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I didn't mean anything specific by the term misbehavior, sorry if that stung.
It sounds like it will be difficult to keep a sense of relationship going if his being "in the moment" precludes a commitment to his part of that process. I'm not trying to say that it will do so, just wondering if that's where the rub comes for you and imagining how I might feel in a similar circumstance.
Rinda
61 throws one back on themselves, and withholding judgments until time reveals more. The belief expressed in 61 is not in another but in ones self, calling upon ones own inner resources. Throwing in the towel wouldn’t be acting from your inner truth, pining away wouldn’t be acting from your inner truth. So, neither holding on nor giving up is the result of inner truth.
Another feature of 61 is that of being in synch with the inner truth of another, but that happens only when the other is also in touch with their inner truth. While this doesn’t guarantee a ‘live happily ever after’ outcome, it does guarantee that mutual contact and influence can endure. Relationships which are based on 61 can often last a lifetime, or perhaps longer.
Food for thought, thank you!
If you had drawn a changing line for the 6th line, that line would be meaningful As it is, your answer lies within the body of the hexagram itself without reference to the following lines.
The hexagram may be telling you use this opportunity to note how he behaves when he believes he is in total control, when there are no apparent consequences to misbehavior. Then you will see him as he is, his inner truth, and you will have no trouble deciding what you want to do.
What Stevev said....
I'm just noting your reference to the "following lines" and "the body of the hexagram itself"... Is not the 6th line a part of the hexagram itself? Where is the body, and where are the following lines?
I see. Okay, so what is the part about pigs & fishes? My book says "Use a pig and a fish for the offering", while other interpretations I have come across on the web talk about how pigs and fishes are stubborn...?
And what is the definition of "crossing the Great Stream" -- or is that a metaphor for whatever one is asking about?
Hi August Moon,
You seem to understand his 'out of sight out of mind' approach perfectly and you even seem to approve of it. And yet, you feel that you need to ask how he feels about you and you also wonder whether you should hold on or let go.
Thing is, you can understand something conceptually and yet not be comfortable with it. It's for you to decide, like Trojan said, whether you can put up with it or not.
" "How does James truly feel about me?" and I got 10.3,5, changing to 14."
Hex 10.3 he knows that if he messes up then you will bite him, but if he appears to be acting stupid he is doing it for you, I think he is being sincere.
Hex 10.5 he knows that his conduct must be beyond reproach, he knows not to mess up.
Hex 14 he thinks of you as someone very important to him, someone rich in virtues, someone fantastic, someone he cannot afford to lose.
It is the Inner Truth (I think) that has kept me hanging in there. But I guess it is my inner child which is still asking, "Yes, but do you really love me?"
Or am I just the stubborn pig/fish?
I can't exactly answer that, but your inner truth can.
Try this: There's a hollow spot inside; it has no prejudices, no partialities, not even a single preference or attachment. Now imagine that every living thing also has that spot in them. From this place, you can communicate with a dog, pig or fish.
You've got it, he's got it too. If you can get them singing together, you can enjoy an enduing relationship.
The inner child, 'course she needs feeding and attention. But can you or anyone rely 100% of the time on someone else for that? Gotta have your own. It's that very security which attracts the other crane to you. Priorities change.
Of course not 100%, but some. We don't live in a vacuum. I've got most of it really -- my personhood is strong, but there is some of that feeding & attention which the inner girl (?) needs which can only come from without. Yes: from a man, dang it!
Otherwise, I'd already be on my way to being a Buddha
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