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I do not WANT to end it. I want it to work out...
Our values are at odds in that he lives in a third world country and I'm in the USA. I am not wealthy -- i'm lower middle class but from his standpoint he is looking "up" at me. He has the chance to move here and improve his life, and our life together, but he is unwilling to move for a number of reasons. When I offered to go there, I said i would not be able to live under certain conditions, but i offerred to rent an apartment where we both could live. He said he wasnt willing to agree to that. So either i liv with him there on his terms or no deal. As it is I am making large sacrifices to be with him. I do not see him making any compromises himself. So I am wondering if i should end it now (even tho i do not want to) bc i cannot see how the big issues (which are financial and geography at this point) can be overcome. In my view they cannot change for the better without motion from him. And he is not (currently) moving.Maybe you are both interested in only having this relationship if it would work the way you want and it seems you two may want two different things. 18.6 could also be seen as a line advising you against allowing others to influence you in such a way as to compromise the values that are truly important to you. Again. Are your values at odds? //
Finally the questions you asked are about breaking up. I would suggest asking follow up questions about the trying to work things out/trying to make things work and how that might pan out.
Interesting answer to your question about will you be able to work things out with v. It reads to me as if the I Ching is suggesting that working things out does not necessarily mean committing to a life together. 13.1 sounds like you are being advised that you are not bound to him, you are still free to come or go as you please (and perhaps it is important to maintain this stance in order to have the power to influence change) and then 13.5 suggests you can be together and even get passed the issues but then 56 sounds like you will move on. So perhaps "working it out" means rethinking what the potential of this relationship is. I think you're being advised not to get so close that to disentangle yourself would require a 50.4 break up. Rather, maintain your 13.1 stance. Go to see him as you would go to see a friend, have a wonderful time, 13.5, and then 56. Travel on.
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
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+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).