A new man but an awful dream 3>39

[Calcflour]

Now you're thinking about taking a break from the relationship is there anything more you now see in the dream and yi's answer that you didn't see before?

Dream 1 - I think I'm starting to 'see'the face he's showing me and the signs/symbols (represented by the tattoos) are not in keeping with his true feelings for me.
He's extremely upset I've backed off.

Dream 2 - he doesn't have much self awareness and unaware I can see his behaviour is not in keeping with what he wants me to see. He may feel guilty because he's trying to keep his cards close to his chest as such, given I've been open about mine.

Since I posted this read more truths have come to light and we seem to be getting through our difficulties.

I'm not accepting less than I deserve anymore so, whilst we're not exactly taking a break, I'm not as open to spending as much time as I was with him.
It's a chance for us to figure things out on our own.

 

[Lakewater]

However, 3.3 is the opposite: instead of hesitating, one is charging forward without reading the signs causes the hunter to get lost in the forest.

I think I'm starting to 'see'the face he's showing me and the signs/symbols (represented by the tattoos) are not in keeping with his true feelings for me.
He's extremely upset I've backed off.

That was interesting that you made that link with the signs and tattoos and that you only saw the real face when you woke up made me think of what my_key said

making sure that I see things for what they really are and then take steps to instill appropriate healthy boundaries to bring things back into balance.

... of course other interpretations are available for you to consider.

Good Luck

There does seem to be a disconnect in both dreams, things are out of sync, out of balance, in the first dream this is in the face and then in the second in the feelings and actions.

You got 37.1.5>52 for progressing the relationship in 37 the image says

Legge translation: Wind rising out of fire -- the image of The Family. The superior man speaks the truth and is consistent in his behavior.

So perhaps it was showing that need for consistency and the 37 reading adds how to acquire it, through defining expectations for what roles you play(37) and through inner composure and boundaries 52, mountain). As you and others have pointed out. But the disconnect in both dreams, that there are signs and that you woke up and finally saw the face are all interesting.

Since I posted this read more truths have come to light and we seem to be getting through our difficulties.

Glad to hear that and that you're also taking the time you need for yourself.

 

[Calcflour]

So perhaps it was showing that need for consistency and the 37 reading adds how to acquire it, through defining expectations for what roles you play(37) and through inner composure and boundaries 52, mountain). As you and others have pointed out. But the disconnect in both dreams, that there are signs and that you woke up and finally saw the face are all interesting

Funny dreams to have but definitely interesting now that I've seen what they mean for me.

I asked this morning What do I need to know about our relationship now

Hexagram 37.2>9

I read that as, continue to remain steady in laying the foundations of our relationship.

I only spent one night with him on the weekend but again it was 'chaos' as such.
It always seems to end up being about things affecting him and his life.
For quite a few weeks, whenever I was with him, it was mostly about his sick horse and how it was impacting him and it was some other thing the weekend before.
This weekend, the horse was so much better, but he lost his phone when we were out on the quad so we spent a few hours back tracking our journey trying to find it. Eventually we gave up and then a local person turned up to his place with it, which is great but the phone is smashed with no chance of repair.
So that then turned into more chaos because we live so far away from any shops, and his attempt to order it online and get it delivered turned into mess.
And so it goes on.....

So the boundary I put up for myself is, to stop trying to make things easier for him because he creates his own messes. Support him, yes, but stop going out of my way.