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I've had a crush on this guy in my building for several months who has also shown interest in me. I get all flustered and embarrassing around him and haven't the slightest idea why. I asked last week what I can expect between us in October (I allow myself a question a month for fun without over-indulging) and got 18.104.22.168>8. Lo and behold, last night he invited me over for a glass of wine and we talked a lot and got to know each other a little better. We talked about boundaries and sort of ground rules about exploring this since we are neighbors. He told me he didn't ask me out sooner because he was seeing someone. He seems like a forthright person, but what do I know?
Today he asked me out on a date later in the week. I am excited but also nervous because we live in the same building and I don't know if some of the things I learned about him are deal-breakers (conservatism, religious beliefs... things that don't really appeal to me long term). I decided in the moment to create an environment of respect for our differences and not go far down that road in our conversation. So here I am still attracted and interested but nervous. I asked what do I need to know about him? 22.214.171.124>7.
Line 1 - there is another, no peace. Secret designs...
Is he seeing someone else? Is he manipulating me somehow? Or trying to?
Rosada says this in the memorizing threads:
61.1 Be prepared.
I always thought this was a rather benign line but now I'm thinking of it as a dire warning.
...I also dreamed last night that he had just been with someone else and a group of people were asking me what I was thinking. I told them in the dream to just let me enjoy it and give him a chance to woo me.
I have to be honest I have a tendency to do this as someone tries to get close to me romantically and I start being unable to trust my instincts even though they are pretty much always right. It feels like this anxiety starts to cloud my judgement and I wrestle between trusting the anxiety and giving something a chance. Because of that I really need help with this reading. I can't tell if what I'm seeing in it is what is actually there.
How exciting ! Really good idea to talk about boundaries and such you being neighbours. I imagine the worse case scenario is you have a good relationship for some time then split up because can you imagine anything worse than seeing each other at such close quarters. But we can't live our lives in fear of worse case scenario which may never happen and this is rather a nice reading to get. Looks like you do feel at home with one another and you're both being sensible in discussing boundaries (line 1). Family's Seeking Unity - this is someone you feel comfortable with who seems to have the same sense of responsibility to the relationship as you do. I also think it's quite a serious cast. There's a warning in line 3 not to get too flippant in your connection , to take one another seriously. I think as the question is from your angle you may be being advised to take him seriously (37.6). Don't be too quick to brush things off as jokes which is easily done when nervous, take the time to really hear him.
I wonder if this shows him regarding you as something of a 'project' (7) to win over through demonstrating (7) his sincerity (61) and his true belief in you two as an item ? With 3 lines moving I don't think you need to hang on just one of them too much I'm more inclined to notice the change patterns here 22 and 47. Perhaps having seen the surface of one another (22) it is time to ask how much you can truly share, what is really there for you both (47). I feel this is a slight caution as was 37.3 to not take things to much on face value, don't be in a great hurry to weigh him up. There's going to more than meets the eye for the both of you. I may be completely off here but I am getting the impression he is a serious person who means what he says to the point where he almost tries to convince you too much of something about himself whether that's his beliefs or his ideas about himself or you I don't know. It looks like there is great sincerity there but almost too much by line 6. I get the idea of him trying to persuade you of things by line 6 though you are both equally willing from what you have said.
You said he has certain religious/political views you aren't keen on and I wonder if he will try to bring you round to seeing things his way ? 61.1 can indicate that if there is anything to hide at all then there's no rest. It can be a line of ulterior motive, relating to someone with an ulterior motive and this may not necessarily arise from a wish to deceive but more a wish to gain more than one lets on. That is he may really want you to share is perspective or go with him to his religious meetings etc
I don't think you can go into this assuming he's deceitful from this or any other reading. Line 5 is lovely and line 6 goes that bit too far in declaring in himself to the point you might want to say 'give it a rest'.
Those are just my impressions for now, have a good date !
I have a tendency to do this as someone tries to get close to me romantically and I start being unable to trust my instincts even though they are pretty much always right. It feels like this anxiety starts to cloud my judgement and I wrestle between trusting the anxiety and giving something a chance. Because of that I really need help with this reading. I can't tell if what I'm seeing in it is what is actually there.
You might remember I had a very obsessive person in my workplace not that long ago that scared me and made things really difficult. I've even already mentioned this to this new guy. Not sure if that was the right move but it is what gave me the courage to speak my mind from the beginning about boundaries.
I had different lines changing, but had in common with you Line 6, which was very difficult to me to understand. I
He asked to reschedule our date because he had to work late. I said that was fine. He then asked me if he could stop by if he ended up getting off work at a reasonable hour. I'm disappointed and a little sad. It's not the dynamic I was hoping for. My alarm bells started going off, so I sat there and asked two questions:
What are his intentions with me? 24uc
How should I respond to his request? 33.1>13 I asked this because there was a small part of me that though... well, I'm making dinner so maybe I could make enough for two.
Like I said, I'm disappointed and 33.1 I take as a serious warning. I've also experienced 24 as something similar to retreat or rejection quite a few times. I recently got it multiple times about a friend who did something appalling and I was thinking about accepting his olive branch. I understood 24uc at the time to mean stay focused on myself and that has continued to feel like the right choice.
I wonder now if 37>8 was just... two people in the same building/home getting together. Regardless, I think I have to end this before it goes further. I'm already feeling disappointed and over-asking emotional questions. Not a good sign.
Anyway without Yi much here depends on whether you believe him or decide to take him at his word. I mean if he really does have to work late and wants to reschedule another date maybe he wants to see you before that date ? Depends what your take on it is. You said you feel sad but didn't say exactly why ? Do you mean you think he's presuming on you too much and not honouring the date ?
It's a great pity relationship questions are the most usual here given they are the most unreliable things to ask Yi about IMO. No one knows exactly why, I guess there's always going to be a big dimension missing which is the nature of changing feelings or something.
what do I need to know about him?
61.1 - He is sincere - and content and self contained.
61.5 - He is a good guy, persuasive. Others increase him, lucky guy. - Wing: This is the position of a true ruler. Such a person holds to virtuous goals and principles and emanates, to those all around him, the overwhelming force of his character.
Our date was really nice. I found out even more about him that is surprising and unusual and upstanding. (Something @Trojina said might be the case-- that there would be more than meets the eye and not to size him up too quickly). He said he finds me surprising too. I told him what went through my mind when he asked to come over without taking me out and he told me my reaction told him it was best to give me space. I think he could see where I was coming from.
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