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Will I have to appear in court? His lawyer was asked to timetable for a hearing perhaps into next year, but there was no response. I have a feeling he has regrets and will withdraw or am I just being hopeful.

I'm sorry I can't interpret this. I think it's saying he will persist but would be grateful for a better interpretation. Thank you!

Will I have to appear in court?

Your reading resulted in the following hexagrams:

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Hexagram 59, Dispersing



Key Questions

Where and how can you be less rigid?
Where were the walls in this situation, and what can you see as they dissolve away?
As energy and vitality is liberated from old boundaries, where will it go?

Oracle

‘Dispersing, creating success.
The king assumes his temple.
Fruitful to cross the great river,
Constancy bears fruit.’

It is as if a great thaw brought the floods, and everything solid were swept away. All the walls – whether they divided, contained or sheltered – are gone. The familiar landmarks have vanished down the river, and there’s a clear view for miles over free-flowing waters. Perhaps this liberates the vital energy of the situation; perhaps it is utterly disorientating.

Definitions, dividing lines, agreements, bonds, established patterns of life and thought... all these can be Dispersed, their solidity revealed as an illusion. All that holds things together now is the constancy of the flow itself.

The king ‘assumes’ his temple: he draws near and enters it, and takes on his most important role as the people’s connection to spirits and ancestors. This can also be an inner process: centring your inner authority in your spiritual home; letting your decisions flow from that essential underlying source.

With this reconnection, it becomes possible to ‘cross the great river’ – which has already come to you. The dissolution of the old forms releases energy into new purpose and direction; staying true to the deep connection through the temple, it’s good to make the commitment and venture into the unknown.

Image

‘Wind moves above the stream: Dispersing.
The ancient kings made offerings to the Highest to establish the temples.’

Sequence

Dispersing follows from Hexagram 58, Opening:
‘Rejoicing and hence scattering it, and so Dispersing follows. Dispersing means spreading out.’

Pair

Dispersing forms a pair with Hexagram 60, Measuring:
‘Dispersing means spreading out: Measuring means stopping.’



Changing Lines


Line 2

‘Dispersing, flee to your support.
Regrets vanish.’


Line 5

‘Dispersing sweat, his great proclamation.
Dispersing the king’s residence,
Not a mistake.’


Hexagram 23, Stripping Away



Key Questions

What has worn out?
Is there a less painful way to let this go?
What is underneath the surface?

Oracle

‘Stripping away.
Fruitless to have a direction to go.’

The surfaces are cut and sliced away; the old and unviable is stripped back to expose the living core. This inevitable, natural process often feels like a flaying: the more you have invested of yourself in these old things, the more painful it will be.

It’s no good, at such times, to imagine the future and make plans. You need to bring your energy back to the centre and honour the process: this is a time to be transformed, not to act. Moreover, until the old is so utterly stripped from you that you have no choice but to think in new ways, you will only be able to re-create the old patterns.

Image

‘Mountain rests on the earth: Stripping Away.
The heights are generous, and there are tranquil homes below.’

Sequence

Stripping Away follows from Hexagram 22, Beauty:
‘Involved in brightening the appearance; this means success will be truly exhausted, and so Stripping Away follows.’

Pair

Stripping Away forms a pair with Hexagram 24, Returning:
‘Stripping away: rotten. Returning: turnaround.’
 

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Hi Wairua,

"Will I have to appear in court?"

59.2.5 to 23 ~ "Yes, you will have to go to court to receive judgment from the king regarding disbursements and your legal separation."

The Yi suggests this could happen soon, so his non-responsiveness to the timetable request might indicate that he is ready to accept the court's judgment.

Reconciliation does not appear to be in the cards ~ how do you feel about that reading?

all best
 

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Kia ora radiofreewill,

I sent him a text that I think may appeal to his sense of integrity. If he is able to approach me with honesty he may sacrifice court for the higher ideal of authenticity.

Line 2 He may hurry back to hide amongst his whanau/family. I think they would be unhappy with his behaviour and treatment of me. They may support his change of heart.

Line 5 He will let us go and although it will be hard he will stay where he is with no blame.

It’s hard to read the IChing when I really want to see what I want to see... Either way, thank you for your interpretation radiofreewill, I’ll keep posting on the development.

Arohanui <3
 

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My heart goes out to you, Wairua,

Since there are strong 'tribal' ties involved in your situation, can the elders help you find a satisfactory solution?

Lines 2 and 5 talk about him venting anger, and say that no harm will come to you from it ~ but that he will be hurting himself in the process.

So, perhaps, if he had a chance to 'blow off steam' to respected community members from your family and his, then he might soften and do the right thing?

It's possible that a timely visit from some men with gravitas could save him from a lot of pain in court...

Much love and many blessings!
 

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Hi radiofreewill,

We won't have time as the timetabling of the court hearing is to be confirmed by his lawyer today.

There were multiple connections he could have approached instead of using the legal system. But he couldn't accept the foundation of lies he had built under us. Instead he got wildly angry. He subserviced my father the week before Christmas, saying I was not contactable and followed it up with multiple (proven) lies about my character. The ex is 64yo and my Dad is 74yo, they are pretty much the male elders lol.

:-( I don't have the same levels of anguish now, though it's still scary and heart breaking. Hei aha, the sun still shines and we are blessed.

Much love to you also :) thank you.
 

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Very nice to have met you ~ I'm wishing you the best!
 

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Will he take us to court? 26.1 > 18

26 Controlled Power
Line-1
Legge: The first line, dynamic, shows its subject in a position of peril. It will be advantageous for him to stop his advance.
Wilhelm/Baynes: Danger is at hand. It furthers one to desist.

I think he’s going to withdraw, he still hasn’t given any direction and it’s been almost three weeks.


Will he try to repair the damage? 46.2.5 > 39

46 Pushing Upward
Line-2
Legge: The second line, dynamic, shows its subject with that sincerity which will make even the small offerings of the vernal sacrifice acceptable. There will be no error.

I’m not sure what vernal sacrifices would be but he is sincere in offering something. He is over his ego so maybe what has been sacrificed. Humility.

Line-5
Legge: The fifth line, magnetic, shows its subject firmly correct, and therefore enjoying good fortune. She ascends the stairs with all due ceremony.

Going up the stairs must be a positive for repairing. He is slowing right down to do it right.


I know I shouldn’t ask about others.. but I did ask: is he getting his divorce now? 15.2.3 > 7

15 Modesty

Trojina said on another thread about “Hexagram 15.2.3 is about modesty in the sense of being realistic, both feet on the ground. Seeing what is needed and doing it without fuss, but also realising sometimes what happens is not all down to you. So it's modesty in being aware of your part in things, of your place, of how and where your efforts fit in. It is also about being simply who you are...and this isn't always about being modest in the way we think of it. Hexagram 15 is not always encouraging you to take a back seat, be shy and unassuming....if it's your place to step up to the plate then you have to do so. False modesty must not get in the way of needed action. I have the idea Lise talks of hex 15 as like 2 birds with one wing and one eye each, together they can fly. I imagine 2 wings because there is a balance needed. Often in life we either over estimate or under estimate our abilities...or we misjudge what our part to play really is. Hexagram 15 always asks us to look at how real we are being here.”

Some background on this was that his wife was happy when he was processing the divorce and then was all of a sudden angry. I now know it’s because he stopped the divorce. I think he was caught up with extra money issues between them and an emotional attachment to his image in their marriage. Due to his decision he lost his connection with her, his older children and his grandchildren. Maybe this refers to the 7 Army, I’m a bit lost as to how or if this would affect the interpretation. But he definitely needs to step up to the plate and has misjudged what part he needed to play.


Line-2
Legge: Line two is magnetic, central, and in her proper place. She represents temperance that has "crowed” -- that is, has proclaimed itself.

Is advising that modesty is what is required at this time. He needs to have temperance in his attitude and behaviour.

Line-3
Legge: The third line, dynamic, shows the superior man of acknowledged merit. He will maintain his success to the end, and have good fortune.

This I think from what I read is the strongest line, the ego has balanced his emotions and he will be obedient to achieve the goal.

Appealing to his sense of integrity may have caused a shift. I’m quietly getting excited that things are starting to turning around. While I don’t know if this spells great relationships, no lawyers would be awesome.

Am I misinterpreting? Should I squash this sense of hope? If you have time, I’d appreciate any input.
 

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If I understand the situation correctly, this guy romanced you and told you that he was either divorced, or in the process of getting divorced, from the wife, and that now he was a 'free agent' ready to start a new life with you?

You had a child together, but then you found out that he wasn't divorced/getting divorced, after all? What happened then?

In what way do you feel that you appealed to his integrity with your message?

Is your preferred outcome that he will complete his divorce and marry you, no blame on you; or that he will guarantee your child support, while staying with his wife, no blame on him? What is your worst-case scenario?

My sense is that he will threaten court, but avoid court?

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If I understand the situation correctly, this guy romanced you and told you that he was either divorced, or in the process of getting divorced, from the wife, and that now he was a 'free agent' ready to start a new life with you?

You had a child together, but then you found out that he wasn't divorced/getting divorced, after all? What happened then?
The child came first, I insisted on divorce before buying home together. He filed then he didnt follow through amd I didnt find out for three years.
 

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I sent him a copy of his text to me, from two days before I guessed and left him. It was telling me we would marry when we were sorted...
I suggested he meant when he was sorted, of which he didnt intend to sort or he would have sorted :) as hes pretending he didnt know his divorce hadnt been processed. I figure he can only stay deluded so long and when he looks at it he will see how unjustly hes treated us.
My prefered outcome would be he divorces his wife, to prove he was going to. Paid my court costs as he should have at least tried to Sort it or talk to me before hand. Apologise for serving my father and sign all custody rights over to me.
Then taking our son and our safety into consideration first, I will treat him with the same honest decency I have always treated him with.
Worst case the courts force our son to visit before, for longer than hes ready and without supervision.
I dont want his child support and only hooked it up after he took legal action. It will have paid my legal fees by Sept next year, so far. I'm very unsure about any form of relationship, certainly not marriage. Giving in and going back to him would be a Very bad move.
Thank you for yor feedback radiofreewill, I hope we do avoid court as I cant afford it.
 

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Sorry about my typos :), fat thumbs on my mobile lol
They had been legally seperated for 7 years at the time of supposed divorce. Now 13 years, lucky number :)
 

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I dont want to believe he was never going to divorce as he also wanted me to spend my money on his/our bach in untitled land. :-( If he doesnt divorce it suggests that if he died, he was going to give everything of mine too. Thats just too henous to comprehend.
 

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At this point, I'd sit tight and wait to see what he does.

All options look bad for him...

Hang in there, you're a good person!
 

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As an update he is continuing to court. I have let my lawyer go due to costs and am not going to submit anything further because of the stress and not really knowing how to along. Our son is showing Autistic behaviours and his teacher has asked that I have him diagnosed. I believe he is and I asked

Does son have autism -> 49.1.2.4 > 48

49. Change
Line 1: Fastened using the leather of a yellow ox. Things are too fixed to change them.
Line 2: When the day is over, change is arrived at. Going brings good fortune. Without fault.
It takes some time before the change is happening. Things go well by going forward with this, it is not a mistake.
Line 4: Aversion goes away. There is trust in the change of command. Good fortune. There is sufficient trust in the changed rules and the way things are ruled. Initial resistance will go away. Things go well.

My interpretations is 49 change, line 1 yes he does and as it’s genetic it can’t change that. Line 2, it may take some time to have this confirmed. He has mild symptoms but they are interfering with his behaviour and especially his learning. I should continue to diagnosis. Line 4 My fears will leave and I can trust this will not leave me susceptible to the courts in anyway. 48 I find this difficult to interpret as it is positive and negative. I think in this case the well will become unavailable. I’m just not sure if that refers to me or the courts his father.

Either way I am determined to go through being open and honest with sons best intentions at heart. I can't afford to focus on court as son feels my fear. A concept the courts aren't familiar with and is interpreted as influence and manipulation.

I have so many issues on top of issues it is hard for me to see the light or anything clearly. If anyone could take the time to look at this for me I will be very grateful :confused:
 

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Hi sorry

what was the question ? Does son have autism? -> 49.1.2.4 > 48

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ok sure will give my interpretation shortly just need finish this work,

cheers
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Hi

Line 1 can be seen as like a butterfly coming to fruition, like i wouldnt act on an impulse as the child is still growing developing
Line 2 is describing acting at the correct time, too me anyway, so i wouldnt rush anything if possible
Line 4 is the crux of the matter act when you think this is a real issue, I believe he may have issues but may not be as bad as as he is being percieved, on a personal level my son has speech issues, however he passed his 6 year old test at 87% at the same time children who were speaking fluent Filipino and English didnt pass, which i thought was really weird. I thought he would fail for sure.
(ye have little faith steve lol)

I think if he may have "learning disabilities" how bad are they? and can you accept him for who he is, with the love and attention he deserve's.
I have also noticed my son has become very interested in drawing, i believe due to not being able to communicate like other kids. Like a deaf person that can see differently sought of thing.

48 i think is reflecting the stability or support from his mother or family,

In general the lines as i see it dont decpict someone in complete dissaray. I think yes there are issues, but who determines who is actually autistic, its a transitional way of thinking, maybe its us type of thing, and the way we percieve others, thats where i see 49 in all this,

Its hard to say without meeting him, but i would imagine he has good qualities from the reflection of the reading.

I did my best
Steve

More on 49.4
Wu: Regret disappears. Confidence abounds. Revolution will be auspicious.
Wing: A radical change is at hand. If your position is correct, your motives worthwhile and you are properly prepared, the new situation will bring great good fortune.
 
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Hi Steve

Thank you so much, your interpretation has brought some comfort. The letter from his teacher was pretty crushing and because it is coming from school and with the custody issues, I need to be addressing it immediately. But perhaps the not moving too fast could refer to any medication. I certainly won't be medicating him.
I work in Adult Education so I am skilled enough to support his learning disability, I love him and accept him unconditionally. My intuition tells me there will be strengths inside this and I need to tap those and bring out his best.
I think I'm in line with this now and I appreciate the time you've taken Steve. With so much happening it feels like the world is watching and my intentions are being questioned. I can't focus on this and my son says "Don't look at others Mum, look to your heart" and he touched my chest.
We will get through, thank you again for the peace of mind.


We have been referred to the hospital for assessment.
 

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Yes medical questions are always hard on the forum so you can only do or reflect with the information given, sounds like you are going through a tough time but sure you can get through. The thing to keep in my mind is this could be worse which is terrible but worth thinking about,

If i think of anything else i will update you

Steve
 

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Kia ora

Just coming back to update. He dropped from full custody to contact in October and this week withdrew his custody application altogether. He also didn't ring our son on his designated day though I'd said that would be fine.

Where will put relationship go from here? 45.1.2 58

A gathering in need of good leadership and an awareness of what motivates and drives. Keep intuition open, don't be guarded.

Will I get my money back? 64.2 35
Is likely but now is not the time to act.

I'm feeling quietly confident, my relationship with iching has grown. I can breath again. Thank you 💛
 

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Hi Wairua,

Thanks for the update ~ that's good news ~ I'm glad the Yi was helpful, too!

I like your follow on tosses and readings ~ it looks like you're in good shape to have a better 2017.

Happy Holidays!
 

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Hi Wairua,

Thanks for the update ~ that's good news ~ I'm glad the Yi was helpful, too!

I like your follow on tosses and readings ~ it looks like you're in good shape to have a better 2017.

Happy Holidays!
I can't find the thank you button. But I am very :bows:
 

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