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I had a bizarre romance. It was sweet and kind and loving for the brief period at the beginning.
Then suddenly the person became unhinged and odd in a way I can't even fathom. He behaved with no decorum, no humility. Was brash, arrogant, aggressive, vain, self indulgent and delusional (really).
The night of this latter occurrence, he brought me over where he was drunk with a girl he'd met on a dating app. Apparently, it was a business meeting and he was very involved with me but I was baffled why there was this other girl who clearly didn't understand (as I didn't) the dynamic. He started, unrelentingly, playing random musical instruments at full volume, discordantly while also swapping music on his Itunes, every 30 seconds, dancing wildly, ranting about being king of many countries so everything was cacaphonous. She remained, for many hours, as confused as me. Then, as the night wore on, she started discussing how attractive she finds me and then they both had a conversation about my qualities. Then she started talking about sleeping with me. He proposed we all sleep in the same bed naked and started playing footsies with her. I said I was leaving, gave a speech about games and manipulations and that I didn't want threesomes, I wanted a spouse and children. He said he wanted the same thing. She looked at both of us and said she was leaving and gave a speech about professionalism and messy romance. On the front step, outside, he shouted at me that I had to get out immediately. So, instead of leaving, I stayed. This, in part because I'm missing my bank cards, I'd taken apart my bedroom and didn't particularly relish the idea of trying to find public transport at 2:30 in the morning but more because this was utterly confusing again and I think my mind sought some form of understanding. I intuitively trusted he wouldn't use violence against me or anything where he could be seen as culprit as his role was to be the sweet, the innocent, hero, victim. We then had a just as bizarre dynamic that resulted in us sleeping in our separate rooms, him saying some horrible things to me, blaming me for everything. I wrote him an email expressing my feelings gently and with love, in spite of all this. We didn't speak in the am. Once I'd left, he replied horribly to me and unfriended me on social networks.
I asked about his feelings for me - that old chestnut. Not because I'm planning to be together with him in any capacity but because I wanted to ask the Yi what was going on in his head. Like, does he have an awareness of the mentalness of his actions. It is, I guess, simply me trying to make sense.
As usual with my threads, this read hasn't been covered yet in the forum.
62. Legge: The meaning of this hexagram in which an excess of yin lines prevails, may be grasped by contrasting its image with that of hexagram number twenty-eight, Critical Mass, in which an excess of yang lines prevails. Here the idea is the prevalence of small or inferior powers, and the lesson to be learned is how to distinguish essentials from non-essentials. Is it ever good to deviate from the established course of procedure? The answer is that it is permissible only in small matters, but never in matters of import. Sometimes form may be dispensed with, but never substance, and the thing must always be done responsibly and with appropriate humility. The symbol of the bird is to teach humility -- it is better for it to descend, keeping near to where it can perch and rest, than to ascend into the homeless regions of the upper air.
Line 2: Wing: Use whatever common affiliations you have with others to bring you into a secure position. No matter what kind of connection you make, it is the connection itself that is important. Hold as closely as possible, however, to traditional methods.
This could describe the act of bringing myself and the girl together with aim to make music and romance and be the central figure of connection. Manipulative on another level, however it's looked at. Or it could describe me coming into the situation and attempting to keep a balanced perspective of the bizarre dynamic.
Line 3: Confucius/Legge: There will be evil: how great it will be! Wilhelm/Baynes: What a misfortune this is! Blofeld: Were that to happen, it would indeed be misfortune! Ritsema/Karcher: Wherefore a pitfall thus indeed. Cleary (2): Pursuers attack one. How unfortunate! Wu: How can it not be foreboding?
As we all were struck by one another by evening's end, it could describe how any one of us experienced things. Easily this is perception of me for my lecture and deciding to leave. As what he did, I guess, seemed entirely okay and normal for him.
Line 4: Blofeld: Accosting someone instead of passing him by is now inappropriate or, is indicated by the unsuitable position of this line. The danger of going forward and the need for precaution imply that we should not continue long in our present course. Ritsema/ Karcher: Situation not appropriate indeed. Going adversity necessarily warning. Completing not permitting long-living indeed. Cleary (2): The position is not right. After all, it cannot last. Wu: This means that his position is improper. Because it will not last.
Well, okay, definitely the position wasn't appropriate and it could only last so long because eventually it was all going to crash. And it did. In a fiery horrible mess.
Line 6: Confucius/Legge: The position indicates the habit of domineering. Wilhelm/ Baynes: He is already arrogant. Blofeld: The first sentence suggests that we behave too arrogantly. Ritsema/Karcher: Climaxing overbearing indeed. Cleary (2): Passing by without meeting is because of arrogance. Wu: Because he is too arrogant. Siu: The man does not know how to control his preoccupation with trivia. His overshooting and restlessly pressing on bring disappointment and calamity to himself and his people.
His arrogance was incredible. And his behaviour wholly unrepentant. Were this to reflect me, my staying and pressing on. Or even my standing up for myself and choosing to leave, in the mind of someone so filled with a sense of their own self importance, would be a breach, a form of arrogance and restlessly pressing on.
Hex 4: Cleary (2): Under a mountain emerges a spring, in darkness. Leaders use effective action to nurture inner qualities. Wu: A spring flows at the foot of a mountain; this is Ignorance. The jun zi resolves to taking steps to cultivate his virtue.
Because I doubt how mentally stable he is, I wonder if 4 could represent that state. And were it to reflect me, it is the state of confusion and chaos I found myself in just being there and then after.
Thoughts? Many thanks! :bows:
Then suddenly the person became unhinged and odd in a way I can't even fathom. He behaved with no decorum, no humility. Was brash, arrogant, aggressive, vain, self indulgent and delusional (really).
The night of this latter occurrence, he brought me over where he was drunk with a girl he'd met on a dating app. Apparently, it was a business meeting and he was very involved with me but I was baffled why there was this other girl who clearly didn't understand (as I didn't) the dynamic. He started, unrelentingly, playing random musical instruments at full volume, discordantly while also swapping music on his Itunes, every 30 seconds, dancing wildly, ranting about being king of many countries so everything was cacaphonous. She remained, for many hours, as confused as me. Then, as the night wore on, she started discussing how attractive she finds me and then they both had a conversation about my qualities. Then she started talking about sleeping with me. He proposed we all sleep in the same bed naked and started playing footsies with her. I said I was leaving, gave a speech about games and manipulations and that I didn't want threesomes, I wanted a spouse and children. He said he wanted the same thing. She looked at both of us and said she was leaving and gave a speech about professionalism and messy romance. On the front step, outside, he shouted at me that I had to get out immediately. So, instead of leaving, I stayed. This, in part because I'm missing my bank cards, I'd taken apart my bedroom and didn't particularly relish the idea of trying to find public transport at 2:30 in the morning but more because this was utterly confusing again and I think my mind sought some form of understanding. I intuitively trusted he wouldn't use violence against me or anything where he could be seen as culprit as his role was to be the sweet, the innocent, hero, victim. We then had a just as bizarre dynamic that resulted in us sleeping in our separate rooms, him saying some horrible things to me, blaming me for everything. I wrote him an email expressing my feelings gently and with love, in spite of all this. We didn't speak in the am. Once I'd left, he replied horribly to me and unfriended me on social networks.
I asked about his feelings for me - that old chestnut. Not because I'm planning to be together with him in any capacity but because I wanted to ask the Yi what was going on in his head. Like, does he have an awareness of the mentalness of his actions. It is, I guess, simply me trying to make sense.
As usual with my threads, this read hasn't been covered yet in the forum.
62. Legge: The meaning of this hexagram in which an excess of yin lines prevails, may be grasped by contrasting its image with that of hexagram number twenty-eight, Critical Mass, in which an excess of yang lines prevails. Here the idea is the prevalence of small or inferior powers, and the lesson to be learned is how to distinguish essentials from non-essentials. Is it ever good to deviate from the established course of procedure? The answer is that it is permissible only in small matters, but never in matters of import. Sometimes form may be dispensed with, but never substance, and the thing must always be done responsibly and with appropriate humility. The symbol of the bird is to teach humility -- it is better for it to descend, keeping near to where it can perch and rest, than to ascend into the homeless regions of the upper air.
Line 2: Wing: Use whatever common affiliations you have with others to bring you into a secure position. No matter what kind of connection you make, it is the connection itself that is important. Hold as closely as possible, however, to traditional methods.
This could describe the act of bringing myself and the girl together with aim to make music and romance and be the central figure of connection. Manipulative on another level, however it's looked at. Or it could describe me coming into the situation and attempting to keep a balanced perspective of the bizarre dynamic.
Line 3: Confucius/Legge: There will be evil: how great it will be! Wilhelm/Baynes: What a misfortune this is! Blofeld: Were that to happen, it would indeed be misfortune! Ritsema/Karcher: Wherefore a pitfall thus indeed. Cleary (2): Pursuers attack one. How unfortunate! Wu: How can it not be foreboding?
As we all were struck by one another by evening's end, it could describe how any one of us experienced things. Easily this is perception of me for my lecture and deciding to leave. As what he did, I guess, seemed entirely okay and normal for him.
Line 4: Blofeld: Accosting someone instead of passing him by is now inappropriate or, is indicated by the unsuitable position of this line. The danger of going forward and the need for precaution imply that we should not continue long in our present course. Ritsema/ Karcher: Situation not appropriate indeed. Going adversity necessarily warning. Completing not permitting long-living indeed. Cleary (2): The position is not right. After all, it cannot last. Wu: This means that his position is improper. Because it will not last.
Well, okay, definitely the position wasn't appropriate and it could only last so long because eventually it was all going to crash. And it did. In a fiery horrible mess.
Line 6: Confucius/Legge: The position indicates the habit of domineering. Wilhelm/ Baynes: He is already arrogant. Blofeld: The first sentence suggests that we behave too arrogantly. Ritsema/Karcher: Climaxing overbearing indeed. Cleary (2): Passing by without meeting is because of arrogance. Wu: Because he is too arrogant. Siu: The man does not know how to control his preoccupation with trivia. His overshooting and restlessly pressing on bring disappointment and calamity to himself and his people.
His arrogance was incredible. And his behaviour wholly unrepentant. Were this to reflect me, my staying and pressing on. Or even my standing up for myself and choosing to leave, in the mind of someone so filled with a sense of their own self importance, would be a breach, a form of arrogance and restlessly pressing on.
Hex 4: Cleary (2): Under a mountain emerges a spring, in darkness. Leaders use effective action to nurture inner qualities. Wu: A spring flows at the foot of a mountain; this is Ignorance. The jun zi resolves to taking steps to cultivate his virtue.
Because I doubt how mentally stable he is, I wonder if 4 could represent that state. And were it to reflect me, it is the state of confusion and chaos I found myself in just being there and then after.
Thoughts? Many thanks! :bows: