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Ah, ok, cool. Ok, so that's encouraging then. You're good at this ; ) I always get stuck on the sort of literalness of things, of the readings, and maybe it's because I need to let them wash around a bit more first. Or maybe that's just what happens when it's your reading and you feel stuck (very 39!)Hello lola;
Please advise on asking X and telling him how I feel at some point in the near future? 39.5.6 > 52
I have a different take. 39.5 means help in the time of difficulty. 39.6 is a fortunate line. Here you realize that a path leads to impasse and change the way. Whether it means the end of your passive approach or your crush for this guy it's good. 52 means keeping still, or maybe stopping. The stop of difficulties (39).
Seen from this perspective, I believe the lines of the text take on a different meaning:Beyond the mountain, there is water:
This is the image of Obstruction.
Thus the superior person reflects on himself
And cultivates his character.
If the question is:Thus the superior person
Does not allow his thoughts
To go beyond his situation.
then the answer seems to be not to share these feelings with this friend because you are talking to a wall, so to speak. Instead, work on yourself so that you can overcome these feelings and, if necessary, ask for help.Please advise on asking X and telling him how I feel at some point in the near future?
'Hardship' through 'Keeping Still'Please advise on asking X and telling him how I feel at some point in the near future?
39.5.6 > 52
It is really a misconception that the Yi as a kind of robot only answers the question or a question formulated in a certain way.The I Ching was only answering the question should you tell him how you feel about him sometime in the near future?
She did not ask about it but got an answer from the Yi on that anywayBefore you take these hexagrams too seriously consider that you didn’t ask for a full on diagnosis of the relationship or its potential.
Yi advises against it.Please advise on asking X and telling him how I feel at some point in the near future?
39.5.6 > 52
Hi all,
Wow, what a discussion and what an interesting discussion. Thanks for all the comments and also I guess I'm trying to figure out how I take a reading more generally..I think I usually take it just as I've asked, like it might be telling me more, and I may or may not 'see'/'hear' that in the reading at that moment in time, but I often take it as a more immediate answer to whatever I have asked. I have however found old readings which in hindsight do sort of speak to a wider thing, but I wasn't able to see it at the time.
Anyway, as for what I will do. I don't know! haha, because if I wasn't sure before, now there does seem to be many different opinions and so I guess my feeling was wait and see, wait and see if the right opportunity presents itself, or somehow it feels right timing wise to speak about it, so rather than going out of my way. Just to clarify he is a friend, or in a friendship group, not a colleague/co-worker. It's a newish thing for me to wait and not push, I tend to feel very impelled to action when I have strong feelings about anything or anyone, so it's sort of been and is an interesting experiment for me. My counsellor did say though, that hanging on/around in a sort of ambiguous not-knowing state is maybe a way of actually avoiding not just rejection, but also acceptance, if not from him then another. So like by leaving it I am not available to others nor seeking the clarity that might make me be so, or to him. So am chewing on that.
I think the idea of staying true to myself is most appealing, what this looks like exactly I haven't figured out yet.
I will let you all know as and when something does or doesn't happen, when a little more time has passed. Another reading I wrote spoke of great possession in not telling, moving to 51 - shock - which always terrifies me! But perhaps a shock is needed, either good or hard, to get the water flowing past/through/around the mountain again
Many thanks
Lola
Hi all,Hey Lola, just wondering when you planning to do this and whether you could share the results for learning purposes.
HelloHi all,
I have a crush on a friend, it's been ages now, like over a year. Anyway I have no idea how he sees me other than obviously as a friend, we are not super close but in the same group. I thought perhaps the best thing to do, to free myself if nothing else, might be to just ask him. But now this reading makes me wonder whether that's a good idea at all. Perhaps I need to just leave things to roll as they will?
Please advise on asking X and telling him how I feel at some point in the near future?
39.5.6 > 52
39.5 > Greatly limping partners come - I guess this could be him (saying no, he just wants to be friends) or else a friend informing me of something that helps me (like he's not into you, or he is into you or he's into this other person) or I'm sort of waiting for him but then someone else comes along (there is a different one for this though, meeting your partner and lord so I don't think it is this one). So maybe this seems like affirmative? Do ask?
39.6 > Don't pursue this course of action. Leave it be. If he likes you he will do something, it will become clear, and the 'great mastery' will have been in slowing down and not always feeling like I have to be in control and be the instigator?
52: somehow if I do these two things, stillness, or what?
I'm struggling with where the action or inaction is... is it like you're stuck (limping), these are the two choices, you don't know which, so just cultivate stillness?
any ideas appreciated
many thanks
Lola
Ignore the clear message in the oracle and do whatever you want to?I'd say you don't pay any attention to these readings and actually try to pursue this closeness/friendship
Except for the times it does.The Yi does not answer questions
IMO, giving false hope or pointing someone in the wrong direction are greater harms than giving a clear view.Plus to use this lady’s question as an excuse to tell her - unasked for - all the reasons the friendship wouldn’t work just strikes me as unkind
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