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Hi everyone, I got 37.5.6 to 36. as an answer to my question; what I should do about the relationship? Background about the relationship is that we have been seeing each other for two months now and he seems really intense for such short time. My feelings are constantly changing, the only stabile feeling I have is that I cannot fully trust him. He already asked me to marry him, and I kindly told him that it is too soon and it is a matter of another time. I am sure we are not there yet, and I don't know If I am going to be there ever, but I do have feelings for him.So what do you think? I understand that if I can be more decisive, there may be a chance to grow something real from here but in the end I will take responsibility of a "home"?
 

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Hi everyone, I got 37.5.6 to 36. as an answer to my question; what I should do about the relationship? Background about the relationship is that we have been seeing each other for two months now and he seems really intense for such short time. My feelings are constantly changing, the only stabile feeling I have is that I cannot fully trust him. He already asked me to marry him, and I kindly told him that it is too soon and it is a matter of another time. I am sure we are not there yet, and I don't know If I am going to be there ever, but I do have feelings for him.So what do you think? I understand that if I can be more decisive, there may be a chance to grow something real from here but in the end I will take responsibility of a "home"?
Wow, tough situation... I understand your situation because it seems like mine some years ago. All runs fast and it's a rollercoaster in which you are happy to be there but it seems also something weird, unbelievable. Am I wrong?

What I could suggest you is to take your time and it seems you are doing so but at the same time, cautiously, enjoy these charming moments. They will pass, I can assure you, also if I don't know what kind of direction they will take.

About the reading the moving lines are auspicious and regard to your doubts remember "fear not" like in the 5th moving line.
The relating hexagram in my opinion, could represents many things.

Hexagram 36 could mean something hidden in the relationship or about this man or your fear about something hidden and which you don't comprehend (yet).
Or it could mean your hidden feelings, something you don't fully understand.

In my opinion you should stop to worry about and enjoy the situation and the relationship. The caution should be always present, in every moment, don't take his words or his manner like gold (in Italy we use this way of saying :) ) but don't let your fear to be an obstruction.

Follow your feelings and if you are not sure about his words.... Ask, speak and make him to understand that everyone has his path, his time, if he is so in love don't worry about, he will understand you and he will give you the time to metabolize all these intense feelings.

Keep us updated!
 

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what I should do about the relationship?
37.5.6 > 36


I had this exact cast when asking what to do about a very attractive guy I had met on a dating website. It started great, we shared things about ourselves, etc., and I definitely started having some feelings. Not long after, it turned out that he was after dirty pics, something I'm not into at all. He really persisted for a short while, and when I reminded him in clear words that I was after a real relationship, the whole thing collapsed and I never heard from him again.

37.5 - He approaches the (notion of) 'family' as if he's a king who's entitled to get anything.
37.6 - If the woman is strict and persists on her principles...
36 - darkness.

Of course you don't trust him. You've said before that he's a womanizer, and has problems with work and finances. Would he make a good husband? He sounds like a freeloader.
 

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what I should do about the relationship?
37.5.6 > 36


I had this exact cast when asking what to do about a very attractive guy I had met on a dating website. It started great, we shared things about ourselves, etc., and I definitely started having some feelings. Not long after, it turned out that he was after dirty pics, something I'm not into at all. He really persisted for a short while, and when I reminded him in clear words that I was after a real relationship, the whole thing collapsed and I never heard from him again.

37.5 - He approaches the (notion of) 'family' as if he's a king who's entitled to get anything.
37.6 - If the woman is strict and persists on her principles...
36 - darkness.

Of course you don't trust him. You've said before that he's a womanizer, and has problems with work and finances. Would he make a good husband? He sounds like a freeloader.
So something dark... Hidden, right? Something she will bring to light (I hope).
 

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Any update?

I just got this very same cast with a guy I’m seeing and I feel he is hiding something from me.

He also asked me to marry, but a secret wedding just as to avoid feeling guilty with God.

I wondered how your story Carried on
 

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Hello Mpourtsin!

I got 37.5.6 to 36. as an answer to my question; what I should do about the relationship?
37 is the Family- he has proposed; and 36 is Cloudy Perception among other things. As the relating hexagram it indicates the context. I've received 36 as the second hexagram many times when I was too emotionally overwhelmed to clearly see my situation and decide what to do. It was like walking in the haze.

37.5: "Wilhelm/Baynes: As a king he approaches his family. Fear not. Good fortune." You don't need to fear. He seems to really intend to start a family, and for good.
37.6: "Wilhelm/Baynes: His work commands respect. In the end good fortune comes." He's behaving like a gentleman. Treat him respectfully. Auspicious line.

P.S: Personally I get really stressed in the first phase of relationship, specially if I have feelings for the other. I can see why you're anxious. That said, are the emotions and pace- the things out of control- the mere causes of your worry, or there exist other reasons for not trusting this man?
 

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I could be completely wrong but,
is it possible the guy has a family (or girlfriend or children) that you don't know about?
 
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I see two likely reasons he would say that.
1-he wants to hide it from his wife.
or
2-so he won't feel guilty when he leaves you. (I didn't marry in a real church or anything.)

I knew a dirty rotten scoundrel who had a girlfriend. She wanted to marry, and he wanted to keep having sex with her, so he called a friend who showed up from out of town with fake paperwork, said he was a justice of the peace, and held a fake ceremony. She thought they were married for the next year, until the man left.
There are some crappy crappy people in this world.
 
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@Olga Super Star
that's a Big Red Flag!
You mean the secrecy? That's what made me suspicious.


I have opened a thread to avoid hijacking this one, would appreciate your Manly views as I have often difficulties in understanding guys' approaches.

I see two likely reasons he would say that.
1-he wants to hide it from his wife.
or
2-so he won't feel guilty when he leaves you. (I didn't marry in a real church or anything.)
I doubt he has a wife, he's very young and it would appear so from social networks (I went to lurk around his brothers profiles). I think he just wants to have sex but since he's telling himself he's very religious, he has made up this non existing wedding between me, him and God without signing any piece of paper.

He also went so far as to say if I love him I should just accept his religion and his will to do things according to his faith. The problem is, according to Islam you should marry by signing and letting everyone know.

So he's just playing the spiritual type while he's not.

The more I think about it, the more furious I get.
 
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I think he just wants to have sex but since he's telling himself he's very religious, he has made up this non existing wedding between me, him and God without signing any piece of paper.
Avoid any man who divides women into the ones with whom you have sex and the others you can marry. A guy with such a viewpoint won't fulfill either type because he doesn't see women as humans with different needs.
He also went so far as to say if I love him I should just accept his religion.
Don't accept. It's one-sided.
So he's just playing the spiritual type while he's not - his sexual requests were porn-like, but of that I am not surprised as I know young people today watch a lot of porn and think that's how you have sex, especially refugees who get here with no family and have a strict religious background.
This sever religious background makes people think they are saints while they aren't. A really religious person should believe in their faith and not look for the turnarounds. I don't think his heartless, porn-like view of sex helps to fulfill you. Too mechanical, if not objectifying and insulting.
The more I think about it, the more furious I get.
I understand girl. But don't overthink it. Put your energy on other aspects of your life.
 

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