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I have no problem doing the chase redoleander, I've done it in the past. It's more in tune with my nature.45.4: you might need to be the more dominant person, the one to "chase"...it could even be the reverse, that you have been doing the chasing and you might need to cultivate your ability to receive, be more magnetic and trust the right ones will come without you needing to do so much work (a more yin or Empress-like approach))
I don't pretend not being superficial. Maybe that's indeed the case?It sounds like you're for sure not looking for something superficial... but the lines feel a bit of a superficial nature? What you need is in a deeper place, in the well. Maybe the people you've been attracted to aren't that deep? Or is it possible you're pursuing a more surface-level line of attraction and then being disappointed when it can't be more? 45.3 could also be that you're wanting people to be attracted to the wrong parts of you. Compatibility may be about qualities different than what you've been looking for.
Oh Rosada!I just asked the IC, "What is Romantic Charisma or Sexual Charisma or whatever you want to call it, what makes a woman attractive to a man?" Even though that was a pretty confused question I got a simple straight forward answer,
27. Nourishment.
Or as the old saying goes, "The way to a man's heart is through his stomach!"
Personally I don't think sincere physical attraction is superficial! And it's odd that women are often told it might somehow be less important for us. It's definitely not! I do think though that sometimes we are drawn to people because of an idea of who they are or who we want them to be, or maybe just have a pattern of who we like and we don't question it or challenge it, even if it doesn't seem to ever give us what we actually want or need. So superficial may not be quite the right word, I'm not sure, but something that's more unconscious and automatic.By the way the meaning of "superficial" has always puzzled me- does it mean giving importance to physical attraction? I can't imagine how one can fall in love without it.
Ugggghhh. A truly "perfect" example...@redoleander , as though I may be the superficial one, your idea about the other being limited in depth interests me.
Example: a guy I used to love & felt was holding back the best part of himself from me. I tried to destroy the surface and reach the depth while he seemed to resist, virtually banging my head against the wall.
After I got to know him better, I concluded that there was nothing special beneath the surface: I noticed that he repeated the same stories, jokes and flirtations with every one to get attention as if he had memorized them, was obsessed with how many likes & comments he received on Instagram and became resentful if someone complimented him less than expected, told dirty jokes & talked dirty over & over but was freaked by normal, realistic discussions about sex, tried hard to win the board games, and catcalled girls in a shameful way in the streets. He was in mid 30s by the way.
@diamant , finally I have romantic charisma or not?
Would you mind explaining "Charisma would never accept to become a 48", it sounds interesting but I don't think I understand it. Meaning the boring-ness or staidness of 48? That it wants to be more exciting than that?So as things stand, sorry, no, you haven't yet honed the 'charisma' strategy. Charisma would never accept to become a 48.
Predators may not care about who you are, but, on the other hand, the charisma definitely increases your power & options.It's completely down to random luck if you'll ever meet someone who is not like that.
And it's completely down to you to learn to recognise players and fend them off.
Predators don't care about who you are. They don't care if you have charisma or not. They're just looking for prey.
No idea. The guys were from similar social classes. I guess these girls had no better option. They wanted to be married at a certain age, while people like them who aren't practically considered attractive in the society (even if they are in its classic sense) have a difficult time finding anyone eager to have a relationship with them.Those girls who married someone they don't fancy (nightmare!), they probably fancy his wallet.
My greatest practical mistake (beside the psychological ones) has been this; being on the bench, constantly there, overly available without asking for much. And not only with the ones I had romantic feelings for.48 in relationships is the hexagram of the 'bench', the one on the side, the one who will always be there if and when you need them. A reliable steady source that one can use again and again, to take from it again and again. Here, the three lines of 45 lead to a 48 situation.
45.2 someone accepts an invitation even if the offering is small (red flag: the offering is small)
45.3 a collection of sighs, no benefit, a bit humiliating (red flag: there is suffering already)
45.4 this line sticks out like a sore thumb - great luck and nothing wrong..?
In 47.3 someone loses everything because of the bad decisions they made.
In 28.4 there's a large 'ridgepole' and also 'a snake on its tail' which is ungenerous.
48 ending up on the bench.
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
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