Deeper readings on life and love...

[stfreq]

My most recent readings about my relationship with my ex have been very profound. I'd like to share them and see what the community thinks. As background, see these threads:
http://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/friends/showthread.php?p=111128
http://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/friends/showthread.php?p=113513

In my most recent readings, the Yi speaks very clearly that nothing can develop for us right now and I must go forward on my own. But I am curious about previous readings that imply there is still a strong connection and hope for us that I should recognize and not lose sight of. Is there a contradiction here, or am I just looking at different levels of time -- what is happening now, and what might be possible in the future?

How do I proceed with X?
52.3.4.5 > 8
This feels like a suggestion to be calm, not attempt contact or communication. But 8 "Grouping" has always seemed to me like an indication of a positive outcome for getting back together in the future -- am I reading this correctly?

What about giving up on my relationship with X?
46.2.3.6 > 56
Wow, this one is intense. I use Karcher's translation primarily. Obviously the resulting hex "Sojourning" suggests I'm going to be alone for now. But I am trying to figure out the changing lines which say "Do not stop now, have no doubts, etc..." -- does this mean do not give up hope on the relationship, move through the "darkness"? Or do they mean I should continue on my own path without looking back on the relationship I have been focused on for so long? It seems more the former than the latter, but I am biased in what I want to read in this.

What is the nature of our relationship right now?
6.4 > 59
This one really struck me. Very clearly I feel the Yi saying I need to stop all attempts at influencing her, at rekindling the relationship. The "quiet your heart" line in Karcher is very meaningful for me in this situation, it's been brutal. But I do feel a sense in line 6.4 of "waiting for something to return"... this is of course interesting for me. There seems to be hope in this line within context of my question.

Is pursuing a relationship w/ X the best thing for me?
45.3 > 31
Wow -- loud and clear. But how am I to understand this in relation to the other readings above (and others I've received in the past months) which indicate a possible reunion for us? Is this simply advice for "right now, and the others remain valid? Also, what about Hex 31 here -- does it seem like a suggestion of future reunion?


I appreciate all the help this community has provided me during this incredibly difficult process. These most recent readings feel like the "tough love" answers I need to hear right now to get back on my path and move forward in my life. But it is important to me to know if the Yi is still suggesting a future with this person down the line, despite the obvious need to go on alone for now. Any insights are deeply appreciated...

Blessings,
ST

 

[meng]

Hey ST,

Just a fly by look, but your takes seem right to me. Except possibly 45.3, which I think is key in this conflict.

For me it's usually as though having little or nothing in common with someone. I may like them, maybe even love them, but it's a downer to be with them. There's just not enough in common, except maybe sharing sad stories. Doesn't benefit either one. That lack of chemistry goes nowhere, there's just not much to do about it, which is where I think your 52 is coming from, ie You do nothing, you let go (59) and build a temple, where you can be still in safety. Also means developing trust in something beyond yourself. That can change everything.

 

[stfreq]

Thanks Meng. So in your assessment, my takes seem right on?

That is to say, then, that 8 implies possibly reuniting; 46 speaks to me *not* giving up on the relationship; and 6.4 suggests I stay in my place and wait... as if things may open up for us later?

Just curious if you are getting the sense that I should read some hope in these difficult lines

And regarding the 45.3... Your understanding of the line makes sense, but not so much for this particular relationship. What was so powerful for us and kept us together for 1.5 years was how much we have in common. What I think is at the root of our breakup is my ex's need to work through personal growth issues, as she was fresh out of a marriage.

So I'm very curious how to read the resulting 31, which has implications of courtship/seduction/marriage. Could it be that 45.3, in all its intense warning, might lead to a situation where we are brought together again in the end? Is it speaking of what was there before, or what could develop? It's an interesting juxtaposition of information and images here.

Thanks much for your comments!

-st

 

[meng]

Well, ST, to be candid, I'm not the one who would know if your interpretation is right on, you would, but from here it looks sensible. I follow your reasoning.

I would interpret your 45.3-31 reading something like: Regarding courtship, there's nothing wrong with getting together, but neither is much to be gained by it if it's not a happy occasion.

To ad-lib on that a bit, I think you'd have to reinvent the relationship and the way you approach her. Wooing someone with your sadness generally is not a great idea. One would do better to woo with things which inspire and move her.

To vamp a bit on that jam, if you aim from your hip or groin, you'll probably miss the mark. And pouring your heart out all over her probably won't win her either. You must bring her your joy, if you can find it. Then you'd have some real 31 goin' on.