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InterestingHonestly, he seemed to create a fuzz in my mind.
We get 64 as our relating hexagram whenever we are trying to make fine distinctions between things or about people. 'The Superior Man takes care to distinguish between things before arranging them in order.'"Please advice me on whether or not to say anything to Adam at the current time". Answer: 59.4.5 > 64
In the big picture of things, being that I do not have any pleasant connection with this guy, other than a store conversation, I don't see it beneficial to help him (to ease his mind as to why I am not returning his messages). In the long run, perhaps from this, he will also learn something. I know I am formulating lessons right now...:bows:They aren't your responsibility. Feeling sorry for them or giving them room to "grow" isn't your responsibility. That was up to their Mother to work out and obviously she's failed. Take on what you know how to cope with and leave the basket cases for the people who can ably sign on for a very heavy load and give as good as they take.
I feel no sympathy for this guy -- he needs to understand how he affects people and that he puts them off with the overboard approach.
Yes. I think it is perhaps a fuzzy mind thing. Perhaps I have been reading the Yi's answers wrong all along and I need to remember that they are speaking directly to me.59.5 speaks of a King who disperses his riches and this line can be interpreted in many ways. If you stay alone by yourself quietly, you will find the solution welling up into your conscious mind from the depths of your unconscious mind. There is no need to demonize this man or keep him in your memory as an enemy of some kind.
Sounds like the energy of this man was buffeting you -- as if he were attacking you or forcing himself on you. But realistically speaking, was that his intention? Or is that the way he is with everybody?
And because you are a very sensitive individual, your sensations were highly unpleasant and your mind felt affected.
You're right -- not apples to apples because there is no such thing in the Yi; nor anywhere else in terms of human behaviour. My point isn't that. My point is that as a woman living by yourself and not knowing right away who you are dealing with [by dint of poor information OR inexperience OR both] you have to live smart -- not scared -- smart. I'm not inordinately scared of anyone or anything. But I don't go looking for a tornado to walk into either.Arabella, without providing the exact question and reading you got, that isn't exactly an Apples to Apples comparison in terms of how the Yi speaks. I think sometimes you women dump your personal history of pain on a man who does not deserve it, and damage men's hearts - because yours have been.
Really the group of you women dishing on the crazy men you've known scaring the crap out of each other, branding this man as being a pervert or sexual predator or abuser for no good reason, he made no threats, crude comments, sexual propositions or anything like that, this is a bit disturbing to me. Talking about women's advocacy groups, shelters and calling the cops a when all he did was call and text a woman who gave him her number - Jeez. A fear feeding frenzy looked like to me, without objective good reason for it, and not supported by the Yi either whose advice expressed through several readings you all chose to ignore.
I have female friends that have been rape victims btw. And in my observation the biggest thing that helped with the healing process and moving forward in one's life was the practice of kindness. Even one that had been sold into prostitution and raped, but became sane and whole and a truly loving whole being through her relationship with God and the assiduous practice of kindness, this was direct guidance to her. There are men she will not call back - but for cause, because they are being crude or propositioning her, not because of uncontrollable inner fear. Certainly woman should protect themselves always, listen to their intuition. But this was hardly a walking down a dark street drunk alone late at night situation, this was someone who just just looked kinda like the man and crows flying in the sky triggering fear.
Living in fear is a big problem, you are always with yourself.
Please don't say 'you women,' Lava, although I can understand why you said that.I think sometimes you women ... A fear feeding frenzy looked like to me, without objective good reason for it
Ohio is not bad at all but I will tell you, a couple of month's ago, a 45 year old woman was getting into her garage. She parked the car outside and was going to walk into the door on the side of the garage. Four people in masks came up to her at gunpoint. They demanded she get into her car and drive them around to different ATM's and pull out all of her money from her bank accounts. This is my neighbor. She lives4 houses down from my apartment.I'm not anywhere near Ohio, don't know Answered Questions at all. Who knows what state of mind people are in on here when they cast the Yi? You want to hear somebody got hurt and then say -- oh gee but I thought that the Yi said................
Pardon me, but I will err on the side of caution.
Hi Lava - I think maybe you are taking your own personal experience and feelings and placing them into the situation. This is of course allowed and truely a big part of what life is about. It is about sharing the experiences that we have went through with others, and connecting them. Through these experiences we gain instincts and use them as best as we can, to sense what the situation needs and what does, and does not, need communicated. Lava, I think we are very similar in some ways... if you are talking about validating emotions, how about the emotions of an innocent, if socially inexperienced man whose heart you damage by treating him like a non-person, as a leper, social pariah/pervert/rapist when he is nothing of the sort? When the group of you started talking amongst yourselves branding this man - how would that man have felt do you think, listening to the group of you speak of him that way?
A little time line:What aggression? What exactly did he do?
In the above quote lava, you are talking about me not responding to him, but I would like you to view it from my angle and see how your quote could be something I would say to him.Makes no sense - but it does clearly send an emotional message.
He wouldn't, but he would know that he is coming on to strong.I could have, in the apex of my fear, messaged him something like "Quit sending me messages, you are freaking me out". At that point, he would think I was treating him like someone who is a criminal or an outcast.
Absolutely, and he needs no more message than that. Why he doesn't get it is his problem.Instead I simply did not reply. This would imply I am just not interested.
Yes, I know what you mean, Lava. It was like we formed a clique in agreement that AQ needed protection from the 'bad' man. We formed a woman's circle and that left you in a not-so-subtle way on the outside of the discussion, since you're obviously not a woman.What bothered me was how you women were discussing him.
Thank you, Arabella, for this posting on hexagram 11, which shows a different side of hex 11 than I am used to ... and so it expands my understanding by adding the idea that there's more involved, once the 'all-pervading' quality has started, than one can know (or control). Like taking a turn in a theme park on a water ride like the Flume, or whatever it used to be called at Coney Island in Brooklyn, I guess amid all the splashing, I guess one's experience of it all depends on whether or not one really wanted to take the ride in the first place.In my case it [Hexagram Eleven] meant to ride the wave until a violent man is out of my life. Which only proves -- it can mean that.
Arabella, the Yi could have easily told AQ that for a woman to see the world through the crack of a door is without blame. It did not choose to do so. The Yi assumes and expects superiority - high minded, conscientious, spiritually aware thought and action - from people who come to it asking for advice. In fact it is written specifically for the "Superior," [/U ]illuminating the path to maturity and personal power, and fulfilling one's human potential.
You preferred to substitute your own wisdom.
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