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Certainly looks like there will be some great positive outcome from your making that attempt to change, but whether it means you'll actually get back with the woman isn't so sure. But worth the effort, even if it leads somewhere else.I did another question, is there a chance ¨we can get back together if i change what is hurting our relationship?¨ and got
hexagram 26.6 : 11.
could there be any other possible interpretations ?I'm afraid it sounds like she's with someone else for now (44.2)
could there be any other possible interpretations ?
Yes. That she was eating her favourite fish at that moment when you called her, and it pissed her off very much to be interrupted.
T’ung Jen is a hexagram that explores your principles, character, integrity, and how you interact with others
In joining with another, the relationship will allow you to share a special connection, but is not always a romantic or harmonious interaction .This is because there is more of an emphasis on gaining Clarity about how you behave in relationship to others. Yet, there is a lot to learn from these partnerships.
The hidden influence of Coming to Meet allows for the exploration of the Shadow in your relationships. It is an opportunity to own the dynamics you bring to your relationships rather than blame others for your condition. If you can discover even the smallest insight about yourself through a relationship, regardless of its duration, it has been successful
Can you contain the Coupling power, bring it under control? That’s the first positive recommendation of the hexagram:
‘Held fast by a golden chock. Constancy: good fortune.
With a direction to go, see the pitfall:
A scrawny pig can be trusted to kick and struggle.’
That’s the only time we see ‘good fortune’ in Hexagram 44: when it’s being contained and held fast. If you identify with the impulse, let it become your direction, then you look a great deal like that pig. Stop and steady the ship; beware of unconscious desires that, left unchecked, might end up running the whole show.
This is a fertility image and omen: a basket lowered into the river to catch fish. If you trap some, this bodes well for a marriage and future fertility – as in line 2:
‘In this basket there are fish.
No mistake.
Not fruitful to entertain guests.’
So the omens are good, or at least not actively bad; now, you need to hold onto the potential and not get ahead of yourself. Margaret Pearson thinks of this as the early stages of pregnancy, to be safeguarded with quiet and Retreat (Hexagram 33, revealed by this line change). SJ Marshall pointed out to us that ‘entertaining guests’ also means the bin rite, performed to introduce the new bride to the groom’s ancestors: you don’t want to go that far yet, just on the strength of a few fish. Drawing on both these ideas, I wrote in my book, “What you do not have is a guarantee of results. It is far too early to introduce your hope to a wider context and expect it to bear fruit. For now, it should have your inner space to itself, free from premature expectations. You can best care for any long term possibilities by not presuming on them.”
56.1 shows a traveller who does small jobs here and there, to make a living. That means he does not have a steady job or trade, so he does a variety of bits and pieces. Because he's not proficient in any of those small jobs, he sooner or later has an accident/misfortune. So first of all, reconsider your professional life to avoid misfortune.
56.2 here the traveller has made some money, and he keeps it safe and close to his chest, i.e. he has made some savings. So he goes to a hotel and in this manner finds a young servant (presumably a young person who works at the hotel). Do you view your romantic relationships as temporary (hotel), do you view your partners as servants? I'm making this guess because you described yourself as dictatorial.
The result of the above path of life is 14, a lot of money and possessions, or perhaps a lot of small jobs and a lot of hotels and servants. Your professional life is risky, but it can still produce some money. Then the temporary servants can also provide some benefit.
I would say review, carefully, your actions and their consequences. Make a plan for the future, as to how you plan to act differently so as to have different results. I hope this helps. Don't give up, change is possible when you really want it.
26.6 > 11
This is one of my most favourite casts. Certainly do reflect on your mistakes, and act to correct those behaviours of yours which are destructive. Once you do that, the sky is the limit. You will then be able to move in any direction you please. You will have all roads open to you. Once you're in that strong position, I doubt that you yourself will even want to return to a toxic and poisoned relationship.
Of course, yes there can be other interpretations. Yi readings are not facts and factual conclusions, especially about a third party, your ex, are not available to us via Yi or any other divinatory means. For facts use factual means, I'd take what she says here as your best guide to the truth. If she is lying we don't that so that's up to your judgement.could there be any other possible interpretations ?
I asked her a couple days ago and she said no. I wouldn't be upset if she said yes tbh...
Now that you mention that I want to know, but at the same time... what would I get from knowing …
So you got 44.1.2>13 for asking if there was something you should do?For a year we did not see each other or speak. After that year, somehow we ended up coming together, it was hard at the beginning, a lot of doubts and insecurities. We did have a good time for a while, but then my shitty, dictator personality emerged . Complaining about her what was ultimately my responsibility ruined the good we had, she is insecure, and also sometimes a bit toxic as well,
recently we distanced ourselves. I asked the I Ching if it there was something i should do ? She now seems that she made up her mind to move on and separate.
If someone takes all the responsibility for what went wrong slight alarm bells sound in my head because actually it's rare if one person is the whole problem. Presumably you have been through a lot of pain in life if you have turned to drugs, you needed an escape and making relationships isn't easy for you so maybe you did the best you could at the time in your own way. 26.6 looks very good for pursuing the changes you want to make though. Whether that means you will get back together I don't know, also consider this relationship may put your psyche under pressure you find hard to handle so it's a massive thing for you to change and to try to work it out with her again. It's maybe not just a question of her accepting you back but also asking yourself if you can cope with it if she does come back. In a sense you have to take care of you as a priority before attempting relationship again or putting pressure on yourself to have a good connection with her. You're struggling with all kinds of pressures that make you want to act right away(44.1) so hold back impulsive behaviour, give yourself time.We did have a good time for a while, but then my shitty, dictator personality emerged . Complaining about her what was ultimately my responsibility ruined the good we had, she is insecure, and also sometimes a bit toxic as well,
After 'hanging' ? What made you cry a lot?after hanging I cried a lot, and asked the i Ching what should I do now? not regarding at her, but asking for me... what should I do with myself
and got 56.1.2 to 14
The I Ching is not a divination tool like Tarot or Astrology, which is based on the "other" or fortunes and outcomes. The I Ching, QiJing, or any of the other five, when we get receive the Hexagram when asking for help, is about us and our behavior changing.
There's a great restlessness and discomfort here, a great desire to move but you are being asked not to be governed by your impulses. That doesn't necessarily mean you shouldn't try to get her back it's just rushing into things, wanted the sorted straight away could be frustrating.
The idea is there's something here but it's time to keep it private, not let others in. It could be saying to bide your time or that whilst there is something still there between you you cannot make this an 'official' or open relationship yet. In wikiwing there is talk of 'bin rites' connected with this line. I think these were the rites that made a marriage ready to proceed and it is saying this isn't the time for that yet.
Oh re the 13 there will be other ways to interpret 13 there. To me with all the tempestuousness of 44, 13 looks quite calming. Perhaps if you do get back together it would help to make your relationship more part of the community, more open or as I said perhaps a community actually holds and supports the difficulty of the relationship.
After 'hanging' ? What made you cry a lot?
For you things look good IMO, you can get things you want (14) and whilst you feel alone you aren't really looking at line 2 here. I don't know who it might be that accompanies you here. Line 1 is a caution not to get caught up in things that are really important to your life, remember you are journeying and a traveller has to travel light.
You didn't get 14 though except in 26.6>14 and in that reading line 6 is of paramount importance.
26.6 looks very good for pursuing the changes you want to make though. Whether that means you will get back together I don't know, also consider this relationship may put your psyche under pressure you find hard to handle so it's a massive thing for you to change and to try to work it out with her again.
Yes I know that feeling.Because you know, the frustration of losing someone, all the nice things, the nice moments, and not being able to have actually realized how important was all that... Feeling stupid for taking things for granted.
Regarding line 2: I can't understand it... That's like the only one that I can't really grasp...
The hotel? the maid ? what does that mean ?
after hanging I cried a lot, and asked the i Ching what should I do now? not regarding at her, but asking for me... what should I do with myself
and got 56.1.2 to 14
is this the idea i should need to start over somewhere else, be like moving to another country ?
I used to live in Germany and got back to Argentina ( where I was born ).
Since I came back, I don't feel that good. I have my career ( I'm a musician ) and friends there and I feel very isolated and lonely here and the leaving again is something I've had in my thoughts for a while now
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