Clarity,
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you see with my empathy it is like I download the whole energetic spectrum of the person the second I meet them. I literally know where they are at life, what emotions they felt in recent years were dominant, where they are heading
This somewhat works. But I have no idea how to shield myself from their energies. It's not possible as I tried a lot of things... the only thing that somehow worked is to transform the energy there [not by trying to convince the wolf he is a sheep ]
I have no idea you keep mentioning New Age, you have some sort of a grudge on it? Must be because I haven't mentioned it even once and I don't see a connection.
I just don't fancy being forced to spend 8.5 hours every day with negative people who would stab me in the back with mere occasion presenting itself. That's not new age, that's just common sense. That's all.
Plus with that empathetic gift/curse I have, I already know what sort of energies I would be getting from them. Thank you, but no
let me give you an example how a typical conversation goes. We go out for lunch /two guys and me/ and one starts some negative talk how he is having a bad day (another one ��), okay so I try to change the topic and start talking about how I want to install a new floor in my flat and how I'm looking for a decent materials etc etc
…then the other one starts saying how the people in this country just want to use you, how all Carpenters are full of sh* and what not. Okay so I change the topic again and talk about the fact I'm looking for a new flat and then he again breaks in saying how I should do something to make sure I can fuc* over my landlords to have some leverage against them because they will probably try to defraud me and how he has this approach that in situations like this he always makes sure he will cheat the other person not the other way around
And this goes on day after day can u see how it can get draining for someone like me who feels it all 300% more than a "normal" person?
To conclude I want to say that I get it what the I ching is trying to say, and I will do my best to not divide myself in that team
No, you are mistaken. Sorry. You stopping believing in sun doesn't mean it won't burn you if you don't put a suncream on your skin. (You like to add words here and there that often change the feeling of the sentence- for example "energetic infection" - that's pretty funny ) You see I learned that the things that I feel have a name and it is ''being an empath'' not so long ago. I was pretty clueless for all my life, always wondering what the hell is wrong with me. Now when I know, and I use this ''label'' people are mostly reacting in the way as you are - denying, rationalizing and sometimes ridiculing. Imagine a whole planet with deaf people, and there's 10% who can hear sounds. For them, hearing is pretty normal and nothing spectaular or metaphysical. Just another way of perceiving things. Another sense. However the rest can't grasp their idea. An NO, I don't write this due to having some sort of ''need to feel special'' because I heard such opinions too. People are funny.Perhaps rather than seek to 'shield' yourself from their energies it may serve better to alter your beliefs somewhat about your susceptibility to toxicity and energetic infection from people ? Sure there is something to it, this energy transfer stuff, other people do affect us, but I wonder, given the 13.2 whether your belief that you are somehow 'cursed' or gifted by being an empath only segregates you from other people ?
As far as I know new age is pretty young, and its a collage of much, much older ideas. but it's convenient to ridicule those ideas mixed up in the new age, because you think you can dump them all at once. unfortunately, its not that simple and things like life energy etc exists. You just projecting some things onto me for some reason.Your beliefs stem from/are influenced by the New Age movement so yes you mention it. You don't use the word 'new age' but your beliefs about how you get infected by people's energy, stuff about needing to 'shield ' yourself, the whole thing about only being around positivity it's all new age stuff.
Youre trying to put something in my mouth that is not true. I am not sure what is that about. I have nothing to do with new age, maybe you have some problem with NE but that has nothing to do with me. You may not like what it is that these people say - you may not agree with what they say, but there is no question that they’ve said it. For you to pose this -would be at the best, a misintepretation of what I’ve been saying, at the worst, some kind of angry finger wagging in my direction. So don’t do that, okay? It’s not the way to have a discussion. So let’s be clear what we’re talking about here. It’s not my theory, belief or opinion about what I’ve experienced. I’m reporting what I experienced.but it can help to be aware of the basis of your beliefs about how energies work between people and so on..
and why they are a pain in the butt? because their lifestyles. health habits and overall "maturity" is so low that it causes the mentioned outcome. it's all connected. Admitting it doesn't make it better. And I admitted it long time ago. LOLYes that's right it is common sense. What you say here has nothing to do with these people's lifestyles or health habits or level of spiritual evolution it's just well you don't want to be with them as they are a pain in butt. My point was why not just admit that to yourself than worry about shielding from toxicity, that might separate you from them either further.
words are really bad and it's tough to explain a lot of things using language. You formulated the question in a way so that I could admit yes I am sensitive and so that you can deny the whole empath thing.which makes me wonder if what you really mean is that you are a sensitive person, like a sponge, soaking up atmosphere ?
no, you don't understand. I always make the mistake of trying to explain myself and it's a bad idea. Whatever I will say you will just do everything to prove I am wrong. That doesn't make sense to me.Also I really don't like when someone changes the things I said. I wrote "We go out for lunch /two guys and me/ and one starts some negative talk how he is having a bad day (another one 😉, okay so I recognise that say something about it to acknowledge that and wind him up sometimes, try to change the topic and start talking about how I want to install a new floor". Why did you deliberately edited my sentence?One guy tells you he's having a bad day. You feel that is 'negative talk' and so talk about your flooring ? Why ? As I read it it sounds like you refusing to acknowledge his bad day and just going on to flooring. Like this ?
NO!.. could it be they would like you not to change the topic but take on board what they are saying ?
ah yes, clever move - like I was the problem nice tryYes I see how it's draining and I don't mean to diminish how difficult it must be for you and sorry if I have given that impression, but these people still have lunch with you so actually you are still seen as a buddy ? People don't have lunch with enemies.
well they joined the company far later than I did, and it's not like a choice everyone can go to take a break alone.Well it sounds to me like they still seem to like you and see you as part of the team so that's a bonus. Let us know how you get on.
heh!Might I ask how old are you, whether youre a man or a woman and where do you work?Every work place has it's own culture and sometimes people do bond a great deal through complaining.
How come you're using this new age'ish tool? I saw a New Age guru recommending I Ching. It must be phony then! See how easy is to undermine anything?and you Trojina have a good bit of anger in you
Now not everything new age is to be dismissed, after all many would say the way we write of Yi here is pretty new agey but it can help to be aware of the basis of your beliefs about how energies work between people and so on..
heh!Might I ask how old are you, whether youre a man or a woman and where do you work?
You have full right to be sceptical but trying to convince me, a person who is experiencing all this, that I am not experiencing it is just comical. But that is because you can't admit it because those are your beliefs.
I dont agree, I assume this is due to English not being my 1st language. It is funny that you find my answers/explanations like that and not Trojina who deliberately cut out part of my sentence where I clearly stated how I am acknowledging and winding up that person when he is complaining all the time. Also, I don't ''only speak badly and pejoratively'' about the people at my workplace - a correct way to say this is ''I only speak about people at my work who are causing problems'' because there are others [which I mentioned in the thread] that are 100% OK but I don't have any issues with them so they are irrelevant to this topic. Understanding and compassion, this is a typical understanding of the word ''empathy'' which unfortunately has nothing to do with being an empath as the word empathy means only that ''one is able to understand or share the feelings of another'' - as I said, language is very limited. Now, when you type ''empath'' google produces this empath''ˈɛmpaθ/Submitnoun(chiefly in science fiction) a person with the paranormal ability to perceive the mental or emotional state of another individual.''and THIS is the correct depiction of empathy for me. It's also comical they said ''chiefly in science fiction'' HOWEVER I agree this thread went onto complete side track when Trojina was trying to prove I was the sole cause of my own misery. Now I am being blamed as someone spreading negative energy. Not sure why. Doesn't matter, I also don't feel this being productive. I only wanted to know whether I should start to look for another job or not. The only person who seems unmoved and providing feedback lack of ego responses here in the recent messages is Rosada. And to be honest, I shouldn't even reply to the original Trojina post - I knew it won't up well. Lesson learned. I want to thank everyone involved and all the best. No harm intended. PS. Writing that you won't be answering to my further posts until I change my attitude is childish at best. I would suggest re-reading the whole topic and seeing the mistakes Trojina did.When you describe their behaviour, it reminds me very much on your own behaviour here in this thread. To be honest I find that you spread a lot of negative energy, self-righteousness and disrespect, Mr. Kind. You only speak badly and pejoratively about the people at your workplace. I don't sense any understanding or compassion for their fate -- but this is excactly what I would expect from an reflecting, empathic person.
And this is the answer I was looking for - thank you!!! I will be back with some hexagrams in 2 months, after the dust settles and Trojina and Equinox forget about this post. Take care everyoneAnyway, after thinking about all of this it seems to me your lesson here is not so much to think or yourself as being inappropriate for feeling uncomfortable around people who's values are not your own, but rather to find a way to be yourself around them without offending them or compromising your own beliefs. I think the lines 3.4.5 tell how this is to be done - don't criticize or join in with negative behavior, maintain your boundaries, and be alert for those who may turn out to be potential allies after all.
I asked "What do I need to realize in this current position?" and got Hex 13.2>1
My late husband was an empath. He had a particular gift for music. He would get up in the morning and immediately put on a record that absolutely matched the mood of the day. He explained that he could first hear it in his mind when he woke up. He could fix anything and could find anything. His inner radar was that accurate. He died and we had never known he was ill up until a couple of months before he died when he took a wrong turn. In 45 years he'd never gotten lost or missed a turn in his life. But he had a hell of a time with personal relationships. He'd shake hands with someone and THEIR life would flash before his eyes! I just mention this to validate that the phenomenon is real.
And this is the answer I was looking for - thank you!!! I will be back with some hexagrams in 2 months, after the dust settles and Trojina and Equinox forget about this post. Take care everyone
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).