What will happen if I go out for drinks with this guy?

[themulberrytree]

I received Hexagram 60.6>61. Asked what the limitation was as well, and got Hexagram 57.2.6>39. I've already decided to go out for drinks with this guy, so I'm not really looking for advice, per se. I'm more posting this to see your interpretations, and then update with what actually happens.

Um, anyhow, I initially got the feeling that the hexagram implies that it's not so great of an idea. I don't really have much time in the first place. I flirted a little to make my intentions clear to him and myself, but I didn't want to come right out and say that I wanted to hook up. I'm fine if that doesn't happen, because even so, I'm on study abroad and it would just be nice to talk to someone around my age that's from the area. Most people in my program are from other places, so I'm lacking in locals. I'm not entirely sure what the limits discussed are, but I guess we'll see.

Edit: I feel a little like, 'what if this is manipulative?' Trying to get down all of my thoughts that could be related to limitations. Hm, I think it would be cool to have a new friend. It might be best to treat it that way because I don't want to end up with just a hook up.

 

[Trojina]

Taking what Yi says , from wiki which is Hilary's translation I think

Bitter articulating: constancy, pitfall.
Regrets vanish.’

So what you missed in your take on this I think is the 'regrets vanish'. The line is saying that if one is too exacting in one's demands on oneself or others then there is pitfall. This can be where one sets oneself harsh or unrealistic goals or places those on others. If one can refrain from this however 'regrets vanish'

Imaginary examples. Someone believes that unless they can absolutely look their best they can't go out that evening. Someone believes there's no point befriending someone who isn't their idea of the perfect friend.....ummm you could think of others...maybe someone is on a diet and they are doing well but if they are too harsh on themselves and refuse little treats now and then , well they go too far, things start to feel hard, difficult 'bitter'.


The word 'bitter' here is important. It is about how limitation tastes. When one is living happily with certain limits in life it is not too arduous. But when we expect ourselves to do things to such a degree they don't taste good then that's a clue there's something amiss here.


How does this apply to your situation ? Do what feels okay to you. Don't make yourself do anything because you feel it's 'good for you'. Listen to yourself closely and then do what tastes right to you.

 

[themulberrytree]

Well, in the end, nothing happened. He didn't respond.

But that's not what I asked so I'm not sure it's applicable to the answer I've received.

I will speak to your response, though -- I feel that this line, then, is about why things fail. I remember someone posting something about how ego is the reason a lot of people have uncompleted or unpublished novels in their drawers. I believe they were writing that in reference to why people would stop their work, never to be continued, but couldn't understand the relation at the time. I don't know if my current response is relevant to that, but in case it is and I've drawn from it, I want to take note of that post.

What I'm thinking is that people fail to write novels because they start and it doesn't sound good. But that means that nothing gets completed -- you're too harsh and unrealistic in your expectations. But if you let go of your expectations, you would be able to finish and perhaps clean up after. But if you don't, you may grow bitter and feel unfilfilled. This part's a bit of a stretch, yeah, but it's what I've got. It's not a precise analogy to what you described at all, but again, it's what I've got.

I'll edit this post, too, so I can speak to your response to my particular reading a little more. But I'm tired for right now.