Will he forgive me? 32 to 50

[Emilka]

Hello,
I've hurt my partner, and, as a result, we broke up. After few days, it turns out that he does't really want to quit this, but he needs some time to "recover". Meanwhile he doesn't want to see me and not even talk to me - he's still waiting, as he said, "for a moment, when we can easily meet each other without a pain". I'm trying to be charitable, but I miss him and I'm afraid that he will change his mind and decide to definite breakup.

I asked what will be his feelings for me. 32.6 -> 50
Definitely, his emotions will transform, but in what way?
32.6 talks about situation that he felt hopeless about my behaviour, but he was also waiting for a change. Because he cared about me.
and 50 - radical change. I'm a bit at a loss, what does it mean? Will he resign? Will he forgive to build our relationship and try once more?

Please help.
Thank you.
Em

 

[moss elk]

Is it referring to you being constantly agitated about this, or him being so?
is it counsel for you to relax or a picture of his emotions being worked up?
(I have trouble with these sorts of questions about other peoples feelings and find it better to ask questions where You are the subject, then there is no confusion)

That being said, if you are truly remorseful about hurting him then you can show it by being patient and understanding of his need for some time. When you do meet you can express everything: how your heart is hurt knowing his has been and that you love him. Forgiveness is a process, easier for some than others, but once achieved can bring two people closer than they were before.

 

[sooo]

a thought

Perpetual motion requires two reciprocal forces. This is the idea behind 32. If one of those forces is removed it becomes a whirlwind, which is not a self-sustaining force but a force which is out of control until it eventually wears itself out.

That's what's boiling in his kettle.

 

[goddessliss]

Hi Emika, it sounds like his emotions are in a turmoil right now. I'm not sure of the use of your word charitable - it sounds like you feel he should get over it and not be wasting your time. - Liss

 

[Trojina]

I agree with Moss Elk who said

Is it referring to you being constantly agitated about this, or him being so?
is it counsel for you to relax or a picture of his emotions being worked up ?

Exactly. 99.9% of the time I would say your answers are going to be about you. So 32.6 is asking you to stop fretting and trying to set things straight and just let it be for now, Given what you said of the situation ...he wants to be left alone for a while, you want him to hurry up and forgive you, it seems you are doing the agitating here not him. I think this is clear advice for you. Give him time, settle down. In a roundabout way I think it bodes well for getting back together because it is saying if you can just stop fretting and trying to make something happen and just go along with how it is then maybe things will have a chance to sort themselves out.

So my view is this is advice for you. I think Yi was addressing your motive in asking the question. I find more often than not this is what it answers.

Oh I also think it bodes well because hexagram 32 will often show things going on just as they have been. In line 6 things only stand a chance of continuing well if you can put your anxieties aside for a while and settle down.

 

[sooo]

Before considering Yi's answer being about something other than what I've directly asked, I like to give the benefit of doubt that its answer is not just a shell game.

"The Conjurer," painted by Hieronymus Bosch. The painting accurately displays a performer doing the cups and balls routine, which has been practiced since Egyptian times. The shell game does have some origins in this old trick. The real trick of this painting is the pickpocket who is working for the conjurer. The pickpocket is robbing the spectator who is bent over.

That said, I think it's prudent to be sure we who ask our questions are not trying to pick Yi's pocket. That means first being honest with ourselves. Though I occasionally ask about another's thoughts and/or feelings, I try first to be sure of my own.