why only sex talk?

[flowerblossom]

There's a guy at work and we've been emailing each other a bit lately because we are unable to talk to each other at work. But, he seems totally focused on sex to the exclusion of everything else. I know that he likes me a lot and I like him but I'm starting to feel like an object. Does he like anything else about me? Is he just super sexually frustrated?

Why does he only talk to me about sexy stuff?

13.1.5.6 > 62

I take people in harmony at the gate (1) and the altar(6) to mean a relationship that hasn't really gotten off the ground. We're still standing outside of it looking in. As of yet there are 'no regrets' and no 'mistakes'.

Line 5 feels like it's about the work situation and the fact that we're effectively kept apart from one another. No communication is really possible given our job duties.

Since these don't feel like bad lines and the hexagram in general is fairly positive I think it's telling me not to worry too much about his apparent one-track mind. It may be related to some frustration he feels at not being able to act on his feelings at this time. Perhaps he wants to gauge my level of sexual interest in him? Perhaps he's just a guy?

Any guys out there who can tell me something about men and their one-track mind?

 

[precision grace]

Well, yes, pretty much - one track mind. It is difficult to say weather he is interested in you for anything other than sex from this reading.

There is a line in Bradford's take on 62 that I think is quite apropos here: "Once the mountain's peak has been gained, the rest of the trail goes down.."

Perhaps if you do have sex with him, his brain will be allowed some blood supply at last which is necessary for conversation of a more complex nature?

 

[arabella]

There's a guy at work and we've been emailing each other a bit lately because we are unable to talk to each other at work. But, he seems totally focused on sex to the exclusion of everything else. I know that he likes me a lot and I like him but I'm starting to feel like an object. Does he like anything else about me? Is he just super sexually frustrated?

Why does he only talk to me about sexy stuff?

13.1.5.6 > 62

I take people in harmony at the gate (1) and the altar(6) to mean a relationship that hasn't really gotten off the ground. We're still standing outside of it looking in. As of yet there are 'no regrets' and no 'mistakes'.

Line 5 feels like it's about the work situation and the fact that we're effectively kept apart from one another. No communication is really possible given our job duties.

Since these don't feel like bad lines and the hexagram in general is fairly positive I think it's telling me not to worry too much about his apparent one-track mind. It may be related to some frustration he feels at not being able to act on his feelings at this time. Perhaps he wants to gauge my level of sexual interest in him? Perhaps he's just a guy?

Any guys out there who can tell me something about men and their one-track mind?

This is his way of relating. It's rather general, not even romantic, JUST physical so his view of women is, shall we say, limited. Distance, no distance, this is the man. He thinks this is the way you do it. At least he's showing you the "bare" facts to coin a phrase. Reminds me of a critic describing a superficial theatre performance: "He ran the gamut of emotion from A to B." Good luck!

 

[arabella]

Sexual BANTER that's the word I'm looking for. It's a style thing -- but it's for sure his style. If you don't like it, then you've got the wrong animal.

 

[goddessliss]

Cause that's all he's after - definitely. - Liss

 

[flowerblossom]

I appreciate all the responses I've received.

I think you're all right about this guy. He's harmless but he ain't right in the head somehow. I'm going to have to cool it with him. I'm looking for more than just sex and JUST sex is actually a sexual turn-off for me so this is a no-go.

It's just that part of me says that he is looking for more. But, if he's this messed up that he can't communicate in any other mode I'm not going to go for it.