Will this person move/our future together?

[CerissaG]

Hi everyone!

I’m new here but not to iching. Usually I can be able to interpret readings on my own, but this time I’m reaching out for some help. My questions are about a guy that I was talking to/casually been with. We did have a falling out with a while back (3 months ago) and we have not been in contact since. I pretty much left the ball in his court. The last time we talked, he said he was trying to just move on from TX and back to his home in FL. He said his lease is up in January of next year and so I know I have a few months left to try and reconcile with him. I know he’ll eventually come back around. Anyways, my questions were this... (and yes I know it’s not ideal to ask the iching for confirmation several different times, but I had to for clarity).

Will X remain here in TX for another year?
Hexagram 7.2.6. To 23 (doesn’t 23 mean splitting, getting rid of?).
Hexagram 50.2. To 56 (56 is tricky because usually that can mean either you’re in a place that you don’t enjoy or are not happy with, or it could mean he will literally travel and move).
Hexagram 32.4. To 46 (line 4 usually means empty town? Whenever I get this line, the thing I am inquiring about is not physically present).
Judging from these hexagrams, I believe he will certainly move?

Will X let me move with him to FL? (if we do reconcile)?
Hexagram 58.1.2. To 45
Hexagram 42.5. To 27
Hexagram 31 unchanging
All positive answers I believe!

Will X make me his gf before December 2019?
Hexagram 46.1. To 11 usually this reading mean yes for me, but what do you guys think?

Thank you so much for everyone’s help!

 

[diamanda]

Will X remain here in TX for another year?
7.2.6 > 23 He's got others apart from you, he doesn't want any of you.
50.2 > 56 He's already arranging a new servant somewhere far from there.
32.4 > 46 No, there's nothing holding him there.

Will X let me move with him to FL? (if we do reconcile)?
58.1.2 > 45 He will probably want to keep contact, but he's also dating others.
42.5 > 27 He will probably want to keep contact, but he'll leave you empty-mouthed.
31 unchanging He will remain as passive as he is.

Will X make me his gf before December 2019?
46.1 > 11 If you are servile enough, beg enough, and persist in chasing him maybe he will. You'll need to make peace with the situation as it is.

 

[CerissaG]

Hello diamanda!

So I guess that means he’s definitely moving back home to FL in January. But what did you mean about he’s got others apart from me and that he wants none of me? The question I asked is if he would be staying here in TX for another year (nothing to do with me inquiring about his interaction with me). So wouldn’t the answer be reflecting his current stay in a TX rather than about me?

Also, isn’t 31 unchanging all about influence and being able to create the situation in your favor?

And I wanted to ask one more thing, does he still have my number saved? I got hexagram 58.1.2.4. To 8. I’ll take that as a yes?

 

[diamanda]

But what did you mean about he’s got others apart from me and that he wants none of me?

I meant that he's seeing other women too. He doesn't want you, and he doesn't want to stay with the other women either.

wouldn’t the answer be reflecting his current stay in a TX rather than about me?

If you ask the exact same question three times, you'll get a variety of viewpoints. So the answer spoke about his criteria of staying there or not. His criteria are that he doesn't fancy any of the women he's with in TX.

isn’t 31 unchanging all about influence

31 is a passive way to attract. It shows a man trying to win over a woman. He's obviously not doing that with you, so either he'll continue to be passive, and/or he's wooing someone else. When a man is wooing a woman, it's hard to not notice as it's obvious.

does he still have my number saved? 58.1.2.4 > 8 Yes he does.

 

[marybluesky]

Hello CerissaG!

Will X remain here in TX for another year?
Hexagram 7.2.6. To 23
He is determined to leave and preparing everything for that.
Hexagram 50.2. To 56
He feels as people in TX won't be good companions for him, so is willing to go.
32.4. To 46
There is nothing to keep him in TX, so he'll go where he can make a better life.

Will X let me move with him to FL? (if we do reconcile)?
Hexagram 58.1.2. To 45
If you contact him and win his confidence, yes.
Hexagram 42.5. To 27
If he senses you want him wholeheartedly and can nourish him, yes.
Hexagram 31 unchanging
The idea attracts him.

Will X make me his gf before December 2019? Hexagram 46.1. To 11
Again, if you win his confidence, yes.

Good luck!

 

[CerissaG]

Thank you Marybluesky! What a lovely encouraging reading! I hope your prediction is accurate because I'm trying to remain positive!

However, diamanda's interpretation is that 31 unchanging isn't really an encouraging reading in my case. I guess it can go either or at this point.

So Diamanda, you did say 46.1 to 11 would go in my favor if I persisted him and kept on trying. I mean marybluesky gave me a really positive reading, and so did your last answer. Do you have any other suggestions/advice for me in regards to these castings? I believe from what you're saying is that I can get the guy and become his gf, but it will just be an empty unsatisfying relationship? Am I correct?

 

[diamanda]

Hi CerissaG, no I didn't say that, I said that if you really strive to chase him then maybe yes.

As about an empty and unsatisfying relationship, that's sort of a no-brainer as the guy, sadly, is obviously not in love with you. Of course you can ask a more specific question for clarification, for example "what type of relationship can we have if I really strive to get him?".

 

[CerissaG]

Hey so I think I have an update. I looked at his Instagram story through another account and I saw him posting a picture of another girl.

I asked the iching if he was seeing someone and I got...
Hexagram 17.4. To 3
hexagram 18.2.3. To 23

After three months of no contact, I’ll just text him myself tomorrow and see if he still even has my number or will respond. I asked if he would be open to meeting up with me for lunch for some closure and I got
Hexagram 35 unchanging.

ugh I’m just ready to move on if any of this is true.

 

[CerissaG]

Bump

 

[diamanda]

Sorry to hear that CerissaG.

I asked the iching if he was seeing someone
17.4 > 3 No, she's just another one of many followers.
18.2.3 > 23 The woman can't guess, the man is poisonous.

Please don't cast the exact same question again and again. If you want clarification, try for a different variation of the question, for example "what is his relation with this woman". It really waters down the results to ask the same again and again.

 

[CerissaG]

Sorry to hear that CerissaG.

Please don't cast the exact same question again and again. If you want clarification, try for a different variation of the question, for example "what is his relation with this woman". It really waters down the results to ask the same again and again.

Great, thank you diamanda! I will be mindful of that! What about hexagram 35 unchanging for if he would be open to having lunch with me so I can have my closure? I’m going to contact him today, wish me luck!

 

[diamanda]

I asked if he would be open to meeting up with me for lunch for some closure and I got
Hexagram 35 unchanging
He would be open to meet up and have sex.

I am totally wishing you luck... but I really don't think this guy is a keeper :-/

 

[CerissaG]

So I have a huge update.

I finally reached out to him via text, only to find out he was seeing his ex (now his current gf), and she’s two weeks pregnant. We got into a huge fight because all I wanted was for him to call me so I could have my closure. He refused and blocked me. He was my ex boss so I decided to be petty and tell everyone we hooked up just to screw him over and get him fired. I was pissed.

Anyways after he had blocked me, he then unblocked me and apologized. We had a good twenty minutes worth of talking heart to heart. He said he was sorry for hurting me, and that he was dealing with his own problems trying to get his current gf to get an abortion etc...

All I know is that it’s over and I need to for sure move on. I at least got my closure I needed to so hopefully the pain will subside.

Why did Iching give me such positive answers like 35 and 46.1 to 11? His heart is clearly with someone else.

 

[Trojina]

You think trying to persuade his girlfriend to have an abortion shows his heart is with her ? He clearly doesn't give a shit about her. What makes you think he has a 'heart' at all ? He clearly has another part, a bit further down the body, that is fully operational but he doesn't even want to take responsibility for the consequences of that.

Why did Iching give me such positive answers like 35 and 46.1 to 11? His heart is clearly with someone else

You can't put I Ching answers in place of what someone is actually showing you in their actions. It's a very common mistake. Someone doesn't hear from someone and that's their answer actually isn't it. Not hearing from someone, unless they are dead/incapacitated, tells you they aren't interested. But that's hard to bear naturally so this is when many start to ask Yi about it because Yi will have to produce an answer of some kind and so the relationship can continue in a way between you and him via Yi. So what you did is ask many many questions to evade the reality he's not in touch.


This wasn't about Yi giving you 'positive' answers, it was really about you struggling to come to terms with his irresponsible and heartless behaviour.

He clearly isn't someone to get tied up with and so be glad you aren't in the position of his current girlfriend. I can't think of much worse than the man you are with rejecting your baby - that's not love or anything like it.


You totally misled yourself with those questions - like this

Judging from these hexagrams, I believe he will certainly move?

Deciding what other people will or won't do for sure via the I Ching is a mistake. You decided it meant that and then it led to more questions and more questions till you totally convinced yourself of something that was not in any way connected to what was really happening for him. This is very common so it's not a personal criticism I'm just saying this looks like what happened here for you.


To avoid this make the questions about you - just one question for example 'what is my best stance to him now...' or any question with you in it will tell you what you actually need to know and also naturally reflect some of his position. Asking what other people will do is largely not a useful way to consult. Occasionally maybe but on the whole, not useful.