Why is everybody leaving me? Hex 59 UC

[dancingfox]

I've experienced a lot of losses in my social network in the last few months.
A very dear friend moved to another country, she doesn't reach out to me anymore not even online.
Another friend I've known since my teens block every effort to contact her from my side in a passive aggressive way, no idea why and no straight honest answer when I ask her up front by text.
Last summer I've moved to an apartment but my cat never adapted to the new environment. She never left my side (or my bed) for the past 6 years but she was so stressed out in my new home I had no choice but to bring her back to my dads, where she has a big old house with a huge garden and constant company from my dad.
I recently ended things with a man I started dating in December, he wasn't ready for a serious commitment because he just got out of another long-term relationship. I have been single for 3 years so I expected more then something casual. Should have known that was a recipe for disaster right from the start. I know I made a mature, healthy decision in ending things between us, putting up boundaries... but it still hurts an awful lot. With the Coronavirus and self-isolation I finally need to face these losses, my loneliness, so lots of time to reflect, grieve and re-find my inner peace.

I asked 'Why is everybody leaving me? Hex 59 UC
Well that answer really hits home. All of these events seem beyond my control, inevitable. I feel like I am going through a grieving process and it's time for me to let go of the hurt that's been pulling me down. Lise calls hex 59 'The Flood' and the image of a great Flood destroying old structures, paving the way for a new life. By choosing for myself and not allowing to continue an unhealthy relationship I am certainly breaking old patterns, and it does feel like loss even though I know things will get better even if it doesn't feel like it right now.

Other insight would be much appreciated.

 

[moss elk]

I asked 'Why is everybody leaving me?
Hex 59 UC

When we are grieving or feeling 'down' we start to look for meaning...that may not be there. The next error would be to blame yourself for all these events, to take them personally. Don't go there.

You already know the seperate reasons why these things happened, (with the exception of the passive aggressive blocking friend) you spelled it out in your post.

59 is just a picture of the Dispersing.
There is no 'One meaning' for these events.

Make new friends.
That is your solution.

 

[RindaR]

With the Coronavirus and self-isolation I finally need to face these losses, my loneliness, so lots of time to reflect, grieve and re-find my inner peace.

59 UC does seem a perfect description, and I am thinking that finding your inner peace may be equivalent to the monarch assuming their temple, so make yourself at home there. "Fruitful to cross the great river, Constancy bears fruit." In this river of time and relationships the banks have expanded, limits are dissipating, and you have a flood of time to reflect, process these losses, and to make friends with yourself.

 

[marybluesky]

Maybe it is time for many things in your life to be dispersed so that there is room for new things? The hexagram says it's fruitful to cross the great river.

I experienced a similar social/emotional dispersion past year. The new world is taking time to shape . Anyway, I don't regret anything. And I'm freer.

 

[rosada]

When people talk about the corona virus a repeating theme is that it's awakening our awareness of the need to make changes. It's forcing us to detach from old patterns and re-evaluate our goals. It seems you are experiencing this big time in your personal life now! You are in close synchronicity with what the whole world mass consciousness is going through! Maybe you are the poster child for Social Distancing!
Anyway, I think getting 59.Dispersion in answer to your question Why is Everybody Leaving Me? is saying people are not so much "leaving" as in going away forever, but rather the magnetic attraction formed by old habits rather than current feeling is no longer in force as the world is in lock down - so we're all sort of floating in space, no longer held in lock step position. The coming benefit is we are seeing things about ourselves and now will be able to form new habits more consciously - habits and routines and friendships that support our new insights. see where the energy is going to be flowing next and direct our attention accordingly. In other words, now is a good time to let everyone float on their own for awhile. You may come up with some whole new ideas about what you came to the planet to do - and this may require making a whole new set of friends.

 

[dancingfox]

Hi everybody

These are difficult times for everybody, so a BIG thank you for all of your insights and helping me gain a new perspective on my situation.

Elm Sauce

When we are grieving or feeling 'down' we start to look for meaning...that may not be there. The next error would be to blame yourself for all these events, to take them personally. Don't go there.

Make new friends.
That is your solution.

I try not to take anything personally, it's a process. I just feel like everything is happening for a reason. In an 'Out with the old, in with the new' kind of sense. Make new friends, yes I would love that . It would bring a much needed sense of happiness and connection in my life.

Rinda

Yes I thought so to, a perfect description of what's going on.

Marybluesky

This is not the first time I have experienced this kind of dispersion. My past experiences are helping me to move easier through this period. I know these things ask time. It's good to know that we are not alone in this experience right now.

Rosada

A poster child for Social Distancing, I have been a loner most of my life, I would think this would equip me better then most to deal with the lockdown. But the opposite is true, I feel extremely vulnerable and never more in need of human contact.

Anyway, I think getting 59.Dispersion in answer to your question Why is Everybody Leaving Me? is saying people are not so much "leaving" as in going away forever, but rather the magnetic attraction formed by old habits rather than current feeling is no longer in force as the world is in lock down - so we're all sort of floating in space, no longer held in lock step position.

Breaking old patterns has been a very important theme in my life this past year. I feel the synchronicity with what is globally happening right now. I genuinely hope something new and beautiful will come out of this.