21.3 to 30

[deekristen]

Hello everyone,
Nİce weather out there, at least here where i live Sun and flowers and beautiful people out again.. oh this feels good I hope everybody is enjoying it...

I asked a question what should i do in order to be together with this guy? Yes, yes i am obsessed...
The thing i dont get is, is it telling me that it has long passed and if i move on i ll be happy, or is it telling me to do something about it and it will end up all wooohooos?

Any ideas?
D.

 

[deekristen]

la la laaa???
D.

 

[willowfox]

la la laaa???
D.

I was out sunbathing with the "pretties".


It suggests that you leave this guy alone, as he doesn't seem interested and therefore won't take any notice of you, and secondly you probably will make yourself look like a bit of a fool if you continue with your obsession.

 

[deekristen]

the yi lied to me...

OMG!! Willowfox!! Welcome back!! Glad to see you again...

Ok i get it, awesome, i am obsessed and i have to let go this is all fine but the yi told me that we were gonna be together and that never happened... What is wrong? it gave me the answer 41.6 going to 11 and everybodys take on was the same, "very positive answer you will be together"... We never got to be together...

And to be honest with you nobody wants this guy, i am way too much for him, everybody knows this yet i am obbsessed with this loser... OMG! Whats wrong with me??
D.

 

[Trojina]

OMG!! Willowfox!! Welcome back!! Glad to see you again...

Ok i get it, awesome, i am obsessed and i have to let go this is all fine but the yi told me that we were gonna be together and that never happened... What is wrong? it gave me the answer 41.6 going to 11 and everybodys take on was the same, "very positive answer you will be together"... We never got to be together...

And to be honest with you nobody wants this guy, i am way too much for him, everybody knows this yet i am obbsessed with this loser... OMG! Whats wrong with me??
D.

Are you referring to this thread ?http://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/friends/showthread.php?t=7530

I think you must be as 41.6 does not change to 11 it changes to 19.

So the important thing to learn is the Yi did not 'tell you' you were going to be together. With relationship questions its not a good idea to set too much store by it when you think you see a definate indication of being with someone. There is no single answer that could with 100% certainty guarantee that you 'will be together'.

 

[deekristen]

Hello Trojan,
Thank you very much, yes that was the thread... Thanks for finding it...
i will never touch the yi again until i am ready, cause as you see i am obsessed with stuff and i cant handle it well, i should just live and see. The yi is not a help for people like me.
Anyways, thank you very much again...
D.

 

[hilary]

(Another 'thing to learn' - it doesn't work well to focus in on the omen of a line - the 'great good fortune' of 46.1 - without also thinking about the conditions it describes that make it possible.)

 

[chiahsieh]

I'm sorry you feel this way. If you don't mind, I can try to make interpretation for the one you did in pass, and the current one that you've just asked. All I need is The exact date and time you made the coin toss and the location in the world you make the coin toss.

 

[em ching]

Perhaps 21.3 in relation to this person is saying you don't need to 'swallow his poison'. I think it's saying it's not your fault - so perhaps not something you did, or even because you are not compatible or that he doesn't like you. I think it's more like saying that you're a victim, in the sense that you're liking someone who has a problem, and so could bring you down if you're not aware of that and up blaming yourself. Perhaps there's nothing you can do about it - he needs to sort out whatever his 'issue' is - and you don't have to let it be a part of you.. which it would be if you pursued him.. you would be sacrificing your own entitlement to happiness and acknowledgement if you tried harder with him (perhaps where 41 > 19 comes in). It seems the relationship couldn't be happy, balanced successful etc because his emotions are perhaps maladjusted at the moment ( Lise talks of trapped emotions).

So I think the best thing for you is to try to move on from the idea of being with him. I'm sure there's plenty of fish in the sea! Plus if your friends think he's a loser and not right for you then they're probably right. Invariably my close friends have been right about my relationships or crushes.. blessed with objectivity I guess.
Hope someone better takes his place in your head/ heart soon.

 

[Trojina]

Hello Trojan,
Thank you very much, yes that was the thread... Thanks for finding it...
i will never touch the yi again until i am ready, cause as you see i am obsessed with stuff and i cant handle it well, i should just live and see. The yi is not a help for people like me.
Anyways, thank you very much again...
D.

well if its any consolation I think most people (well females anyway) learn about the I Ching via some kind of obsession myself included..infact someone somewhere once said he thought it almost a necessary stage in getting to know the Yi, perhaps everyone goes through it, its not shameful though it can feel it . But maybe rather than just give up with the I Ching it might help to stay with the answers just for yourself for a while before asking others to help with interpreting because we could just as easily throw you off track as help sometimes...simply because we're not you.

Maybe working through obsessive feelings is a really important thing to do. I know i always felt like i should just stop obsessing, that it was totally stupid and a waste of time but maybe that makes too much resistance,.maybe sometimes it helps just to feel the thing in its entirety