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Dear isacosmo, thanks for your kind words. I'll follow your advice but let me try to understand it first, I am not super clear by what you mean "what you have to have on your mind regarding your sorrow that will help you". You mean as in "how should I think about my sorrow?" or "what should I think about instead of my sorrow"? or something else (like what should appear in my mind like a vision or symbol or feeling that might help me?)Hi Juniperist
Yes, we have all been there before.
I can give you one advice: ask the I Ching what do you have to have on your mind re. your sorrow that will help you right now.
It always helps me. It is far from asking 'how do X feel about me" (and, believe me, I have asked this hundreds of times), and of course far from enough right now. But I know it will help you clear yr head a little.
My best regards.
Thanks isacosmo...It'd be more like
"What advice the IC can give me so that I can stand my sorrow".
No problem Atalanta, what you say does not come across as condescending. Yes, I think there was a sense of showing off - but mostly to myself - saying "look I am here" "I can be here, I have an history with this city, I have friends, independent from him - I am fine", and sure, I felt a little pride but it was also actually pretty painful for me to be there and not be in contact with him. So that was a form of posturing as well.I totally get what you mean re: showing him that you went there knowing that he wasn't there. Maybe it's not posturing as much as "showing your work"? Like, "look, I'm healing, I'm doing what I'm supposed to be doing". It's pride, but a healthy pride, almost like a child showing off a drawing to their parents (hope that doesn't come across as condescending, more to illustrate that I think there's something really natural in the urge to want our efforts to be recognized).
Or, another idea: maybe the inner truth he realized was about himself, that by liking your posts he was posturing, pretending nothing had changed?
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).