18.2.4.6 > 62 incredible bad luck in dates continue

[lucuma]

Dating doesn’t seem to be my thing lately. People behave strangely or plain rude. For example:

There’s a man who’s a coworker of a very good friend of mine. My friend was playing matchmaker with us for nearly 2 years. The guy had shown interest by talking to me online several times, but according to my friend he was super shy to ask for a date. I thought he was a nice and good looking man, so I talked to him for a bit and said it’d be nice to meet sometime, he said of course and what about next Sunday. We decided to meet by 6.

I tossed the coins to ask for a comment on meeting this man and got a discouraging 18.2.4.6 to 62. I immediately thought of someone ungracious and very picky, and also of something getting upset because of bad timing and bad arrangements.

Line 2: corruption from the mother's side which doesn’t allow constancy (there’s a need of a flexible, not forceful approach to correct things)
Line 4: wealthy father's corruption, going on brings shame (I've read one needs not to be very tolerant of bad behaviours, and that the causes of corruption are well rooted in the past)
Line 6: no business with kinds and lords (not getting entangled with ‘earthly’ business? is that what a date is?)

The next day he texted to say he couldn’t make it at 6 and if we could meet earlier, at noon. He didn't offer a reason so I asked what was going on, and he said he had to housesit for a friend. I said OK (‘being flexible’) though I didn’t like the sound of it all, and asked him where could we go, as the place I’d suggested earlier was closed at noon. He then said he didn’t know, that it was going to be very hot outside, and his uncle was at the hospital and that he may have to take care of him. Doesn’t sound very encouraging for a date, right?

I thought he was bailing, so I said "Ok, let me know when you are free to meet". He then said he didn’t know if I was mad at him, that he didn’t like the tone of my answer, bla bla. I explained to him that it was not very polite to change the time of our date without offering a reason, and then not coming up with any ideas of where to meet. He was just leaving me with all the setting up, so I understood he didn’t feel like meeting at all. (Also, housesitting instead of a date? We’re both in our mid 30s).

He said it wasn’t his intention at all (but didn’t apologise), that he had a bad day, and that he hoped the date was still on. I said OK, let’s come up with a few ideas of where to meet and talk later -because I was at work with a lot going on. He replied that he didn’t know places because he wasn’t going out much lately, that we should go to a place with air conditioner, or maybe we could meet a his house. I didn’t reply immediately because I was working.
Turns out, 1 hour later I checked my phone and there was a message from him saying ‘Sorry I can’t make it, I have to go to the hospital to take care of my uncle.’ That was it, no offer to reschedule, nothing. I said OK, wished him luck and asked him to tell me another time to meet. And he didn’t replied. Nothing, in two days. I was baffled. I blocked him.

I'm explaining the whole story because I want to know if I am the one who is too fixed on details? Am I missing something? Do I have to be corrected? I don't think I did anything. He even made a comment on my music -that he really likes it but that it may be missing 'strength'. Really? Isn't that a thing one’d prefer to talk in person?

So the date was ‘rotten’ from the start because of bad arrangements and also 'cause some people doesn't seem to value other people’s time. I got the feeling this man was unhappy, depressed, smothered with obligations -all of us have been there, but this seemed like a chronic situation... so my take is the 18>62 referred to him, but I may be afraid it also referred to me? That my standards are being too high? I don't know.

I'm really baffled with all this Things like these happened to me 3 times already, with 3 different people.

If you can comment on this, or share your personal experiences with this casting I'd appreciate it

Lucuma

 

[rosada]

From what you’ve posted, my take on this is that yes, you are the one who is too fixed. I mean, you’ve stated that he’s got an uncle in the hospital he has to take care of and a commitment to house sit and plus he doesn’t know anywhere to go a date so he’s offered to let you pick the spot. Sounds like a guy who generally does what he can to help and accommodate people to me. But I may not be understanding all the subtleties here. What it really sounds like is that getting to know someone through emails is a very iffy proposition!

 

[lucuma]

Thanks Rosada.
Yes I don't think I'm being particularly fixed when I expect that we respect each other's time. I mean when he took the commitment to house sit, there was a previous commitment done to meet me. He could have offered me to reschedule for another night instead of meeting at noon and then having troubles with the heat and the place and so... Then cancelled for a valid reason, which I understood, but never offered another date, which I thought was kinda off.
I don't know, I realise there must be something with me if things like this keep happening, thats why I'm sharing it here... I hope someone else can share their point of view or experience with this casting.

 

[Trojina]

I totally disagree with Rosada. It's not you it's him ! House sitting ? The thing is he arranged with you didn't he then invented the house sitting and the uncle. Even if the uncle is real he is still being a total flake so no you absolutely must not turn this into something you did wrong. Good Heavens how could anybody see this as anything other than someone messing you about is beyond me.

Sorry can't look at reading right now I just didn't want you to go on thinking it was down to you, thinking there's something wrong with you. No, don't turn it against yourself that would be cruel to you.

You had made the arrangement and he kept changing it but being really vague, sounds like a waste of time and the reading supports that I think !

Also if one is house sitting one can go out. You can stay in someone's house to look after it but you can go out when you want. Ridiculous excuse. And if the uncle is in hospital he wouldn't be looking after him would he he would just be visiting.

 

[Trojina]

And going to the reading it's clear you're too willing in fact to put up with this dreadful behavior. 18.4 clearly says tolerating this is not the way to go. Line 6 is saying whatever mess he makes he's not your problem. Can't do proper interpretation right now as I said so I know this is more opinion than warranted but you are worth more than this kind of thing right ?

 

[my_key]

I tossed the coins to ask for a comment on meeting this man and got a discouraging 18.2.4.6 to 62. I immediately thought of someone ungracious and very picky, and also of something getting upset because of bad timing and bad arrangements.

Hex 18 speaks to a sense of inviting you towards turning over a new leaf, especially when held in a context of 62 where you are encouraged to make small but significant changes in the way you think and act.

The comment Yi is making, for me, seems to be clearly pointing towards your approach to meeting this man or the perspectives now held as a result of your communications together. 18 very much places the onus on working on inner decay, so that you invigorate and empower parts of yourself to stand up morally and ethically and to be strong. It invites in its purest form the transformation from caterpillar to butterfly and a different future through the seeds you plant now. (Nuclear 54)

18.2 - directs you towards a place of balanced inner stillness where you can find ways to be more considerate. compassionate and nurturing. Thus, applying a remedy for the mother wounds.

18.4 - invites a stepping away from the wounds of authority and the associated immaturity that still informs the choices being taken. Remaining as you are will only continue your distress.

18.6 - invites you to connect with the inner wisdom that you hold. You will benefit from distancing yourself from the kings and lords that currently hold sway in your world.

You are already aware of the trending pattern that is playing out for you in your attempts to form relationship with others. Life can be tough, especially in our earlier years and thoughts and behaviours cemented in those times can readily echo down the years. It can be helpful during times of confusion to reflect on how those echoes may be manifesting in you and your life right now.

As a bit of an over view:
Line 2 speaks more to the way of walking in the world now. Line 4 in particular speaks to the reactive choices that are being made and that sometimes hard-line, mature internal decisions that have to be made in order to find a path that is more pleasant to walk along. Line 6 connects with your ancient sage who can help you steer by small degrees a new path.

..... of course this interpretation of the reading may mean nothing at all like this for you.

Good Luck

 

[rosada]

Further thoughts -
I’m seeing 18.2 as referring to the fooling around trying to get things organized, 18.3 as you feeling this is inappropriate, but then 18.6 saying “Yeah, it’s not following The Rules, but so what? When it comes to personal friendships you can make up your own rules!”
Then 62. Attention to Detail could be saying that the bottom line is it’s up to you how you interpret all this. Like, although the actual confusion was relatively minor and easily excused, the bigger question is should this be considered an omen of a bigger problem - either that he is thoughtless or that you are too fixed? Only you can say!

 

[Liselle]

See here for another example of the same reading for a similar situation: https://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/fri...what-happened-on-this-date-18-2-4-6-62.35102/