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Hi Henry,Let go, give her space to heal and when she returns become the friend you want to be.
Hi Henry,
Thank you for your response. If she'd want to have a no contact period I'd think about it, but actually she's the one that wants to stay in contact and the one who suggested it. Do you mean for me to take a break away from her for both of us to heal?
Which part of which reading?From the reading I see she already has found another person but is "breedcrumbing" you as backup plan.
Which part of which reading?
I think the reading is Hexagram 5 (Waiting) and not 51 (Shock)I always read 51.1 as "change is coming" ; even when you think you are going through a rough patch, you´ll recover something really good that you thought it was lost. To me this is an auspicious line.
I don't know what you mean by that, Henry.there were three lines, then there remain only two.
I don't know what you mean by that, Henry.
And as far as I can tell, 13.5 doesn't say "she already has found another person but is "breedcrumbing" you as backup plan." It says this:
'People in harmony first cry out and weep, then afterwards they laugh.
Great leaders direct their coming together.'
For what it's worth, I also don't know what "breadcrumbing" is, but that's a minor point.
From the reading I see she already has found another person but is "breedcrumbing" you as backup plan. Be kind and tolerant to yourself and leave for better pastures,
Hi Sofocles,Very tricky situation indeed. I'm sorry you're experiencing this.
There is definitely hope for the friendship, no doubt, and, according to my personal experience with 13.1.4.5 > 52, more than that is possible, but let's focus on what she actually said. But in 13.1.4.5 dominant line is 4, so it's ok to take time out and measure things out.
Definitely 5.1 recommends waiting, there's not much one can do. The Well suggests that nothing valuable will be extinguished, you can have that assured. The Well will be always there.
In this post suggests waiting "in the distance"
Patience 5.1 to 48
Hello, So I posted a relationship question to the IChing. Lately me and my girlfriend have had some diffiulties, we are long distance and I plan to go visit her in July. It has been 4 months since I saw her, and she is more distant each day. We had a recent fight a couple of weeks ago where we...www.onlineclarity.co.uk
I don't want to say what's gonna happen, but I feel it's possible for you to get back together if that's something you both want. at any moment.
The thing is: Hex 5 is about patience... And patience is dealing with the harshest sh*t, thoughts and feelings. Finding the best attitude to go through it is important. So "moving on" is not an overnight thing... :S There's also not a right answer, so you can just go through it according to your own judgement...
You cannot hold onto it forever if she doesn't want it, so it's ok if you move on. But if she does want you, I don't think anything will disappear. No opportunities will be lost. So, I think "moving on" is definitely a slow process that, is annoying, but has to be embraced in it's frustrating quality
Hi Rosada,How to move on? 5.1>48.
When it comes to moving on, perhaps the first thing we should focus on is “Towards what?”as in, “What is it we are moving on to?“ When we have a clear concept of our goal it’s almost as if the goal itself has a magnetism that draws us to it.
5.1 > 48 reads to me as if the I Ching is saying you’re waiting for your path forward to emerge out of The Well of All Possibilities and thus it would be helpful to have a clearer picture of your goal for the relationship. Maybe you’d get value from asking the ic “Describe what a good relationship with my friend would be.”
Hello...Hi Sofocles,
Thank you for your insight! It's appreciated.
What made you think there's a possibility to get back together?
The idea and fear of letting go fully made me ask about the potential of the connection, relating to my fear of fully letting go and I got 5 yet again Hexagram 5.3.5 > 19
I have a strong intuition about the friendship too, just seeing the well willing energy we bring to each other. We are trying to take our time because finding how to make a friendship work while both still loving each other is hard. For now the letters work quite well but with direct interaction, it's easier to get lost in the flow of feelings.
I see, I have had different readings and they seem to tell me to equally let go but also wait. I just notice myself struggling a lot recently and feeling like I have to get rid of my feelings because the friendship element been strengthening my love for her so it feels like moving backwards and forward at the same time. It hurts but also I value her presence in my life too much to let go of investing into a friendship.
She said she sees no future with me regardless of her feelings and that's conflicting her too although she does not regret leaving me. She's someone who really holds on to the way "she has things in her mind" so I don't see her straying away from that cause she made a commitment to it. But I wouldn't be suprised if some sort of feeling for each other remains. She said she does want me but does not feel like it's possible for her anymore cause her motivation had been exhausted. I think holding on when her words clearly indicate there's no remedy to it would be foolish. Still I feel hesitant because letting go feels like a confrontation I have to slowly go into, because it means fully accepting it's over on both a mind and heart level. The mind accepts but my heart isn't ready yet. It is indeed slow.
I'm very happy to hear that it turned out this way with your person! Unfortunately I don't see my ex partner changing her mind.Hello...
Yes is indeed painful... From the looks of it you can keep being her friend and just keep sending letters back and forth, why not? It will be painful either way. So might aswell keep the connection? Just see how it progresses that way. Give it a month. Two months. If it's worse, then you can decide to force some silence (no contact).
Usually relationships that end need no contact but that's not mandatory. If you feel this attached and she feeds this friendship, I mean why not?
Yes she may well not want you back. What made me say that was, 1- the well, and 2- the hexagram 13.1.4.5 that I got personally with an "identical" situation. A friendship I had with someone I was actually in love with. Until I felt I couldn't do it any longer and said I needed to suspend our contact and confessed my feelings. I wasn't feeling like I could pursue the relationship.
However I actually went back to talk to that person and now we are dating.... But, again, each situation is a situation. And that was an actual thing that happened with me but it's a very different story. And the reply (13.1.4.5) was about me questioning the friendship, not the romantic relationship
much luck to you <3
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