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Your answer definitly blew my mind. Yes, I grew up in a family where there was mental illness and I realized this later in life, and, that predisposition to accept odd behavior fits too. Decrease as a way out of it was what impressive. I will try to to apply that very same reasoning the next time a cast a reading. Thank you very much.37.2.3.5 says to me that it takes all kinds to make a family but 41. says not everyone needs to be a part of your tribe. In otherwords, Family - Decrease reads to me as if the I Ching is saying you attract these weirdos because you grew up in a family where there was mental illness and so rather than immediately noticing something off in these new people you are predisposed to accepting odd behavior. You need to learn to "decrease" your instinctive tolerant response, recognize crazy sooner and keep walking!
I do appreciate the advice. Thank you very much, Olga.Hallo
In my experience, a lot of people on earth have some form of mental disorder and can be dangerous if you get close enough to them, meaning if you let dynamics evolve.
Think of couples. Women are often hurt/killed by their male partners. And usually those who are keep falling into these dynamics. But their assailants aren't usually bad people with others, they wouldn't dream of attacking someone else, they only attack people who are close to them. People they get into contact with.
I am sure most people are fine if you keep them at a distance, saying hello and good evening, but nothing more. Keep your borders, don't let them get too near and don't let them know too many things about you.
It can be noticed on a forum as well. As soon as you open up yourself, by disclosing personal details about family or political or sexual or religious view, you are much more likely to get attacked and to fall into dynamics. It's always the same people falling into dynamics.
As for Tinder, I closed it down after realizing 90% of people in there have serious problems. After all, if you need an app to meet someone, there's something wrong. We have always met through friends of friends or through work colleagues. People going on an app usually are not free or are looking for an ideal person or think they have more choice in choosing among 500 people - but choosing what? Appearance from a picture? You fall in love or into sex by looking at someone in their eyes and by smelling their odour (unconsciously). We can't choose from a catalogue.
Of course there'a 10% sane people there but they're probably the ones who will find every excuse not to meet you and you will end up in endless chatting for months, wasting a lot of time because chatting with unknown people is complete delusional.
Hope someone can reply to you on the cast, I can't make much of it really.
Well, perhaps, more in terms of a message that is being conveyed, the thing is that there is still a lesson to be learned as you are just saying. Thank you very much for your reply.Interesting post and response from rosada in terms of why we attract people.
I married a functioning alcoholic although I didn't realise or have knowledge of such a thing at the time - my father was a functioning alcoholic.
The last 3 places I've lived, the landlords have been functioning alcoholics - it must be a 'comfort zone' in our psyche perhaps.
My last attempt at romance was with an abusive kind of man, passive aggressive as were my bosses in a job that I started at the same time. He was also not open to committing to a relationship.
I met two other men after that both non committers and one was also passive/aggressive. Both I told to get lost as soon as I realised. Good for me......hopefully that means lessons learned.
What does it mean borderline?
and bipolar? Is it when you are very very sad and then very very happy in less than an hour?
Miglix, the last time someone else asked this same question here, I said "it's not that you attract them, it's that you fail to repulse them"
and the reason for that is the person in your history with mental illness who was a decrease to your family..
conditioned tolerance or
it feels familiar.
I don't see things as much as you having to actively 'repulse' anyone.
I'm not sure what you are saying in your last sentence.....are you saying yes bear the unbearable but don't forget who you are?"A childhood where you had to bear the unbearable." Wow, Becalm, that idea really holds truth. It leads me to the insight that ALL childhoods to one degree or another are a torturous come down from the vision our souls imagined and then came to earth to be. It's like we've been kidnapped from Heaven and now we're all stuck here in 3rd dimensional reality battling Stockholm syndrom where we're the captive who ultimately comes to align with the oppressor, first to survive and then because we lose touch with ourselves and our own values and beliefs and for security we've taken on the values of those around us.
That's how you come to bear the unbearable - you accept it as best you can and try not to forget who you really are and where you come from .
Clarity,
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PO Box 6945,
London.
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