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Hey Mandarine, thank you a lot!!!Hello CheersC,
a nice reading!
56.5 is comforting. This line is just the heart of the upper firy trigram. And the reading relates to 33, withdrawing, which is also withdrawing light - the afternoon maybe, or the evening?
58 unchanged is not such a clear answer. As a person, it is the younger sister. All about joy and communication … but maybe it is you, the communicating person? As an answer, it might not say much more than: just enjoy?
And 31.4., no worries.
All the best!
Mandarine_23
Until now he hasn't written.Hi CheersC,
well I don't know, but simply don't think that 33 means lies. Maybe it relates to the general situation of a Traveller, someone you won't see again for a while then, as you write, someone who maybe just goes his own paths, not all too involved in the foreign society (s)he meets as a traveller. There is a certain independance of the person in this situation.
And 58, I think, can be any girls, and doesn't have to be the "younger sister" as a person. And then, why not read the text of several lines there - being just open, which is good, and of course not all too open, and not trusting all too quickly.
And I don't think ist only for females, 58 is situation for everybody. On the other hand, it is a double female trigram, and so this might apply for your evening out. And if it is unchanged, then there is hexagram 2 as a Yang change pattern in it. It probably says - you are guided. You don't need to lead. Just be there, and this will be fine!
All the best, Mandarine
Enjoying my time anyways?Ah CheersC you really don't know and can't tell … there is so many reasons all the time with things like that. We all tend to think "Maybe he has met someone else" etc., but --- who knows. Maybe not!
Best thing is to - enjoy your time! Like hexagram 58.
31.4 Influence on the back. Hm... Stick to ur principles.. Hmmm
31.4You said 31.4, but 'influence in the back" is 31.5
Which line did you get, 4 or 5?
(they have very different meanings)
Yes we could have met before if we went with the flow, with something fast and quick like drinking a tea or something. He yelled at me he couldn't cuz he was working, when I mentioned this! XD I'm sure he had other people around,or he finds it extremely natural, otherwise he would have found a compromise since he is more cheeky than me.Hi CheersC, there is no such thing as "your fault"! Definitively not. This guy makes you feel insecure and uncomfortable … and this is not your fault and maybe even not his fault. Sometimes, in my experience, the other feels the same and then it's just not right. For me, it is a parameter with People - when I meet the right people, it just feels right and sweet. Maybe 31.4 ist about over-thinking!
All the best, Mandarine
You are describing abusive, controlling, disordered behaviour. If 'almost everyone' is like this in your life, that doesn't make it right and yes you can complain, and you certainly don't have to submit to such bullies. Please try to see a therapist if you can, you seem to have a persisting issue with accepting unacceptable behaviours from others.drinking a tea or something. He yelled at me when I mentioned this ... his temper that kinda have made me feel uhm submissive ... he makes me feel wrong, from the start... But almost everyone is like this so i cant complain ... When i say something, he makes me look like i said something silly. And he makes me feel with little choice! ... now I feel a bit discouraged and shaky
Uhm, the readings were better before!! How can that be it said I shouldn't worry.Should I accept to drink something with this guy? 56.5 > 30
Yes if you want a one-night-stand (this is one of the most common casts for that). But from your behaviour towards him, you didn't really want that. Once he understood you won't do that, he simply didn't contact you.
You are describing abusive, controlling, disordered behaviour. If 'almost everyone' is like this in your life, that doesn't make it right and yes you can complain, and you certainly don't have to submit to such bullies. Please try to see a therapist if you can, you seem to have a persisting issue with accepting unacceptable behaviours from others.
Yup.CC thanks for writing your thoughts so analytically. Of course you're at a young age, where you need experiences, to keep learning. I didn't mean you 'need' a therapist in a negative manner, I said it in the spirit of getting support to create a stronger belief in yourself - then again, it's so difficult to find a decent, deep-thinking therapist, some of them do more damage than good. So, please feel free to completely ignore that advice
I agree that it's good to give people a chance, to go on dates so that you meet the other person better, and so on. But I totally disagree that you need to tolerate intimidating behaviour (or covertly intimidating behaviour), by anyone. Please re-read these worrying points:
- on the other side the other people minimize, say I'm too guarded
- if I did react I would be defined a problem seeker
- they see me gentle and silent and think I'm easy to tease, or to bring to bed
- to tolerate his way of speaking because he had other positive sides
- if i want a relationship I have to accept the personality and not get mad
- insisting to see me after the job
- the comment about me that i should ask my parents to buy me a better camera
- i met many men with that loud temper (and with some power struggles)
- I tend to be submissive and tolerate just not to fight, until this pushes me to limits
- but I look like the mean one
- to see if I was just oversensitive
- it started nice and then i noticed the signals of feeling wrong
What opportunity..? The guy wasn't interested, he only wanted casual sex. You feel shaky because he rejected you.I wrote to him I was there to wish them merry Xmas but I didn't see him xD
I had the feeling to say it and now i feel better. By tomorrow I hope I will be able to focus on my life as before, and get new opportunities....here. But... Somehow i feel shaky for missing this opportunity just because of NONSENSE ANXIETY.
Correct concept to remember. In general it's true, with men there may be also the opposite problem, I set too many standards for physical contact but less for temper/respect or call it confidence, but this happens with women also.CheersC,
If you do not begin to set standards for yourself regarding what you will except from men, then you will be miserable for the rest of your life. You'll be used and abused again and again, and you will be the accomplice.
And take this from a former bartender (m.e.):
Meeting new people, looking for relationships while under the influence of alcohol is the absolute worst way to do it! You need your judgement to be unimpaired in order to see the other persons character clearly.
I wished I followed the line xD in my head I had plans to meet him, make pictures together and wish him good festivities. But... Except for the huge uncomfortable feelings and the fact I dont trust people easily, being forced to give up to hang out with a guy because I haven't got transports at night, bites. And it still hurts having given away for this reason.Hello CheersC,
a nice reading!
56.5 is comforting. This line is just the heart of the upper firy trigram. And the reading relates to 33, withdrawing, which is also withdrawing light - the afternoon maybe, or the evening?
58 unchanged is not such a clear answer. As a person, it is the younger sister. All about joy and communication … but maybe it is you, the communicating person? As an answer, it might not say much more than: just enjoy?
And 31.4., no worries.
All the best!
Mandarine_23
Yup this is why:Please analyse - why do you believe that he should say merry Christmas, and why do you believe that he should answer?
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).