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Hi Everyone!
Merry Christmas!

Please help me with the interpretation of the hexagrams.

I would appreciate even if somebody, anybody could just help with one hexagram or share with me your experience with any of the hexagrams.

I appreciate any feedbacks or comments!

Thank you very very much for reading!




My boyfriend is ignoring me and refused to talk to me. We're in a LDR, I am not sure if our relationship is really over.


Hex 18.5
Please describe his feelings for me now.



Hex 14.5
What is happening? Please show me a picture of what he (my boyfriend) is doing to me.


Hex 30.2
Will our relationship turned into a marriage?


Hex 16.2
What should I do to make him forgive me?


(I didn't do anything unfaithful. According to him my messages to him hurt him. I called him a liar and a cheater when he disappeare!d on me last Monday. I apologised to him and am remorseful for overreacting but he still refused to talk to me.

I am not going to try to give myself excuses for calling him those horrible names but he used to call me horrible names too when he was mad so I thought he won't mind if I do the same back to him.

Anyway I just wanted to know if there is still hope for us to be together and if there is what should I do.)

Thank you once again!
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Hex 18.5
Please describe his feelings for me now.



Hex 14.5
What is happening? Please show me a picture of what he (my boyfriend) is doing to me.

He's just being true to himself and unguarded.

Just because he says hurtful things doesn't mean he can stand it when hurtful things are said to him. That's an incorrect assumption.

Overall, these readings don't seem to indicate a permanent break-up to me. You and he will probably be back together before very long ...
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Yes Ginnie,

I made a mistake & I am feeling terrible. Thank you so much for reading and replying my post.

Could you please tell me what is Yi advising me to do now?

Your last statement said we would probably be back together before VERY long, could you please teach me which Hex explains that?
 

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Hi Ginnie,

Could you please explain why 'before very long' ? Could you tell est how long? Weeks? Months? Which hex gives you that indication that we would probably be back again before very long ... Thanks!
 

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Kittycat

If he calls you horrible names and apparently that's fine with you, why you calling him names should be a terrible mistake?

I think he will come back to you when you relax and accept your right to be angry, and the best way to Communicate without insulting each other...

What if you were right being angry? Should you apologise?
 

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Thanks Deusa,

I understand what you're trying to say... I've the right to be mad with him. He was really mean!

The reason I apologised is because I take responsibility for my actions, I shouldn't said unkind words even when he said it to me first. I don't want to be like him, the names calling is so unlike me. I was really furious when I said those unkind words. Another reason is I still want him to be part of my life & I hope we could learn from here and move on...

I really don't know. I am confused now and I know I need some really good advice and 'scolding' to wake me up.

Please keep your comments and feedbacks coming. I will accept them good or bad. Thank you!
 

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I am not ok with him calling me horrible names but I am willing to forgive because I treated him more like a family member. Sometimes family member says the dumbest thing to one another, don't we?.. But we forgive and forget after that because we are family... I guess maybe he didn't feel the same way about me as I feel for him...

He is still ignoring me after so many messages... Can somebody describe to me what Yi might be suggesting I should do... I am tired and confused, I can understand and comprehen those hexagrams...

Thank you very much for reading
 

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He is still ignoring me after so many messages... Can somebody describe to me what Yi might be suggesting I should do...

You should stop sending him messages. Be more self-reliant. I base this on your 16.2. Create a breathing space where everyone can calm down. You were very impulsive to call him names when usually you do not do that to people. You were a copycat ... copying his bad behavior. Come back to yourself. You know you want him to come back to you and just hold that goal in mind and don't doubt that it will happen. Right now you are full of doubts and anxieties, but put more value on yourself. Be strong enough to wait calmly, in a balanced way. The world will not fall apart if you do not hear from him today. Maybe go out of the house or apartment and take a walk and try to become more centered within yourself.
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Thanks Ginnie so much for your reply & advice!!

I am still upset and I just want him to know how I feel. Ok I will try my best to stop.


Hex 16.2 (Q: What should I do to make him forgive me)

'One is as solid as a rock and unshaken by the comforts of life. Good fortune.'

I quote, 'The second line represents one who remains aware while enjoying prosperious times. Approprate to this position, it aintains a firm and disciplined attitude and never indulges in excessive merriment. The virtue of the second line is its ability to maintain self-control in all situations, whether joyous or sad. Following this example brings great good fortune.'

I have a feeling Yi is asking me to stand firm to my believe (and be aware) that whatever he did to me is not right and I should be true and honest to myself and let him know. That's why whenever I thought of something, I just had to send him a message to let him know how I feel about our relationsip... I feel better after I explained to him my feelings and believe, I just hope he would understand too...I'm also thinking be it the outcome is good or bad, I let it all out & in future I know I have tried ... maybe I will feel stupid and ridiculous but at least I am true to myself now.

Never indulges in excessive merriment - I feel it's telling me even thought what he did was wrong, it is not ok for me to 'copycat' and do it back to him that's why I apologised.
 

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Hex 14.5 (Q: What is happening? Please show me a picture of what he (my bf) is doing to me.

'Being receptive and sincere while maintaining power brings good fortune'

I quote, 'This fifth line is a gentle line and is the energy that holds the five yang lines in this hexagram together. The true power of an able leader does not lie in being a hero but rather in being able to organize people to do the right job for the betterment of the whole. He does not need to be superior in every detail.'

I don't know what it sounds like to me... So what exactly is he doing to me?? Is he observing me, testing me or trying to make me realise my mistakes? Or what?
 

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Hex 18.5 (Q: What is his feelings for me now.)

'Work on what has been spoiled (decay)'
'Correcting the father's corruption, one enjoys high honors and continues the positive aspect of the father's creation'


I quote, 'Correction is possible beause of ooperation from the people, represented bu the strong second line. Correcting what is spoiled is not a negative undertaking. It can further and refresh the positive aspects o the past and stop the confusion of the present. Thus, the condition is corrected.'

Does it mean he is trying to mend things with me? Make me extremely mad so that we can be even now and can move on? Does that sound ridiculous to anyone here?

The reason why I called him a liar and a cheater is because he disappeared on me and is constantly chatting with someone else. ...

We are supposed to be in an exclusive, committed and serious relationship... How can he just disappear on me, ignore me but I can see him constantly online chatting. ... Could it be I am overreacting to his chatting?... I wouldn't be if he didn't disappear or ignore me and not willing to explain himself... :(
 

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So I asked Yi just now... 'Am I overreacting to his chatting?"

Hex 56.5 (Q: Am I overreacting to his chatting?)

'Shooting a pheasant. Though the arrow is lost, fame is earned'

I quote,' The fifth line is the center of clarity in the upper trigram. In ancient times, statesmem introduced themselves by offering a pheasant. If the statesmam shot the pheasant himself and used only one arrow in the process, he was commended. Such a person is represented by the faith line.

In this position, one's task is completed and all difficulties are removed. One is accepted by society and receives hoor. The price has been paid and one now receives the reward. ALthough hardships have been suffered along the way, one's destinatin has finally been reached.'


I can't relate my question to this hex... Is Yi saying I am overreacting or hitting the mark with the arrow?

Please help to interprate? Or share with me your experience with this hexagram.

Thanks.
 

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When you're sending messages you are actually driving him away, because that kind of message is not a good form of communication for things like emotions. It would be better if you could be silent and let him contact you when he is able.
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Hi Ginnie,

Thanks. He still refused to talk. I didn't heal your advise. I just couldn't stop texting him. The silent is too hard for me to bear. Finally I told him just now I will move on...

Maybe if I listened and stop texting him, things will turned out differently.

Anyway I asked almost the same questions again today. Could you please share your views on my interpretation? Thank you so much for reading and writing to me.

Dear fellow members, please feel free to share with me your experiences with any of the following hexagram.




Hex 40.3
Please give me a hexagram to describe to me what is happening between the both of us.

Disoolution of the Problem. A greedy undertaking brings humiliation.

I can't figure this hex 40.3 at all.... does it mean when I try to sort things out with him, he felt humiliated?




Hex 28.4
Why does he turned so cold and heartless towards me?

This line is like the single purpose of a ridgpole, it supplies strength. There should be no other purpose. Good fortune.

He is giving me strength by turning cold and heartless? Is this 'mercy killing'? He wants me to get over him therefore he completely ignore me because it is better for me that way? sob...





Hex 39.5
Please describe his feelings for me now.

'During the time of obstruction, friends all come to help.'

I feel Hex 39 is an inauspicious hexagram. My interpretation is his feeling for me is trapped. he is going out with friends now & doesn't want to have anything to do with me anymore. :'( (i'm so sad, i guess i brought this upon myself with all the emotional messages)





Hex 21.1
What is happening? Please shoe me a hexagram of what he is doing to me.

The toes disappear when fetters are put upon the feet. No movement is possible.

Sigh another negative sign... I guess this time it is really over.




Hex 52.6
Will our relationship turned committed & exclusive again?

Profound stillness and honesty, like the top of a mountain, bring good fortune.

I am so so so sad but I think I need to accept that this is it... it will be still as a mountain, nothing is ever going to happen to us again. Am I right?




Hex 13.3
I honestly hope we can still talk again like before...
What should I do to make him talk to me again?

Being united with rebels who hide in a moutain wilderness. For 3 years one dares not being a big undertaking because he is already overly ambitious.

Sigh... he is never talking to me for 3 years??... i feel so hopeless...





Hex 32.4
Is this break up for good?

These is no prey in the field. One's constancy is wasted.

Hmm does it mean this break up is not permanent because one's constancy is wasted therefore it is not constant, it can't stay long. This break up cannot stay long?... Maybe we will meet again 3 years later? sigh... i hope we will talk again 3 weeks later...
 

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I got 14, specially 14.5, twice lately just before and just after a breakup.
Meng commented that he gets 14 when the Yi is trying to tell him/us "your have great possessions, you are good. Don't worry even if thing seem to be bad."
It isn't talking about him but about YOU. It is encouraging you. You will survive!
 

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kittykat

You had requested I help you with readings, and I did on the other post, but these questions seem to be the same questions. One must be careful about over reading. Each question should be asked only once. I do not know which set of questions were asked first. I will have to assume the other set was the correct set.

So, unless there were other questions, I will leave it at that. You can see my answers on the other post. Good luck with this situation.

Gene
 

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Hi Gene,

Thanks! Noted.

I asked these set of questions first. The reason why I am asking these questions again is because these set of readings was done more than 2.5 weeks when the 'cold war' started... but now I feel the situation has changed. It seems like a confirmed break up to me now. I am still hoping for a miracle to happen, still hoping that things would be different.

The other post was asked after the confirmed break up when I told him I've no idea what's going on so if he still doesn't respond then I will move on.

Thanks for your reply. I know you spend a lot of time helping me in the interpretation.
 

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I got 14, specially 14.5, twice lately just before and just after a breakup.
Meng commented that he gets 14 when the Yi is trying to tell him/us "your have great possessions, you are good. Don't worry even if thing seem to be bad."
It isn't talking about him but about YOU. It is encouraging you. You will survive!
Hi deusa,

Thanks for sharing with me your experience on Hex 14.5!! I know I will survive. We will survive!! Cheers! =)

But I still hope things will be different.
 

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