Will he finish his university? 40.3.6-50

[Mylife]

This is a follow up on one of my last posts. Where my brother in law was risking to be deported. His legal situation cleared and they let him stay.

Now that things went back to normal, I asked for an insight about his university. I asked, do you see him finishing the university (he has 3 or 4 years left). And I received 40.3.6-50

I understand 40 as a relief, letting go of tension and complications.
40.3- a person who carries a burden and his appearance doesn’t match his reality
40.6- the end of hindrance
50- starting a new life

I am unsure how to understand this message. It either says “let go trying to finish the university and move on building a new life” or “problems will dissipate, he finishes the university and then he starts a new life”.

How would you interpret this answer?

Thank you xxx

 

[marybluesky]

40.3 says you can't carry a burden while riding a carriage, you can't continue like that. 40.6 is about hitting a target (getting the residence of a foreign country?).

I'd say no, he won't finish it.

 

[Mylife]

40.6 is about hitting a target (getting the residence of a foreign country?).

His target is and always been to finish this university. Do you think 40.6 says that by hitting a target means that he will finish?

 

[marybluesky]

Maybe. So he should leave something else which is indicated in 40.3.

 

[Mylife]

Maybe. So he should leave something else which is indicated in 40.3.

Oh I see now.
40.3 - he needs to leave something go.
40.6 - he might succeed with something else

 

[Trojina]

This is a follow up on one of my last posts. Where my brother in law was risking to be deported. His legal situation cleared and they let him stay.

Here is the thread where that was discussed

Is he going to be deported?

Hi everyone, My brother in law lives in France for 20 years on visa. He is studying the university for the past 20 years (yeah! I know… 20y in uni it’s terrible). He never worked to maintain himself but he been supported by his family and in the past 5 years family finally breathed because he...

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I have updated there and linked here because it's useful for people to be able to see what happened on the thread itself

I asked, do you see him finishing the university (he has 3 or 4 years left). And I received 40.3.6-50

I'm afraid I can't really see where this question gets you, how it can possibly help you. You want a prediction and a yes or no prediction at that. I generally have nothing against yes/no questions but here what can you gain? Some people might say 'yes' some people might say 'no' and you'll be none the wiser. In order to say whether he will finish his degree you'd have to believe his future is already pre- written 3 years ahead with nothing he can do to affect it.

In any case I don't really see an answer that says 'yes he will' or 'no he won't' and I can't see the use in making a prediction about whether he will finish in 4 years seems quite useless. How can it help you?

There will be better questions to ask about this which could help more. Generally the more you include yourself in the question the more chance you stand of understanding the answer. Find out what you want to know in terms of what it means to you rather than asking for a long term prediction about someone else. I don't believe the future is fixed to the extent the guy's progress can be assessed 3 or 4 years ahead of time! If the future was that fixed I shouldn't think anyone would bother.

So no one knows if he will finish his degree but what you want to know presumably is how it all impacts or will impact on you. If you asked from that perspective you might get somewhere. it would be interesting if you threw the same cast.

There's many things you could ask from your pov such as 'what do I need to know about how X's effect on my life?' or 'how do I handle X's impact on my life'. But asking for a long term prediction about whether he will takes you nowhere.

Looking at his life and saying 'he will do this/he will do that' is presuming a) that you can know what will happen to someone and exactly what they will do in 4 years and b) that that would somehow help you c)that he has no choice or anything to do with what happens to him and you already know. So my advice is find better questions that have you in them and avoid such long term predictions about others where their own future is already presumed to be known/mapped out and done by you.

 

[Mylife]

@Trojina even if my question was written as “will he finish his university” when I asked the Q, in my mind I meant more as “what insight are you giving me about him finishing university”.

Of course I don’t ask Q and expect an answer as a prediction of the future which cannot be altered. That’s not what I did.

 

[breakmov]

This is a follow up on one of my last posts. Where my brother in law was risking to be deported. His legal situation cleared and they let him stay.

Now that things went back to normal, I asked for an insight about his university. I asked, do you see him finishing the university (he has 3 or 4 years left). And I received 40.3.6-50

Isn't it easier to assume that the answers are always for you and about you, taking into account your concerns that led you to ask the question?

for example, in the initial topic you were worried that your brother-in-law would be deported and the family would possibly have to help with his situation....
..the response you got in that topic, 22.5 , I imagine it was for you and perhaps it was an image of your "willingness or capacity" to eventually also have to contribute some help in his situation.

... and so in this topic, a continuation of the other, I imagine...

You know that your brother-in-law ended up staying there with his situation stabilized, the possibility of you having to come to his aid has been put aside for now....

but even so, you continue to worry about the possibility of one day having to help him, even in the event that you "don't have much capacity or willingness" to do so...

...if you think this description is reasonable, then you will certainly understand that 40.3.6 -- 50 is also an answer for you, about yourself, related to your concern regarding your brother-in-law.

40.3.6 -- 50

" Release ..... Letting go of this worry would be a 'higher aspiration' on your part."

40.3 - Why do you think that "completing the course" is a more comfortable and elegant solution for you to quickly resolve your concern regarding your brother-in-law's situation, which you insist on carrying on your shoulders?

..which implies...

-What guarantees do you have that, even if he completes the course, his financial situation will be resolved and you will not have to eventually help him?

-"your brother-in-law's situation" is something you cannot control... why not decide for a "higher aspiration" and free yourself from this worry?

40.6- what if this "higher aspiration" could begin with a clear vision on your part of how to define and accurately hit this target?... this target, this "concern about what you cannot control"?




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