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I consulted the YI and asked - What should I do about my relationship with X now? it gave me 56 unchanging.
Not sure this is what you want to hear but the interpretations I read for 56 are "The Wanderer" or "The Traveler"
I read this as a state of mind.
If yi is answering your question directly "what should I do?" then the literal answer might be to get distracted, wander off from him for a while.
"perseverance brings good fortune to the wanderer"
I would take the high road. Happily wander off and see what other possibilities might be out there.
HE clearly has a wandering eye...it may benefit you to do the same and see what he does.
"In every unknown and new situation, behave like being in a strange country." LiSe
Hex 56 "image" which is where you should be looking, and not at the "judgement" in this particular reading.
This hex is also about imposing punishments for whatever offense but the punishments need to be sharp but short.
Please share where 56 endorses imposing reprimands. How and why did you make the decision to ignore the judgment in this case?
Quite simple, as Judgement is talking about a wanderer and neither she nor he fits this idea of no fixed abode. Therefore we look at the "Image" which is precisely where we all should be as it has to do with crime and punishment.
So, the Image says that the person needs to be punished but that it should be done quickly and then stop, just like a fire burning, it flares up, punishment, then abates, they move on.
And remember another thing, that this reading is specifically aimed at scarlett because it is her question and therefore we cannot generalize. So, in this case it applied exactly, she brought it to his attention. If she had followed other people's advice here and left the relationship would be over unnecessarily. This is a case where the querent needs to remain in the relationship.
If she had followed other people's advice here and left the relationship would be over unnecessarily.
This is a case where the querent needs to remain in the relationship.
The so called judgment speaks of committing no judgment against anyone. It says nothing about punishing someone but rather to avoid any such kind of legal action. The only discipline in 56 is self discipline
Dragging him over the coals as a way of demanding his accountability to you is the antithesis of 56's advise, and the work that's to be done in 18.4 is that of lightening up on trying to be authoritative and in control of him.
Now, if you have an agreement of fidelity to one another, especially if legitimized through an engagement for marriage, then I'd have to seriously question my judgment of Yi's words, in this case. But without that, you simply have no right to call him to task over it, i.e. as in 56.
As hard as it is to do, be the better person and find the security you need in yourself. Continue your journey without dependence. Then, don't be surprised if he's suddenly asking for more of your time and affection, lol.
If you want him not to take you for granted, then be strong and able in yourself. But that doesn't mean giving him the third degree. The work you do is within your cauldron, not his.
"Thus the superior man is clear minded and cautious in imposing penalties and protracts no lawsuits". Page 217 Wilhelm 1969 edition.
So, here we have a short, sharp punishment and thus avoiding a long draw out affair, read the text please. Punishments should be quick and of short duration, like a slap across the face, or a knee to the groin.
This is my final word on the subject as you seem to be purposely calling me out just for arguments sake.
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