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The result's meaning wasn't clear to me: there are three changing lines with not so positive connotations, then there is hexagram 34- Great Vigour- which can be interpreted as gaining power. I can't understand: 1- How the changing lines that talk about pitfall can lead to a vigourous position,
& 2- Where the power is to be manifested? Is it a sign of strengthening the relationship? Or it rather talks about me gaining the strenght to leave it behind?Maybe these interpretations sound simplistic. I'm not that professional.
Progress of my comlicated relationship: 188.8.131.52 to 34
I met a guy last year & sensed the potential of great connection and attraction between us from the start.
I texted him, he showed interest and our relationship -which was intended to be casual at the time- began. After a few months of mixed signals, he admitted that he had a girlfriend and that he was sorry and ashamed for his behavior. I was very heartbroken as I was falling in love with him. I cut all contacts. He texted me after a month and we restarted chatting.
I realized that being in contact was very hard for me while trying to be just friends without the possibility of getting romantic because of his partner.
Since, I've tried to cut things several times, only to start chatting again (he has been the one who initiated most of the time). Now I'm not as emotional as I was during the first months. I love this guy and can't resist communicating with him, though I've did my best not to pass the limits of friendship. Some flirtation occurred, yes, but that's all. And I know being in romantic relationship with a taken guy is harmful to my emotional well being and try hard to prevent so. However I can't help myself dreaming about getting romantic/sexual with him...
I got hexagram 64 (Not Yet Across) changing to 34 (Great Vigour); in other words, 184.108.40.206 to 34, in matters of our relationship. What do you think about that? Where is going this relationship
I don't know whether the girlfriend is real or not. And it doesn't change the fact that he has been keeping me at arms' length. I suspected his emotional distance from the start. Then he talked about the girlfriend.I'm wondering if he came up with a 'girlfriend' in order to create distance between you. Well clearly he did since he didn't speak of her at the beginning when he wanted to be close to you.
It makes sense. I wanted a casual relationship when I met him & he clearly said everything was going to be open. But even then, he wasn't "present" with me and didn't seem to enjoy the moment. He was uncomfortable. He became much more open and trusting after admitting (?) to have a girlfriend. Why did I fall in love with him? I was attracted to him from the start, and he had some traits I appreciated. Then I realized he wasn't going to invest in the relationship as much as I expected.I don't like the sound of this at all...64 can be about things left perpetually open ended and my sense is is that he wants to leave this open ended.What he is doing is managing your emotions. You were getting intense so he pulled back but then decided he wanted just a bit of you so started texting again.
I see.Well no I don't suppose you can. This really isn't good for you and what's more you should realize this is quite manipulative on his part. He wants to keep you there, at arms length as an option by the sound of it without ever recognizing that he has any degree of responsibility for your emotional welfare. Don't give your heart to someone like this.
I would ask him why he needed to create such a pretext, as the relationship was meant to be casual. So he could simply talk about why he needed more space etc- even could easily break up with me as we had no plan for the future (now I want a serious relationship with a reliable partner, but that's another story. I didn't want any commitment one year ego).If there was no girlfriend and he made it up in order to distance you how would you feel ?
That's why I distanced myself. The real battle for me, I guess, is to leave behind the hope and romanticism that make me think about him despite all of that.If he is with someone else and not with you then don't have a relationship with him until he is with you and no one else.
Yes, I was very excited at the beginning of our relationship, and it was visible to my family & friends. Then there was disillusion after disillusion: from mixed signals & lack of enthusiasm on his part to his confession. My perceived great potential turned sour too fast.Line 1:
Six at the beginning means:
He gets his tail in the water.
Enthusiasm leads to failure. From the beginning the idea of deception has been established through his lack of honest...of delayed honesty (if I am being generous). It is not your fault it is the lack of integrity that has created humiliation.
He has been indeed too indecisive. He obviously felt guilt over his behavior, yet was unable to resist the temptation; withdrew, then came back to seduce.Line 3:
Six in the third place means:
Before completion, attack brings misfortune..
It furthers one to cross the great water.
The ability for him to make the transition towards you is incomplete. He is unable to make that transition. The other way to look at it, you cannot make the transition because you have been blocked, stopped, deceived...rendering without will. At this time in order to make the right transition it is time to shift your attention to another possibility. Perhaps it is time to move away from him and remained grounded.
Sometimes our communication incarnated "the fantasy of love"- and reminded me of my childhood memories, when everything was colorful, happy, perfect, worry-free.Line 6:
Nine at the top means:
There is drinking of wine
In genuine confidence. No blame.
But if one wets his head,
He loses it, in truth.
The possibility of a relationship with this person gives to a new beginning for you. The time you spend communicating creates a fantasy of love and life. The horizon is filled possibility. Your passion for him is sincere the possibility is real and yet there is a warning. The elephant in the room is that he is unavailable (most importantly he is not authentic with you). Your passion blinds you to these restrictions/limitations. You become drunk with idea that causes you a potential unfavorable ending. The duplicitousness of the situation is that like HEX 64 it is filled with possibility and littered with caveats.
He has said nothing about the GF to my friend- as he didn't initially tell me. He has even complained about the girls who have "abused" his kindness in the past (I wonder how they've been ever able to "use" this man...). Apparently, he's repeating the same pattern with my friend.I'm wondering if he came up with a 'girlfriend' in order to create distance between you. Well clearly he did since he didn't speak of her at the beginning when he wanted to be close to you.
Have you any evidence of this girlfriend ? I don't know why but I suspect she doesn't exist. Often if people want to make distance they suddenly say they have a partner but it's not always true.
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