36 Unchanging - about my son

[solivini]

Hi all. I wanted to do a follow up question I posed in the following thread: https://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/friends/index.php?threads/concerns-about-my-son.30341/#post-289902
By the way, thank you to everyone who took their time to share their thoughts, stories and reach out. I have revisited your messages quite a few times over these past few months.

Since then, he has begun seeing a speech therapist and an occupational therapist, both of which are having minimal impact as they are through a video chat due to COVID. The speech therapist tried to get me to start with some sign language—which he found to be hilarious and never engaged.
He has learned a few things since the previous post, and he does well with non-verbal communication, I feel, but he’s still not talking like they would like for him to. He has been known to say things once and then never again. It’s like he just doesn’t want to do it.

An autism diagnosis is not off the table, but I feel a type of dyslexia may be the main problem (for speech). My reasoning for this is that his biological father has dyslexia. I have a friend whose son has Audio Processing Disorder, and there are a lot of similarities. The thing that puts me off the autism dx is that my son is very loving, he wants attention, and the (very few because of COVID) times he has been around other children his age, he is very interested in them. I have worked with people on the spectrum going on 23 years, so I am quite familiar with the characteristics. However, I have never worked with anyone as young as my son, so I may just be missing out on that knowledge.

Q: Insight on anything I may be missing concerning his speech/language?
A: 36 Unchanging

I feel like this is saying he doesn’t want to talk, or, that he can talk but he is not for whatever reason. He is hiding his light.
I don’t know why, but I get the feeling that it’s a safeguard, or that not talking will keep him safe in some way; like Prince Ji who hid his light.

Or maybe I am getting it wrong and there is some kind of injury that is being denoted.
Thoughts?

 

[Willem D]

Hi Solvini,

I have worked with people on the spectrum going on 23 years, so I am quite familiar with the characteristics. However, I have never worked with anyone as young as my son, so I may just be missing out on that knowledge.

This is in my opinion what hex. 36 refers to. Your light, your vision is clouded. In the Legge translation hex. 36 has the title Clouded Perception.

Legge: Under the conditions of Clouded Perception be aware of the difficulty of your position and maintain firm correctness

There seems to be a tendency to make everything into a medical thing nowadays.
There is some illusionair mold or template that every child should fit in and if the child does not fit, he or she receives a label. But the template or mold is an illusion, it is an average and nobody fits the average.

For a minute, set aside all your medical knowledge and experience and try to see the world through the eyes of your son. How would you feel if someone tries to make you do things? Don't forget, children pick up things like atmosphere and vibration, they are way more clever then you think.

You are trying to push him in a direction and he just flips you the middle finger by not speaking, giving the message "no mommy, meet me on my conditions".

Good luck

 

[solivini]

Thank you for your thoughts, Willem D.
That is something I have considered, but not in the way you have conveyed. I do feel pressure from outside sources (therapists, doctors, etc) to commit to a dx. I’m not ready to do that, and they may be clouding my judgment as well. But, I do feel helpless to some extent because he is starting to become frustrated in certain situations when communication is not there but needed to get what he wants.
I honestly do not want to push him, so I guess where my confusion comes in is what his conditions are?

Q: How do I meet him on his conditions?
A: 9.1 > 57

Return to my own path (center, keep a high vibration, etc) and be gentle.

Thank you for helping me suss this out. It was a good reminder that my vibration, attitude and the environment I create as a parent are very important.

 

[becalm]

Like I said in your other post - just let him work it out. He's two/three years old.....sounds to me he just wants to be left alone.