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Galley

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I've always been a healthy, active, lively person. But about a year ago an unusual and previously unknown oddity of my physiology manifested itself and resulted in an accident that nearly killed me.

My doctor, a specialist in this particular area of physiology, says he has treated about 2,000 people this happened to. I am one of 2 who survived. And I'm really doing very well physically--back to yoga, exercising vigorously, working full time, caring for my household members and property.

But psychologically I am a mess. My spirit is crushed. Everything triggers my PTSD. I cannot tolerate the presence of other people for more than an hour or two at a time. To the degree that I understand what is happening to me now, I know that it is not something that professional help can address.

So I've turned back to the Yi, my old friend, using it now differently than I once did. I consulted it once, a few days ago, asking the best question I could craft, and plan to mull over the response for perhaps a week before asking another.

My question was this: I am all better now. Why does this still feel like such a big deal? Having experienced what I suppose is a miracle, why am I falling apart? The answer was 18 unchanging, which I take to mean that my current mental state is continuous with what came before and that any mental recovery I make must take into account not only recent trauma but also my past--the sins of the fathers, if you will.

I would love to hear any thoughts you care to share. This community is one I have benefited from tremendously in the past. Thank you all for still being here.
 

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Hi Galley,

the way I see this reading, you are still "rebuilding from ruin". The fact that you are physically much better now is great, but the emotional and spiritual shock needs more time than that to heal...

The fact that you received Hex 18 without changing lines does to me underline this message - there is nothing else that you need to know, or need to do other than what you already are doing - recuperating to the best of your abilities. Just give yourself the time needed for this and have the strenght and patience to see this course through.

Try not be too hard on yourself and your emotional vulnerability - the fact that you have survived something that most people don't shows great strenght and vitality on part of your body and soul.

Hex 18 speaks of great success, to take courage! You are doing the right thing, and the rest will come naturally in time.

I wish you all the best

maui
 
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Hi Galley,

I agree on using "the sins of the father" as an illustration because this issue really goes back to the past. The accident has brought to the surface conditions that had been deteriorating over time. You survived, which is great, but the accident exposed physical and psychological vulnerabilities that will not disappear just by you sitting and having a nice cup of tea :D

That is the reason you have experienced a miracle and still you are falling apart. That is why hex 18 can be interpreted as "working on what has been spoiled". This is not just a matter of acknowledgement. It goes beyond that. So you will have to consciously address these underlying issues and work on them, by tracing them back and rebuilding those physical and psychological/emotional areas that have shown to be vulnerable.

You asked the Yi why this still feels like such a big deal. Well, because it really is. I see your reading as a very clear and straight forward answer to you.:bows:
 

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As others have said, this is a situation from the past, transmitted in your genes, so once again the Yi has come up with a spot on description.

Kong Zi once said: "The Master said, "While a man's father is alive, look at the bent of his will; when his father is dead, look at his conduct. If for three years he does not alter from the way of his father, he may be called filial." Analects 1:11

The inference is that after that three years of mourning he CAN begin to alter those ways, if needed. In physical things we get the cards we are dealt and have to make the most of them. As one old country doctor put it: The best way to have a long, healthy life is to be very careful who you choose as parents.

Just for kicks, here is the Forest of Changes verse for 18 - 18:

18 - 18

The bream spawn in the Yangtze and Huai rivers,
Reproducing, one becoming a hundred.
They circulate throughout the world,
No difficulties or disasters.
 

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Hi Galley, As Yi is pointing out, you have stumbled upon how the psyche works: illness or accidents can trigger past traumas, big or small. What you are experiencing is a common phenomenon and there are ways to deal with it. Particularly any ways you might know that address the ptsd directly(I'm not sure about mentioning modalities on this website, you may know of some already, if not just ask and I'll share what helped me w the ptsd). You are on the right track by recognizing things and listening to Yi's counsel to work on things from the past! My best wishes to you, my friend.
 

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Thank you, everyone, for sharing your thoughts and good wishes. You've all been very helpful.

I sat with this reading for awhile, and believe that I now have a clearer idea of the broad outlines of the problem, and even have filled in some of the detail. One item that came up was, in retrospect, so obvious--hiding in plain sight--that it's hard for me to believe I had to think for several days to understand that it is affecting me now. But that's how the mind works, or mine does, anyway. A thing can be flashing neon right in my face, and it takes me forever to see it. When I finally saw this particular bit, I almost laughed out loud at how clear it was.

Anyway, having examined 18 unchanging for awhile, I asked, "So what do I do about this?" Yi answered 24.3.4.6-->30.

The change on 6 is a bit disturbing, but in any case this provides food for much more thought. A couple of weeks, anyway!

Thank you all again.
 

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Thank you, everyone, for sharing your thoughts and good wishes. You've all been very helpful.

I sat with this reading for awhile, and believe that I now have a clearer idea of the broad outlines of the problem, and even have filled in some of the detail. One item that came up was, in retrospect, so obvious--hiding in plain sight--that it's hard for me to believe I had to think for several days to understand that it is affecting me now. But that's how the mind works, or mine does, anyway. A thing can be flashing neon right in my face, and it takes me forever to see it. When I finally saw this particular bit, I almost laughed out loud at how clear it was.

Anyway, having examined 18 unchanging for awhile, I asked, "So what do I do about this?" Yi answered 24.3.4.6-->30.

The change on 6 is a bit disturbing, but in any case this provides food for much more thought. A couple of weeks, anyway!

Thank you all again.
I asked the i ching: How can I get the Strength to move forward? I received Hex 18 unchanging.
The back ground is: I divorced 8 years ago after 25 years of marriage, which I had 2 children in and didn't see my children again. I fought through the courts for a few years to try and change this to no avail, lost a lot of money, faith in justice, faith in myself and mankind. Out of the blue a month ago I received and e.mail from my daugther. In the e.mail she expressed that she would like a relationship with me again! WOW. She is 22 years old now, was 15 years old when the contact was broken and choose to live with her farther. I also have a son who is 23 years old and have no contact with him at present.
Before she contacted me I had resigned in myself and accepted that I would maybe never see or have contact again with my children and was just beginning to get a life for myself without them in it which by the way has taken 8 years to reach! Now I find I'm back to square one again, meaning all of the feelings I feel are like beginning hit by a truck and all the gains I have made are lost. Everyone is saying this is so great that your daughter is back in your life again, it is a miracle! We told you that your children would come back one day. But where to from here? What was it all for? How do I fill in the loss years with her? What do I say? I don't know her anymore? How do I get past the hurt and pain of the past?
Hex 18 is just right for my situlation. I understand Hex 18 better now! Thank-you for all the comments and posts. And Galley I truly understand how you feel. Will I need to walk back through my past to find my future? Maybe to walk back I can leave what I picked up on the way? Is this what is meant by laying your ghosts to rest? forgiving the sins of the Fathers and Mothers? I think so.
A poem that I think sums up Hex 18...
Yet meet we shall. Part and meet again. Where dead men meet, on lips of living men.
Any more insights would be gratefully received.
Ichanged
 
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I asked the i ching: How can I get the Strength to move forward? I received Hex 18 unchanging.
Ichanged
Hi Ichanged,

On the subject of hex 18, it provides you with the opportunity to deal with those past issues, in your case triggered by your daughter unexpected move. You can reflect on what happened from a different perspective, by having contact with your daughter, you can revisit this painful past experience and work on the healing process, you can re-evaluate decisions and choices that were made, you and your daughter may decide to rekindle the relationship, you can put to rest issues that cannot be solved. So it is open to you on several different levels.

This is not a warranty policy saying that everything is going to be sorted and completely fine, but rather it is an opportunity to improve what can be done and move forward with your life. Hope that helps :bows:
 

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