Relatonship question, 21 to 50

[my_key]

Hi Aluhut
This has been a long and arduous relationship for you and having it end in the way it did must have been cut you deeply. I am sure, in time, when you reflect back on all that has happened there will be much that you can learn from the whole experience.

This is not an 'I told you so' post as I have not told you anything before. I offer an observation about the readings that you have posted here, as my hope is that this will hold you in good stead for your future relationship with Change.

In a number of the posts you appear to have approached them only with selective hearing and seemed intent on making the message align with what you wanted to hear rather than spending a bit more time discerning what the message was actually saying.

An example might be

So I asked the question "What does she feels about our relationship now" and received

58.2.6->25

A simple interpretation might be that what she feels about your relationship now is a sense of 'Joy' through 'Disentangling'. So, perhaps, even here there was writing on the wall to be seen.

Similarly, you have not always helped yourself to frame the response to answer the question you have actually asked

I also come up with a really good question (I hope) to verify that. "What is the biggest illusion I have about relationship with her ?"

7.4.5->47

You became lost and confused in the lines. Keeping it simple can cut through the fog. The meaning might well be '[The biggest illusion that you carry about the relationship is that (just from the Image) you are supporting the commoner (your girlfriend) and that all your activity is in any way getting her on board', Again, I appreciate this may not be easy to hear, especially if you are looking in the direction of another more welcome outcome.

Properly listening to Yi, as well as in life, can fend off many a painful experience.

Take good care of yourself as you recover.

Good Luck

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[rosada]

Maybe look at it this way - we all got to learn a lot more about the hexagrams because you shared your process with us,
You suffered a lot so we could learn a lot!
So thank you for your service to the group! Really!
May your changes come easily as you now glide on to your next real life adventure!
R

 

[Aluhut]

Everyone heard the expression "life stranger than fiction". Well, count me in.

One of the last thing she said to me in person was "Good luck with an interview". It went well, and then another two and I got an amazing job offer. In the city where she lives. Moving there was my plan for a while, but it's very ironic how it turned out.

Yesterday I was having apartment viewings for my upcoming move. Went to have a coffee to a bakery close to my hotel. It's a small artisan chain with 3 places in this city. She brought me bread from that bakery for my birthday, so it has some nostalgic value for me. I was sitting outside, contemplating my life. And then i saw her, exiting the apartment builiding literally next door to the bakery. She noticed me, said "oh, hi" and walked past. I was shocked to say the least, it took me a minute or maybe more to get up and run for her.

I asked if we could just talk, nothing else. First she said that she is in a hurry to meet her friend. And then "I'm not sure what to talk about. We just had different expectations and I think I made this clear by not replying to your message". I mumbled something, and then our conversation was cut short as she met her friend. I said goodbye and turned back.

Seems I got my closure, but of course not even close to a way I hoped for. As always.