Why is X so sensitive? Hex 44.1

[white owl]

Asking about someone .. Sensitive meaning so quick to anger,takes things way to personally. I do want to understand this more cause, after all he is my friend & care about him deeply.

I am searching for fresh perspectives & insights into this Hex 44.1 & how it correlates with my friend's behavior. Thanks

 

[hopex]

white owl - i think this is male sexual frustration
i have always seen 44 and its first line to be the
sex drive. if someone got this for a relationship
i would say it was based on lust as opposed to love
and affection. Being male he may not want to
explain it to you ========= IMHO

 

[pocossin]

Why is X so sensitive?
44.1 > 1

Powerful woman syndrome. You outclass him in dealing with concepts. Give him the chance to have his say even when you know the answer. Be like the silent ever-influencing Heaven.

 

[sooo]

Sensitive meaning so quick to anger, takes things way to personally.

I think that's an apt interpretation of 44.1-1. Not all of 1 is noble, nor does it always set the moral balance which agrees with the mores. In this case, he'd rather not be confronted and remains low and hidden, though being taunted, as with a stick, to give way to his pigheadedness and rage. It's a situation that's best brought under control quickly, before someone gets hurt.

 

[white owl]

Hopex- Its true, dont know why I couldnt see it, but alot of his behavior has to do with frustrated sexual energy. I know it stems from alot deeper issues. Its as if he blames me for his frustration when he knows we live 12hours drive apart along with other obstacles involved too.

Pocossin-Thats true thats what he would like of me 24/7 haha he would like to see other people while I see no one. I have always been the submissive one.Perhaps though not latley because I am seeking more friendship & the act is getting old. I have had to deal with some traumatic life experiences latley & naturally require deeper affection/connections. This has been manifesting naturally around me too in all facets of my relationships with people.

Sooo-I agree, not all of 1 is noble. I think he does use being taunted as an excuse for his emotional outlet, in which he has only himself to blame because, he sets himself up for it and gets off remaining below/low.

 

[sooo]

Sooo-I agree, not all of 1 is noble. I think he does use being taunted as an excuse for his emotional outlet, in which he has only himself to blame because, he sets himself up for it and gets off remaining below/low.

It sounds like a hybrid between a lazy dragon and a vigorous pig. I admit to reaching a bit into the Fan Yao, 1.1, to view from another perspective. The two first lines make an interesting pair: the dragon who is hiding, and the pig who wants to rage about. The feeling isn't that of fertile or productive, more like wasting potential. Maybe if the dragon were awakened, he'd get inspired to somehow use his potential, in a more productive or artistic way?

 

[anemos]

Pocossin-Thats true thats what he would like of me 24/7 haha he would like to see other people while I see no one. I have always been the submissive one.Perhaps though not latley because I am seeking more friendship & the act is getting old. I have had to deal with some traumatic life experiences latley & naturally require deeper affection/connections. This has been manifesting naturally around me too in all facets of my relationships with people.

reading this and what you said about he takes things very personal makes me think if anger is his way to express other feelings. Is he always like that or his behavior has to do with the difficult times you are going through? I can relate to your need for affection and friendship and support. Maybe he somehow feels helpless and creates a distance with those fights. Maybe he can't discriminate what to take personal and what not.

i see it as an instinctive reaction( 44.1) in times he better no act (1.1).

Something feeds his behavior and makes that pig-side of his stronger and creates a fuss. What kind of brake is proper here, i can't tell. Maybe an open discussion not to put blame to each other , not to try to find who is wrong and who is right but explore what is really going on. its a risk, because it might be disappointing yet may worth the effort.

 

[patro]

after reading all posts it's just like your friend is playing the victim....
if you try to help him in the way you are doing you'll get involved in a more and more mental(hex 1) play.

 

[white owl]

Soo-I looked at the Fan yao too & find it very interesting too. They are both closley related in this instance and I wish the artistic, productive dragon came out more instead of the selfish, fussy pig side too. I feel it is a waste of potential too.

Anemos- We have had an alternative "fetish" relationship, I being the submissive one (if you get my drift) Something I needed to explore inside myself. I told him he could control me in bed,but not in real life. Is it getting hot in here.. Haha. just shedding some more light on it all. We have a had many discussions about this. His controlling nature & attitude is not the healthy type of control & I know it is in other of his relationships as well too. I think he is controlled alot by his family , especially his mother .

Patro~I never bother him. I just want to figure out why he cant be more friendly, because if he cant than it will never go any where & I will continue to see other people & hope to find something more close & intimate, too bad tho cause the sex was great. I believe it could be even better if we were close friends, but he desires an ultimate eccentric, fetish lifestyle I suppose.

 

[patro]

Asking about someone .. Sensitive meaning so quick to anger,takes things way to personally. I do want to understand this more cause, after all he is my friend & care about him deeply.

I am searching for fresh perspectives & insights into this Hex 44.1 & how it correlates with my friend's behavior. Thanks

Patro~I never bother him. I just want to figure out why he cant be more friendly, because if he cant than it will never go any where & I will continue to see other people & hope to find something more close & intimate, too bad tho cause the sex was great. I believe it could be even better if we were close friends, but he desires an ultimate eccentric, fetish lifestyle I suppose.

sorry i simply answer to the above expressed question.... and i never says that you bother your friend.... i think that the one that finally will be bothered are you... if you try to help your friend... in the way you are thinking.

also it seams, from your explanation, and the hexagrams that he is looking for love from your side

 

[anemos]

Anemos- We have had an alternative "fetish" relationship, I being the submissive one (if you get my drift) Something I needed to explore inside myself. I told him he could control me in bed,but not in real life. Is it getting hot in here.. Haha. just shedding some more light on it all. We have a had many discussions about this. His controlling nature & attitude is not the healthy type of control & I know it is in other of his relationships as well too. I think he is controlled alot by his family , especially his mother .

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got it there are many different views about which is the right form of such relationships but to me, your well being must be a main priority for him. In Yi words, "to rule is to serve" . Not everybody can do that.

hope things will be better or will make it better

take care

 

[white owl]

sorry i simply answer to the above expressed question.... and i never says that you bother your friend.... i think that the one that finally will be bothered are you... if you try to help your friend... in the way you are thinking.

also it seams, from your explanation, and the hexagrams that he is looking for love from your side

No worries Patro..yes I am bothered Thanks for your insight, helps alot.

 

[white owl]

got it there are many different views about which is the right form of such relationships but to me, your well being must be a main priority for him. In Yi words, "to rule is to serve" . Not everybody can do that.

hope things will be better or will make it better

take care

Thank you Anemos

 

[pocossin]

Pocossin-Thats true thats what he would like of me 24/7 haha he would like to see other people while I see no one. I have always been the submissive one. . .

I wasn't recommending that you play doormat but, since you are the Wise Owl in the relationship, that you manage it more subtly. "subtly - So slight as to be difficult to detect or describe; elusive." Below Mr. Sensitive's threshold of perception.

 

[white owl]

I wasn't recommending that you play doormat but, since you are the Wise Owl in the relationship, that you manage it more subtly. "subtly - So slight as to be difficult to detect or describe; elusive." Below Mr. Sensitive's threshold of perception.

Pocossin -I know you would have not, recommended that to me. I understood where you are coming from, which is a good approach. Thank you.