Really? 45.4 > 8

[samoyedgrrl]

I had this great post....but unfortunately the battery in my laptop died tonight and it vanished along with the power! Ugh. Okay, I'll try to recreate the glorious post I had before!

I am currently in a relationship with "A", and we are at a decision making point. He is concerned about our age difference and has gone on a business trip, where he will be contemplating what we should do. In essence, when he returns, we will have a discussion which will decide to either continue or cease this relationship in its entirety. Needless to say, my mind has been spazzing with questions of "OMG, will this work out?!?!" nonstop since we last talked. I really appreciate any insight you could provide on my castings. Hopefully they are bringing me the peace I need during this time of uncertainty.

The first question I asked was, "What role does A want me to have in his life in the future?" 45.4 > 8. I take this to mean he sees a real connection here, a kindred soul kind of feel to things for him. He wants a romantic union with me.

I followed up with, "What else do I need to know about this with A?" 46.5 > 48. I think this is telling me that to take things gradually, step by step. There is a lot of emotion here, but slow progress is key.

I wondered, "What does my future with A hold?" 26.2.6 > 36. Yi is telling me that I need not blurt out all my feelings, keep things in reserve and let it unfold. I need to let him do the work at this point. Ugh, so difficult.

Of course, I then went with the frantic question, "Will A be mine ultimately?" 19.1.2 > 2. Calmly, Yi tells me "Chill out, child." All will be well in time, but this is not the time to act. Wait. Be receptive to him.

I know I'm overreacting and spazzing out here, as in the past I have asked what potential we have as a couple, and received a 53.1 > 37. I think I have been given the green light here, but my worries and fears are kicking in overtime now. What do you make of it? Thanks for the help!

 

[dancing white ferret]

I think 45.4>8 means he wants a genuine connection with you and does not want something where each person is just trying to meet their own needs.

 

[samoyedgrrl]

Thanks, Dancingwhiteferret! It sounds like 45.4 > 8 reflects what he said about seeking a long term relationship, something stable. Hopefully that means he sees a potential of having that fulfilled in a relationship with me. I appreciate your input on my castings!

 

[dancing white ferret]

I'll see what else I can come up with. I actually just cast 45.4>8 today myself for "Will I get the job I applied to?" so it was fresh in my mind. I think it means we will both get what we want. Anyway, that is a lot of hexagrams for one post. I thought I was the only one who did 4 in 1's . (My most recent fourfer related to a job hunt question). I have been sick since Wed, and not going out tonight, so I'll try to look at some of the other ones too.

 

[samoyedgrrl]

That's so nice of you to offer that! I certainly hope you get to feeling better soon...and do great on that job hunt! I'm normally pretty good about not pestering Yi, but in a case like this where I know my heart is already involved, it is hard to hold back.

 

[dancing white ferret]

Yes, I know. Me too, but lately I'm consulting like a dozen times a day with the job search and all. And with relationships, well, I have to admit I have a history of Yi abuse with these kinds of questions. Cards too. My ex would always be surprised when I would already know he was tired or wanted to hang with his friends! I think 26.2.6>36 is simply saying settle down, wait, don't push forward (line 2) the impasse will be removed but the future is uncertain (line 6), as it always is. ENJOY THE NOW.

Here is a thread I found with the index, and I think Pocossin has a good interpretation for you there.
http://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/friends/showthread.php?t=14083

By the way, I am new to this.

 

[dancing white ferret]

53.1>37 generally sounds good for relationship potential I think. All the lines in 53 have to do with geese who are faithful in their partnerships for life. In line 1 it says something about danger to the young, which I think means vulnerability in the beginning. Use special care with in the early stages, and with 37 as the transformed hex, potential for a family with this person.

According to LiSe
The wild geese gradually approach the riverbank. The young ones are in danger. There is talk. Without fault.
Follow your intuition, your inner hunches. They will not give solutions, but they guide every step. You find your right future by a step and another step and on and on.

 

[samoyedgrrl]

Update

First off, I have to congratulate dancing white ferret on the new-ish job! I'm so happy to hear you found something that you're excited about! (I saw the posts you had written in other places on this site)

So, here it is in a very quick, little nutshell. I never heard from "A" again. I saw where he had been checking out my online profile on a dating site and has pretty much given up on his dating life overall. I think he has discovered women his age in this part of the world are not for him. I think he definitely is looking for that deep connection, the one who connects with him mentally and emotionally, but has quickly found it isn't as easy to find as he thought it would be in a younger package.

What he is looking for is not me, and I'm okay with that. I agree that the connection we had was incredible and powerful. However, it wasn't *the* one. The thought of meeting his family with such an age difference truly gave me reason to pause as well. So, I have let go and moved on. Currently, I'm dating two guys, one of which has apparently started the "fade" and the other is seemingly taking his space in my life. I think he's seriously considering me girlfriend material. Only time will tell, right? I really appreciate your input on my frantic castings here.