What's going on in my relationship?

[regardie]

Hello!

I wish you all a happy new year!

With my girlfriend we had hard times that mainly lead to broke up. I don't know if I can trust her anymore, my feelings are mixed.

So I asked Yi about 2 questions:

1) Is my GF sincere with me (with the idea can I trust her)?

60.3 > 19

2) is she going to cheat on me with another man?

60.2.3.5 > 36

I'm asking myself if she's not gaining time, waiting to meet someone else and staying with me meantime.


Thank you for your answers.

Reg

 

[Tim K]

Hi Reg,

1) 60.3 leads to 5 (Patient Waiting), and 60.5 -> 19.

Wilhelm, 60.5: The limitation must be carried out in the right way if it is to be effective. If we seek to impose restrictions on others only, while evading them ourselves, these restrictions will always be resented and will provoke resistance. If, however, a man in a leading position applies the limitation first to himself, demanding little from those associated with him, and with modest means manages to achieve something, good fortune is the result. Where such an example occurs, it meets with emulation, so that whatever is undertaken must succeed.

She will be, if you show her that you are sincere. Approach her, show that you care for her.

2) Is she going to cheat on me with another man? 60.2.3.5 > 36.
Yes she will (60.3), if you let her.
Line 2 tells you to take some action to save the situation (maybe go out with her more, don't stay at home)
And line 5 says again, that some simple limitations are in order.

Are you looking at other women yourself? Maybe you do/not do something to provoke her?, and she tries to make you jealous?

Internal hexagram is 27.1.2.4.6(Nourishment) -> 40(Liberation), lines description by M.Daniels:
1. You lose yourself through greed and envy. ( Don't be too jealous, don't forget to look at your actions too)
2. You seek nourishment in inappropriate ways. (don't try to control her)
4. Find appropriate ways of nourishing and supporting. (win her by love and affection)
6. You have a responsibility to help others.

Maybe you need to rethink your relationship as a whole?
If you are sure that she is the one, then you need to change your attitude/behaviour.

Also the transitional hexagrams say:
60.2 -> 3, Wilhelm: When the time for action has come, the moment must be quickly seized.
Don't hesitate, be more active with her.
Reverse line 3.2, shows a girl that stays virgin and declines the marriage for 10 years.

3.3 -> 63, Wilhelm:
Fate cannot be duped; premature effort, without the necessary guidance, ends in failure and disgrace. Therefore the superior man, discerning the seeds of coming events, prefers to renounce a wish rather than to provoke failure and humiliation by trying to force its fulfillment.

Be her guide and don't let her cheat on you, before it's too late(63).

63.5 -> 36
M.Daniels: 5. Keep matters simple and avoid ostentation.
Do something to avoid 3.3.

 

[blue_angel]

Hi,

My view of this reading is in some ways the same and in some ways different than what Ashteroid already has said... so for what its worth...

Your first question I will not even attempt to interpret because as Ashteroid has said, you have either the wrong line or the wrong relating hexagram. I'm not sure which but since you did get 60 twice there is a good strong message for you, you'll have to figure out exactly what that is. For your second question...

(36)- you are hiding your light, maybe you are afraid of being hurt, wounded.
But (60)- this is an excessive restraint, or too much of a limit you've placed either on yourself or her. Maybe both.

Line (2)- calls for balance. You're being too cautious, or have the wrong attitude about this. Recognize what's good, take the opportunity that presents itself, and enjoy what you have.

Line (3)- don't blame her or anyone else, instead balance yourself, work on your own behavior.

Line (5)- when you are balanced, when you are a good model of the behavior you want to see in others, things will be very good for you.

Seems all about balance and timing, know when to advance and when to restrain. Stay joyful, do not allow yourself to become bitter or angry. Be more accepting and approachable.

So what does this say to you? How have you restrained to the extreme?
Or what limits have you placed on her or yourself that's uncomfortable and blocking a natural flow? I don't think she's going to cheat or just staying with you until she finds another. I think she is sincere. However I also think that if you don't take action to change whatever it is thats hindering you, you may lose her. Or something like that... if you look inward what do you see that could be changed for the better?

Blue_Angel

 

[regardie]

Hello!

thank you for your answers. I checked my records and for the first question, it's 60.5 >19. Sorry for the typo.

ok I will discuss later with you both about these hex.. first time I got these ones. But yes there is twice the same and I need to understand why.

Thanks,

Reg

 

[ttfiore]

Then
How to be with him in an exclusive relationship
Result: 3.6 to 42

 

[ttfiore]

Sorry I replied to thread made mistake question is for myself