What is the state of this relationship? 29.1.2.4 into 17

[LuquiBeginner]

Hello, dear community! I'm not very good yet at listening to the Oracle yet, so I come to you for some guidance. I asked a question to the Oracle today about a relationship I've trying to establish with a girl I know in college. Context: I flirted with her for months since she seemed interested at first. Then her best friend (another guy) got into the fray and very probably swayed her interest away from me. I insisted for some time to no avail and, finally, I gave up internally but decided to keep behaving as had been doing all this time because I didn't want her to think I was being nice just because I liked her. Besides, I won't lie: I still have feelings for her.

She seemed to have decided not to go out with me and we reached a tacit agreement situation in which we both know I was into her but we are just going to be friends. Our friendship was developing and I'm very happy with how things turned out because she's a good person and I'd like to keep her as a good friend. The fact is, we still talk but I'm almost always the one looking for her.

Yet, two weeks ago something seemed off. For some reason she was different. She's always been very nice, comprehensive, very friendly and caring, but I noticed a change. She put up some kind of barrier. You know, like she's still very nice to me, but colder and more distant. It's more noticeable when we text, actually. I've felt really distraught about it. My gut tells me something is wrong and I don't really know if I'm resposible.

I decided to ask the I Ching the following question: what is the status of my relationship with X?The Oracle gave me hexagram 29.1.2.4 as an answer, which turns into hexagram 17.

Would you please help me out with an interpretation? It seemed very strange to me at first because I asked about a "state", a fixed moment in time, and the answer was so changing and unstable with three changing lines.


Thank you very much in advance and sorry for the long post!

 

[moss elk]

Would you please help me out with an interpretation? It seemed very strange to me at first because I asked about a "state", a fixed moment in time, and the answer was so changing and unstable with three changing lines.

It isn't an unstable answer.
29>17 requires three lines, it is the only way to make 29>17.
Also, keep in mind that while Yi will sometimes give a literal answer, sometimes it instead gives advice about the situation that would be good for you to hear.

Following Danger.
There is something wrong here.
Line two says it outright.
'the canyon holds risks, seek small gains.'
(I wish this line ended with an additional word 'Only', as that is how it has manifested for me.)
As in, she may make a good study partner, but not marriage partner. Is there something that you know about her that you sort of know, but may be discounting or brushing aside? (something that should be considered a red flag? Fogive this odd seeming question but, is she dumb?)

 

[LuquiBeginner]

Your question actually made me laugh so hard, hahaha!

Thank you very much for replying to my post, Moss Elk.

Now, to answer your two questions:

1) I know she's only had one boyfriend. They were together for a couple of years and then broke up when she realizaed the guy was cheating on her with one of her close Friends. Many knew about it, apparently, but nobody told her. After that she's dated only one guy for a few weeks and things didn't work out.
She comes from a highly accomodated family and doesn't like the idea of being the one with the money in the relationship (if you know what I mean).
She's also very insecure about many things. Right now she's not sure whether she chose the right undergraduate program; she seems to be insecure about her body, even though she's very attractive (many guys think she's totally out of their league); as a consequence, she hardly takes her jacket off, she's always using big scarves that cover her neck and shoulders and keeps physical distance with people when talking; she has a very strong but rigid personality and if things don't go the way she planned, she tends to get visibly distraught; she gives the appearance of being a very strong and independent Young lady, but she is actually quite the contrary...

I don't know if she is swayed easily by other people (she really doesn't look like it), but this guy I was talking about (her closest male friend) seems to be able to convince her of some things. He's almost the only guy she goes out with and is pretty much the only man who's allowed to be sweet with her. She's pretty much his mom in some senses, hahaha.

That's what comes to my mind right now. I don't know if that answers your question.

2) Well, she's certainly not dumb. She's actually very studious. She enjoys studying and Reading and is quite capable of applying theories and concepts to concrete, real life cases. I read an essay she wrote once (she had to discuss a complex issue in our discipline and field of study) and it was impressive. As I said, many guys think she's out of their league and don't flirt with her not just because she's attractive, but because she's got the highest grades in the faculty.

You would need to be more specific about what being dumb means, I guess...

 

[LuquiBeginner]

Bump?