Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).
For some time, my husband has been working on home improvement projects on our house. He's a do-it-yourselfer, while I think it's more economical to hire a professional. He's been prevailing in general, but I let him know in no uncertain terms that I'd like it to be different. Recently a new problem came up in the kitchen that will require some plumbing work. My husband wants to tackle it, but I want to hire a contractor. He doesn't want to spend money, which we are short on. On the other hand, I don't want to end up resenting him for making our already tiny kitchen impossible to maneuver in for a long time while he figures out what he is doing. I'd be willing to give on this for the sake of marital harmony (which has been lacking in general), but I am truly worn down by the dissaray that has been part of our house for years. I asked "What is right action regarding this conflict with my husband" and received 57 unchanging. I have absolutely no idea what this means. Thanks in advance for any insights.
For some time, my husband has been working on home improvement projects on our house. He's a do-it-yourselfer, while I think it's more economical to hire a professional. He's been prevailing in general, but I let him know in no uncertain terms that I'd like it to be different. Recently a new problem came up in the kitchen that will require some plumbing work. My husband wants to tackle it, but I want to hire a contractor. He doesn't want to spend money, which we are short on. On the other hand, I don't want to end up resenting him for making our already tiny kitchen impossible to maneuver in for a long time while he figures out what he is doing. I'd be willing to give on this for the sake of marital harmony (which has been lacking in general), but I am truly worn down by the dissaray that has been part of our house for years. I asked "What is right action regarding this conflict with my husband" and received 57 unchanging. I have absolutely no idea what this means. Thanks in advance for any insights.
The main line in character in 57 is one of the most dificult to translate, because the oldest meaning of the word is lost, so dictioneries only give some derived meanings. But the lines gives us some good hints which makes it clear that in some lines it means to penetrate in others to be penetrated depending what line you get. But if no lines it always means penetration or to penetrate.
I think it means that you should press through with your will.
. As I said, our relationship is already a bit rocky, and there is a need to tread delicately and respectfully. The male/female gender roles feel valid, as I know that my husband's sense of pride is very much a part of this issue, and I am not very good at stereotypical feminine deference. I was able to help him with a building project this weekend by contributing in a manner that was very subtle and gentle. So maybe I am more capable of channeling this energy than I realize! I live in hope anyway.
I followed up with a second cast as suggested, asking "what is the best path for arriving at a solution to our kitchen problem?" and got 36 unchanging. "Hidden brightness" seems to reinforce the idea of the answer coming through communication that is not bold, but perhaps indirect?
Thanks again for the generosity of the reflections shared...Not sure I'll ever be able to conjure such insightfulness on my own...
Thanks again for all the feedback. No, Trojan, I don't there is a lot of flexibility, andI do think Gene and others are right in that this is part of a much bigger issue between my husband and I.
The question is, is this a matter of learning to manage communication in a reasoned respectful manner to improve our interaction across the board?
Or is it something else? The home improvement stuff is such a huge energy suck in both time and money. Entire weekends are devoted to my husband sanding walls. It's not what I want for us, and while he claims it's not what he wants, he claims there is no alternative because we can't afford to do otherwise. Meanwhile he is tired, and my kids get a father who feels like, well, less than he can be because he's so obsessed and tired. The whole thing feels like a stuck pattern and I don't know what can create a catalyzing force for change.
I asked as a last question; what is the crux of this home improvement quagmire? and got 28.1.2.5>55...Does that mean the dam will burst soon? I sometimes think somethings got to go terribly wrong before it stops. Thanks again if there is any additional feedback. I really appreciate the opportunity to externalize all of this. Talking about it actually makes remember there is hope in action, as I hadn't realized how resigned I was feeling about this.
I don't know but anyway I don't think this is a dire reading just a challenging one !
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).