well lets see, you got what?what to expect on the financial front for the immediate future, the next two months:
I received hex 28.2 to 31.
Bonjour Hermit,
First of all, wow! I am impressed with how you break down my story and how constructive you move to the heart of the matter. Interesting to note how by my choice of words I unconsciously give away so much more about my situation. My finances do feel like I am on a financial war front.
To answer your questions to my background I really needed to dive deep but I don't mind. I like diving deep. At it's core it is a story about trauma.
Yes, I took the opportunity to focus 100% on my business. I manage to pay my monthly expenses but any bills outside this context I have to stall, any social engagement I have to decline. I recognised what needs to change and took action. I am resourceful about finding work and I have several job interviews lined up next week.
Hermit, I dabble in interpreting dreams myself. So I see you empathise where there is optimism, phsysis. You pose open questions where there is room for more clarity. I'd like to try this method myself.
I am still looking at the parts of my text jou omitted but right now I can't see the forest through the trees. I recognise organised discipline, hex 7 as a tool to navigate my warfront. I can see how acting in this way will get me through the next months. When we start with the facts we don't let emotions take the lead and a solutions arises.
But Hermit, you point out that 28.2 is about some old person (rigid values, beliefs, policies) getting the young female´s (learning by assimilation) attention and by that growing younger. In my reading I can see this as a more negative influence. I recognise my mother in this image because I feel she often seems to demand my attention, my energy and it can be exhausting at times.
...then there's some fresh input from an existing or old source you thought had dried up.I asked the I Ching what to expect on the financial front for the immediate future, the next two months:
I received hex 28.2 to 31.
Me and my mother are both aware of our dynamics. There is a toxicity to the relationship, we are both responsible for that. Despite our tension there really is a lot of love and shared intent to work on our relationship. I am genuinely worried about how our dynamics will influence the trip because I know we aren't there yetI think this trip has the potential to bring us closer together and equal potential to deepen the rift between me, my sister versus our mother. The energy between me and my mother is very tense. I feel like she wants to control me somehow and I keep setting boundaries with her. Despite this tension there is enough love to go around.
Now I can see this line applying to my relationship with my mother in a positive way. Making space for something new in our relationship. I don't think any of us look at this trip as miracle trip, like making a baby to fix a broken relationship. I also see my mom making a genuine effort to become closer to me and my sister. My mom went through years of repeated traumatic events, much worse than me or my sister. I have seen her healing journey and I applaud her for that.And what about my original question? I mean about my financial situation and not the trip? Because to me, I was reading 28.2 as a positive sign, about opening up and making space for something new.
Hi everyone
Just quoting myself here bc what Trojina said and to update.
Me and my mother are both aware of our dynamics. There is a toxicity to the relationship, we are both responsible for that. Despite our tension there really is a lot of love and shared intent to work on our relationship. I am genuinely worried about how our dynamics will influence the trip because I know we aren't there yet
Now I can see this line applying to my relationship with my mother in a positive way. Making space for something new in our relationship. I don't think any of us look at this trip as miracle trip, like making a baby to fix a broken relationship. I also see my mom making a genuine effort to become closer to me and my sister. My mom went through years of repeated traumatic events, much worse than me or my sister. I have seen her healing journey and I applaud her for that.
This afternoon we talked again. My mother offered to help me financially so I can go on this trip without getting a financial hangover. Pay it back when my situation improves. Looking at this reading I can see 28.2 unfolding, sprouting a shoot. I have trouble asking for help, and now help has been offered from my mother, the 'withered willow sprouting a shoot'.
I decided to sleep over it and get back to her tomorrow. Will update, as always.
Cher sage ermiteCher Renard doutant
The casting is one thing, my dear, the insight coming from it is another, never worry about what the IC says, another person or interpreter says, not even about what you are saying to yourself, if you have doubts. I am not saying, don´t have doubts, this is healthy, be critical, doubt as much as you can but always believe first in facts. One fact is clear: you had anxiety, and you needed an outside opinion.
Anyway, doubts are thoughts. Not action. Action creates facts. Action will make thoughts and doubts go away. Doubting is not bad, nor is it good, it just is a state of mind. Let it flow. Don´t worry, you will gain clarity and insight. Trust in that. Its a fact, You are alive and thriving. Keep going.
What is the correct action? Well, once you understand what is best for you, then knowing how to do the best for the rest is easy like a sunday morning. If you don´t know or ignore what is good for you, it is going to be very difficult to go forward with others. Why? Because your boundaries define who you are, not who they are, and if these boundaries are muddy, the self is muddy, others can't act accordingly. So don´t give them a chance to undermine you. Clear it up. See for yourself, what is acceptable, what is over the top, or too much, what can succeed and what will surely fail. Then act and be firm. Bonne chance mademoiselle. Weave ahead.
Cher sage ermite
I can find myself in everything you are saying. I certainly struggle with my boundaries and sense of self but I know I am making progress to. The I Ching has been my guide for many years and with it, many of the wise and wonderful people on this forum. I have gotten so much insights, wisdom and compassion here, it's incredible.
What I am learning about boundaries is that they need to be dynamic. Not to keep everyone out. I used to keep everyone out, self isolating. I certainly kept my mother out for a very long time and with good reason. People do change and my mother started changing after a traumatic event some years ago. She went through deep grief and after this there was room for us to heal.
Doubting but also considering all of my options. My mother is not entirely toxic, and she does listen to what I have to say. Even the parts that hurt, and she works on her part. For me this is the most important sign. I can see her efforts, I can perceive the changes and how our relationship is improving, how she is improving. I want to make room for my mother in my life. If we can heal old wounds together we will feel the changes in all different parts of our lives. And healing can be muddy.
I decided to go on this trip and accept my mothers help. The anxiety is real and we will have to keep working on our boundaries. This is something I discussed with my mother yesterday. The recovery and healing of our relationship is also real and neither me or my mother expect miraculous healing from this trip. We discussed our boundaries, what is acceptable and what isn't and what needs to be seen from both sides.
This feels like the best course of action for me. Right now, I feel clearheaded and grounded again. These are my most important signs to go forward.
Esteemed Hermit,
I would love to learn more about interpreting dreams and discussing my dreamjournal!
I tried sendig you an email via this website but it doens't work. How may I reach you?
Let's connect and share insights
Warm greetigs from Belgium
Johanna
Thank you Rosada,Interesting how hexagram 28 appears to be on the verge of collapse yet when we change line 2, the trigram becomes Mountain and thus the breaking bridge is shored up and the image becomes one of a joyful Lake easily holding a manageable portion of Water rather than being washed out by an entire flood. A very positive omen for being able to create and maintain friendly boundaries!
Incidentally, in my experience the older partner turns out to be a more experienced, more capable friend - a welcome companion.
Clarity,
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