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Believe me, this is what I do for years! I speak up again and again but the people (my parents) do not give me attention to what I am saying and it seems that they really don't care if I am happy here or not. They care only to be here for them. Selfish love, right? I really don't know what I must do.In the past couple of weeks I've spoken up, said exactly what's on my mind to people who could essentially change my life in a way I may have no control over but I just thought too bad I have to stop living in fear and whatever way things fall, they fall but at least I'll be being true to myself.
Thank you Mandarin for the hope that you give me with your post.Hello usilser, 36.6 says that the dark times will come to its end or is at is ending, and it also advises you about how to cope with suppression and difficulties in outer life, how to keep your inner glow! 36.6. says, as far as I know, that the good will be restored.
And then, Beauty as a relating hexagram. You are beautiful, and the best way to cope with depression might be to see the beauty of life. There is a strong element of seeing in the relating hexagram, the Image is the fire under a mountain.
All the very best, Mandarine
I think 36.6 > 22 is talking about a transformation. The life you’ve lived the past 10 years needs to die. Your “darkened light” will now give way to 22.6: unadorned beauty and simplicity.Here is a summary of my life story of the last 10 years...
The last 10 years of my life have been very rough. Relationships with unsuitable selfish partners. Living at an unsuitable place for me. A lot of indifferent moments nothing really happy to remember. Perhaps I have to accept a life like this or leave from here. If I do so, I have to abandoned my family and a business that I love (I manage, the only thing that makes me smile, it is not mine) but my life here does not make me happy. I can't even find a suitable partner here, I haven't got friends and I haven't got the quality of life I want. You see I live in a very small closed society and the men are limited. After 10 years of misery my patience seems to end and I don't know what to do. Should I stay or should I go? and where could I go?
How could I avoid all this misery how could I change my life?
36.6 - 22
This is the last line of hexagram 36 darkness - injury etc etc... Perhaps the darkness will come to an end and beautiful moments are coming (my wish)... I am not sure of course... Could you please help me to understand what is the advice of line 6? Is there anything I can do to get out of the dead end?
Exactly!There is a clearer understanding beginning to emerge that this is related to some of the decisions you have made where you have put others before yourself and shied away from the potential conflict of taking other actions. Your parents and their reactions seem to be central to the decisions you have made in the past and are influencing you as you look forward.
The thing is I don't know which approach to follow. That's why I asked the question.Line 6 is pointing you towards the new way for you. The time is ripe for this. Adopt an approach where you take a step and aim for Heaven and then pausing and reflecting, working through the consequences of your step. You become the painter of your blank canvas and can create the face that you present to the world and
Only you will be able to discover which approach is the right one for you. It is tough right now yet hex 36 says 'Constancy in hardship bears fruit'. So paint this quality and sit with all this hardship until a chink of light becomes visible and you feel able to walk towards that. Hex22 (the context in which all this is enquiry is unfolding) is about displaying courage too. Be brave!The thing is I don't know which approach to follow. That's why I asked the question.
Perhaps you are right, but not knowing the 'back story,' and taking the Yi at face value, I don't read such a dire message into this line. In fact there are no 'dire' or 'negative' words in the line text that I'm seeing. (I've also read that the various back stories - including about the evil emperor Zhou - are possible, but not necessarily agreed-upon associations for this line).Freedda, I think 36.6 is much worse than the natural cycle of day and night that you described. It's a direct reference to the evil emperor Zhou of Shang.
I do not think this line carries 'advice' per se,All that said, even if line 36.6 was about something 'darker' or more evil, what do you think Yi's advice is here about a way around this situation, or the way to deal with it?
I think Usilser will have to respond for us to know for sure, but the sense I get is she's talking about a small town or community in a country or society that might be more conservative and 'closed' than the US is (though we do have those aspects) - but not necessarily an intentional community; but that's just my guess.Well the main advise of 36 is to hide your light, and the situation is one where persistence is difficult.
That is a pretty powerful statement: persistence is difficult ... It worse than, the situation is annoying.
Think of something that had great promise to begin with, rose to prominence, but ended up in darkness and fell. If this is an 'intentional community', then maybe it describes the state of it at this time.
I know but it’s then taking action at the others response.Believe me, this is what I do for years! I speak up again and again but the people (my parents) do not give me attention to what I am saying and it seems that they really don't care if I am happy here or not. They care only to be here for them. Selfish love, right? I really don't know what I must do.
Line 6 of 36 has always seemed a judgment: The evil emperor who might have given light to the four corners of the earth has broken heaven’s decree and is plunged into darkness. Sounds like her parents, and that the time has come for her to leave. @usilserI do not think the line contained any advice.
With regard to your boss’ response, her lack of apology and obviously absent empathy would make me want to leave.I know but it’s then taking action at the others response.
If the other person doesn’t validate how we feel or our a opinion and you accept that then why would things change.
It’s about speaking up and then taking action based on the response. You say no ones listening to what YOU want or need then you do have to ask YOURSELF why you stay.
Yesterday I told my boss she handled my recent bullying complaint very badly and in a very untimely manner and I’m considering resigning.
Her response oh well that’s up to you.
My response ok I’ll have a think about this conversation and make my decision over the weekend.
I can’t really afford to leave my job but I can’t stay there either but at least now I know where I stand and can take action with clarity.
Oh I hear what you’re saying well and truly and I’m already halfway out the door. I had an interview on Thursday and was told if my references check out the job’s mine and I’ve another interview on Monday.With regard to your boss’ response, her lack of apology and obviously absent empathy would make me want to leave.
My general sense is a bit different here - that the Yi gives us advice on how to address our situation, or at least - by way of example - to say, 'if you do this, it will not be very helpful.' It's more like: 'the ball is in your court, and here's some advice on what to do.'Imagine if you were talking to someone describing your problem, and they mirrored the situation to you with a hearty, "well, that really sucks." ... The ball is placed back in your court to decide what you want to do.
That’s good to hear, and yes, absolutely true.Oh I hear what you’re saying well and truly and I’m already halfway out the door. I had an interview on Thursday and was told if my references check out the job’s mine and I’ve another interview on Monday.
I could just walk away and say nothing but I felt I would be doing myself an injustice and had nothing to lose by speaking up.
I don’t specifically need a reference from her directly as I know others I work with would be happy to provide that for me.
Footnote: I resonate so much with usilser and understand completely.
12 months ago there's no way I felt I could have done this because I lived in fear of the consequences but I learned whatever decision you make or action you take there's ALWAYS consequences. Just got to work out which what is best for YOU.
Thanks. I'm not sure I've ever gotten that, but what you're saying here is along the lines of what I was describing: the Yi tells us about the situation AND gives advice for how best to deal with it - as in 'link yourself to a higher purpose.' I found the same thing to be true in this reading.Did you ever get 47 unchanging? .... The message is this really sucks, link yourself to the high purpose in order to get through it.
Hello Moss Elk. As I said in my original response, above:What advice do you see in the reading, pray tell?
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