Will x change his mind about ending the relationship?

[meganj]

I got 49.5>55

I've been getting a bunch of mixed readings. Not sure what to think of it all I know I should take it day by day though. I'm moving on with my life and he is too, we split one week ago.
But we both joined the same dating site, he looked at my profile first, then curious I looked at his.
I wasn't really sad because we did agree to move on, but I was just a little shocked that he would look at mine even though he does know I'm on the site, I thought maybe he wouldn't feed into his own curiosity...
I still care for him a lot, and I feel he does too but we are separated.

 

[meganj]

Will x eventually want to work things out with me?
Hex 9.4>1
Will x come back someday 24.1.2>7

 

[meganj]

Am I crazy to think that there may be a chance for us still?

 

[blue_angel]

49.5>55 is like, 55 there's too many worries or too much burden. 49- a change needs to happen, line 5- you know the answer of what would be right. Right for you or right for both of you and you need to have confidence in what you believe is right. So I'm not sure how that relates, I do not know the situation of your break up.

 

[blue_angel]

9.4>1 be creative, work on small things, get rid of the fears or worry, build trust, and be sincere.

 

[blue_angel]

24.1.2>7 you're marshalling together your forces like an army, allow yourself a chance to recover, then correct what went wrong, and act according to what is good, rebuild, or start over. So it seems from all of the answers there is a possibility you can work things out. But it seems the answers pertain to you, working with him, not necessarily him coming to you.

 

[cornucopia63]

I got 49.5>55

I've been getting a bunch of mixed readings. Not sure what to think of it all I know I should take it day by day though. I'm moving on with my life and he is too, we split one week ago.
But we both joined the same dating site, he looked at my profile first, then curious I looked at his.
I wasn't really sad because we did agree to move on, but I was just a little shocked that he would look at mine even though he does know I'm on the site, I thought maybe he wouldn't feed into his own curiosity...
I still care for him a lot, and I feel he does too but we are separated.

Go ahead and make the necessary changes; you know what to do. You don't need to consult the oracle, don't call for advice: Just do it! You will meet with success. Fear not.

During a period of abundance, it benefits one to show benevolence, to share the fruit of one’s good fortune. This reading bodes well to contact him in any close-knit group like a dating site

 

[meganj]

Whenever I see 7 I instantly think "discipline" I have no doubt in my mind we are both gathering our armies.
24 I understand is the beginning of a cycle, "the 7th day comes return" I understand this may take some time to develop... In the image of 24 it says "the return of health after illness, the return of understanding after estrangement: everything must be treated tenderly and with care at the beginning so that the return may lead to flowering." So yes rest and recoup is need, I need to begin to gather my inner forces again so that if the opportunity does arise again I will be ready and healthier.
"Return from a short distance" line 1 - indicates he is not going to go very far from me, and to not allow negativity approach my thoughts about the pas perhaps, otherwise it would be a bad result.
If we are in good company then a decision will perhaps will be made to return to this relationship, but can he put aside pride? Can I put aside pride? I guess we will see.

So a bit more background info on the situation.
My ex had been msging other women telling them they were beautiful, hot, sexy, he told me you know he would NEVER cheat on me but I always thought that was intention to cheat. I became upset and we argued all the time, and last Saturday I saw him comment on a couple of women's photos saying they were hot!
I couldn't stand it anymore so I left.
Well when we talked about it he said lots of his friends who are married do that kind of stuff and they can do whatever they want.. Really? Haha
Now because I'm very jealous and possessive person (Taurus) I thought well hey is this my problem or am I putting too many limitations on love? I'm very open minded and sometimes this can get me into trouble and cause me to see illusions where there in fact is the truth.
So after thinking about it for days I thought well I'm not entirely sure.... Am I not being free enough? Love is free.. This man is a very free and wild person. Maybe his reality is different than mine?
The limitations we put on other people well should there even be limitations? And this goes back to the old saying "if you love someone set them free". Love should be free but why do I feel a little crushed when he tells an attractive women she's attractive without feeling of guilt? This is my fear speaking of being left alone, of not being good enough... While I do believe in freedom and self - expression I'm not sure if these are old ideas I'm hanging onto.

 

[meganj]

Should I explore the possibilities of an open relationship in the future? I can't quite figure out love.

 

[meganj]

I say that with the intention of figuring myself and love a bit more, in this relationship I just had with my ex or the next... I think it would definitely be something to explore. To be free.

 

[cornucopia63]

Hello Here's my opinion on the situation. Don't let his behaviour confuse you. I don't know how old you are and how experienced you are with spoilt men used to getting what they want in relationships but you should have high standards. Many men test the waters to see how far they can go and what they can get away with. Open relationship? What's that? Unless that's what you want I would tell him you want a monogamous committed relationship. Is he in or out? And see how he responds. Like most men who are selfish he's playing with you because he knows he can get away with it. If you agree to his terms then you've lost the game. Stick to your high standards you'll not regret it no matter what happens and he'll respect you in the end. Hexagram 7 is about setting standards and rules and order and discipline in your relationships. Be like a good general in the army. Good luck!

 

[blue_angel]

Our readings I feel are unique to us. Regardless of what I or anyone else says they think it means, it will ultimately have to be something that resonates with you, and that is how you begin to build your own relationship with the Iching. I now wonder if you already had in mind all you have shared before asking these questions. Perhaps you are awakening to your own nature. After all half of our intimate relationships in life seem to be
"meant to be", no not meant to be forever
necessarily, or "soulmates", but meant to be
because they bring us closer to our path, they
help us grow.

24. Line 1- "The straight and narrow directions are heedless of most of this world. The most respectable man in the world should be permitted, if it is his choice, to enjoy women's toes a little too much. Its these little flaws in the art of our lives that let evil spirits out. Life needs to explore its options and this can't always be done only inside of the mind." By Bradford Hatcher


24. Line 2- "who has strength can return thus matter-of-course that nobody will contest his decision l. Everybody will immediately accept it as the natural thing to do. One's own ease makes ease with others. Everyone will have the freedom to be what he is, which is the base of good relations." By LiSe

The way I have personally experienced 24 was a return to my path. Meaning I was closer to my true nature. Or I was coming to a turning point in my path. 7- for me is like I said getting all my elements together, or marshalling my forces, and then knowing when its best to advance or retreat and rest, knowing how to have the best interest of everyone involved, and lead by example.

55 for me often means something has reached its peak and is about to decline or has declined because of just too much. Couldn't handle, the over abundance of worry or fear or jealousy or fighting. 49 is one of my favorites because I know when I receive this a major change is going to happen and I will have grown, learned, and when I come out on the other side I am no longer confused, and I often find myself in a new stage or adventure after 49 has passed. Two books you might enjoy are "The 5 Languages Of Love" by Gary Chaplain and "Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life" by Dr. Dwaye Dyer.

Best wishes,

Blue_Angel

 

[meganj]

Thanks loves...
I'll keep all that in mind.
Right now I'm focusing all my energy building the new, I can't help it though sometimes my mind and heart wanders to the past instead of staying in the present.