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After 4 years of relationship (close to marriage), my boyfriend (now ex) and I broke up September of last year. Still loving him deeply, I consulted I-Ching asking it to comment on my chances of us being husband and wife. It came back with Hexagram 32 with changing line 1 (Six in the beginning). As I am new to this, I am having difficulty in interpreting it. Can you please help?
 
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Hello Seeking,

I'm not sure how in depth you would like to go into the reading. I want to offer a response to your question in a timely manner. Given that I can only devote a short time to this, at the moment, I offer the following (very) short version:

You are advised to do two things. One, is to stand firm and not change your direction. This could mean to persevere in the relationship or it may pertain to some principle which you hold to. Whatever it is, don't change that direction. Second, the change line and the hexagram it changes into, both advise you to take it easy, not push ahead without being certain that right is on your side. Its a time when your will has power. The caution is to make sure that your power is in harmony with the principles of correctness. But, don't give up on your moral direction or deeper convictions. They are to endure.

If you would like to discuss the actual workings of your changes in greater detail, please just ask away. Either I or one of the other ?Chingers?
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Hi Candid, thanks for the response.

The problem is both of us are not in touch currently. Back in Jan, I told him that I could not see him as a friend as it was too traumatic and there were a number of things in my life that I had to pick up and sort out. Given this situation, it seems to me that I should carry on what I am doing i.e. getting on with my life. I tried very hard previously to patch up our relationship but each time was rejected. I feel I have got to a stage where he has to make the next move, if there is any. The ball has always been in his court, never mine.

But to be more precise, does the hexagram tell me that there is a possibilty of reunion? I've done a little searching and some texts suggest this is the ancient hexagram of marriage. I am obviously reading too lightly into this or hoping for something that will not happen.

Regards.
 
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Dear Seeking,

The answer is, yes. #32 does represent a union of the sexes in marriage. Whether this indicates an actual reunion with the one you speak of or refers to the elements involved with gaining a proper outlook, I'm not sure.

"In the sphere of social relationships, the hexagram represents the institution of marriage as the enduring union of the sexes. During courtship the young man subordinates himself to the girl, but in marriage, which is represented by the coming together of the eldest son and the eldest daughter, the husband is the directing and moving force outside, while the wife, inside, is gentle and submissive." ~Wilhelm

However its the change line which adds the cautionary note:

Six at the beginning [yin at bottom]means: Seeking duration too hastily brings misfortune persistently. Nothing that would further. Whatever endures can be created only gradually by long- continued work and careful reflection. He who demands too much at once is acting precipitately, and because he attempts too much, he ends by succeeding in nothing.

This then changes into #34, Power of the Great.

The hexagram points to a time when inner worth mounts with great force and comes to power. But its strength has already passed beyond the median line, hence there's danger that one may rely entirely on one's own power and forget to ask what's right. There's danger too that, being intent on movement, we may not wait for the right time. Therefore the added statement that perseverance furthers. For that's truly great power which doesn't degenerate into mere force but remains inwardly united with the fundamental principles of right and of justice.

It would be helpful to know which text translation you are using so that I'm not being redundant in posting it here.

"Given this situation, it seems to me that I should carry on what I am doing i.e. getting on with my life." This is the council, stand firm in this, endure in your direction. In addition, endurance is self perpetuating and its not an error to persevere in it.

As has been mentioned before in some of our other messages, asking for a yes or no answer, limits our field of understanding the Ching's answer. A better question might have been, what is the best way to approach this situation? I believe this is what the I Ching has actually answered.

Hope this helps. Someone else may have a different interpretation. If so, I hope they will contribute additional insight to your question.
 

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