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Do you think it's possible you might not feel the way you do now forever? Also do you have others around you who know how you feel and may support you at this time?
She has triggered part of the wedding vows that say someone needs to die, an ‘until death do depart‘ sort of thing.
I think if one person decides to break the contract or the vows by activating a divorce then the other person - in this case yourself - I believe is released from the vows and any commitments they may indicate.
"And just as the wounder wounds himself, so the healer heals himself"
You'll find you are looking across Hexagram 2's vast field. The field's empty... because the seed is not yet growing.
I would think of it as the seed of your future self - all the potential as yet unrealised.Thank you.
You have given me a lot to think about, which is why the delay in my reply.
I don’t know what the seed is, or where to find it.
I don’t know how to build a cart. Most significantly I do not understand Hexagram 2. I believe I mentioned such earlier but it could have easily been lost among the other things.
I think that I have difficulty with 1 and 2 because their nature is pure and I have no context with which to work. How do you interpret absolute action or absolute receptivity.
Your friend sounds wise.My soon to be ex, is being aggressive in seeking a divorce the way she is, by not seeking any mediation, taking the matter straight to court vying for everything I had saved up to start a life with whoever would be my wife. A friend of mine made a valid argument against taking irrevocable action until after the divorce. She believes I will see a true face of my soon to be ex that will make me reconsider my vow.
The mirror reflection of your first reading.I asked Yi “about my life during this divorce”: The response was 2.6 to 23.
The old dragons fighting. Which seems to indicate a long and arduous divorce. One that will not give me the opportunity to seek a harmonious end.
Oh wow - that’s a beautiful line. Yes, this is your increase. The whole story of Decrease is of giving things up for the sake of something higher. It works together very closely with 42, Increase: your vessel is emptied out in 41, to make space for the Increase of 42. Hence there are some lines in 41 that talk about the moment of change from decrease to increase - like this one.When I asked “about my divorce”: Yi replied with 41.5 to 61
Someone's increase. Ten pairs of tortoise and nothing is able to contradict it. Eminent Auspiciousness. Is this my increase? What is increasing? This is a hexagram about Decrease, is it saying my understanding of decrease will be increased?
Oh wow - that’s a beautiful line.
a fight between dragons of winter and spring. One wants to keep things cold and frozen; the other wants to bring warmth and rain and allow that seed to germinate. The divorce may be a battle, but I think this is also about the internal battle between your own dragons.
Yes, exactly. It seems Yi is giving you some imagery now you can relate to at once - the losses of Stripping Away, the battling dragons - and some you can't relate to yet: the seed, the blessings of 41.5, and now the Vessel itself. So yes, you do need to take those on faith. The readings are recognising and acknowledging exactly where you are now, and they are saying - it will not always be like this, look, here are the good things that are coming. You have to believe the whole message, even when this feels mad.It all makes sense, have faith, wait, your Dao will find you, it will all work out. (e.g. Don’t Panic)
Hello!
This is my first post here looking for insight. I have been doing castings for a while throughout my life. Usually I am able to glean a fair amount of insight into whatever my query may be.
I have been franticly doing readings recently because I have been estranged from my wife. She said she didn’t love me anymore and that it wasn’t my fault, but she needed some time and space to figure out who she is. I am autistic and uncomfortable with change, she was aware of this before we got married, and she indicated that she felt like she could not go out and try new things because I would be anxious. Which is not the case. It is true I’d be anxious but I could get past it, as I have all my life. If she had simply told me, I could have taken action to deal with whatever she wanted to do. She just could not rely on me to be spontaneous. If she wants to do something, just tell me and I will make that happen.
We have worked out a trial separation agreement as part of that agreement we said we would not talk to each other except in an emergency for 3 months. We are on month 2, We are supposed to talk again in May.
During this time I have been working out, working on the house, and receiving Trans-cranial Magnetic Stimulation to deal with anxiety and depression. It is an interesting treatment. It did not work and I need to do another 36 rounds. It takes a lot to fix my brain I guess. I see a counselor and a psychiatrist to help me with depression and anxiety already.
I can say that she is the most important thing in the world to me and I don’t se a future without her (otherwise I would not have married her). Given my depression this outcome leads me to some pretty dark places. Which could could keep me from interpreting clearly.
I have received 23.6 to 2 as a response to the following two questions: (I will also list some additional responses to the same questions)
about continuing to pursue a romantic relationship with [my wife’s name] in May
23.6 to 2
19.1.2 to 2
11.4.5 to 43
Should I try to keep my marriage with [my wife’s name] intact
23.6 to 2
11.1.2.6 to 52
28UC
Top lines usually seem bad to me something has gone too far and is moving from its “proper place” (the hexagram the line is in) and encroaching on the hexagram that follows.
Motion in the top line of splitting apart indicates that the action of “splitting apart” is ending what follows is a turning point (Hex 24) As part of the splitting one is finally able to reach the uneaten “highest fruit”. Then superior man gets a carriage. An inferior man gets his house torn apart.
Normally the top line in a hexagram that’s is obviously about something being forcefully torn asunder would be straight bad news (which is obviously not what I want, but it is what I fear).
It seems to be saying that the time or our separation is nearing its end. Which it is. That I will be able to reach the “highest fruit” then either get a “carriage“ or get my house torn apart.
Well the house torn apart is pretty on the nose, and if it were not for the highest fruit and the boon for the “superior man” I would have said “that’s it then. Pack it in. It’s over.”
The hexagram does not say that it is over though, just that maybe it’s over. Right? For the inferior man it is over.
The question of keeping my marriage intact 28UC says that something has to give. That there must be a change. Which I agree with, obviously things were not working. It does not say this is at an end, only that it must change. Although the call to action seems at odds with call for peace and keeping still (11.1.2.6 to 52)
Regarding pursuing a romantic relationship with my wife in May it seems to be saying the time is approaching (19.1.2 to 2) and those specific lines call out the good fortune associated with persistence in a joint approach and once again calls for peace and determination (11.4.5 to 43).
I do not understand the repeated 2’s nor what Splitting Apart is trying to tell me. Is my relationship over and to accept it with peace? That is what I am afraid of. Or is it instead saying your relationship is changing but not over, be calm and don’t despair.
I know this is long, if you have made it this far thank you. I would appreciate any insight.
First thing first:
"When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be. When I let go of what I have, I receive what I need."-Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching
Love cannot be promised. It is something physical, it bursts from the inside. It’s not something you decide at a table, nor at an altar.If a man vows a vow to the Lord, or swears an oath to bind himself by a pledge, he shall not break his word.
Where I live men have a tendency to kill the women that left them before killing themselves. They tell themselves they are full of love, but it’s just possession, they can’t conceive a woman getting independent and choosing for herself, going her ownway. You say that you have thought about that but you don’t want to control her, yet it strikes me a lot that in 2020 you have these absolute ideas about a union as if it were something undissolvable. I find it rather asynchronous although I can understand you must be disappointed and ravaged by what is happening.
I didn't mean to say that you are a murderer, of course. You have been the first one to speak about control, you say your friends have told you you want to control her. It just strikes me that in 2020 someone wants to kill themselves because their wedding is over and keeps speaking about a breach of loyalty. This scares me.It seems to me you are implying that you believe I want to control her, and by extension of that implication, having likened me to murderers.
I can't talk about your wife as you haven't told us anything, you just said she wants to leave. I am not here to judge her, and I don't think when a marriage fails it's somebody's responsibility. Not believing in marriage at all (Thomas Hardy is my hero!), I can't think of divorce as a failure. I know a few couples who divorced but are still so much friends, they just didn't want to live together anymore.At the same time it seems that you have implicitly absolved her of responsibility for any of her actions thereby tacitly approving of all the abuse to which she has subjected me. Additionally I did not see any discussion about why she does not need anything from me as part of the divorce (modern divorce laws are also archaic). Both of which I find telling.
The silliness is in the marriage institution, believe me. Love is not something you can promise, it doesn't depend on you. People change. I met up with a girl the other day who was my best friend at university. She no longer is, we moved two different directions.To me it would be more accurate, and reasonable, to ask “Why would someone be willing to make a promise they could not keep?”
Parents, siblings, children are very different from a wife as they are all your blood, and you grew up with them. Your spouse is something else. It's a stranger. It usually comes from another village. It's got nothing to do with family. You create a family with a stranger.“It [love] can not be promised” I disagree, if I had children I would be able to promise them I would love them forever. I am able to make that promise to my siblings, my parents, and so on. I can make that promise because the love I talk about is a choice.
Love over time has been maintained at the detriment of women. Who had no alternative than staying with who supported them. Now that women no longer have to compromise, because they can have a job or can return to their parents or stay in a shelter home for people, you get plenty of divorce. 90% of the times it's she who asks for divorce.Where as the love you are describing is what a junkie feels looking for their next fix. The result of drugs flooding the brain. Feelings that MUST eventually end, because they can not be maintained over time. I don’t think that is love, a crush or infatuation perhaps. In a vulgar sense maybe ‘luv’ or ‘wuv’ or RAWR.
The fact is that love is not an abstract thing, it is the feelings people feel for each other. How can you promise a feeling?! Can you promise a friend you will always be their friend? I can't.When I read your post, I see, again this is my interpretation only, someone saying that because I believe in promises, Because I believe love can endure through growth and change, and can be eternal, that I must view women as possessions.
I am single, and can't seem to click with anyone at the moment, so what I am saying could be the wrongest possible thing.I took her to several meetings with my psychiatrist so she could express her concerns and they could be addressed if possible.
That is very mean, but are you sure she can do that? Where I live the person who asks for divorce is usually the person paying.. Unless they have a reason for the marriage to end, like breach of faithfulness or serious behaviour from the other partner - in that case the partner is given the fault, and he is the one to pay.Her decision to file for the most acrimonious type of divorce, even after I said “take whatever you want, just leave me these 4 things...” because she wanted money.
People usually say that if you can't be by yourself, you can't be with others. How long were you and your wife together before getting married?People say to "be happy on your own" I'm not. I have never been.
I don't think I portrayed her at all, I am just saying that anyone is free to go whenever they want to. I understand you may not see any way out, but Yi clearly told you that 23.6, to get on that carriage and move to unexplored lands. You may not believe me but maybe you believe Yi?Your post, even reading your post from a place of caring, forgave all her actions. You portrayed her as a person of complete innocence merely exploring her world.
I started writing bear in mind I am a Christian so if references to God offend I apologize I am speaking of the universe I guess. The Parental part of the universe. It is just a single long thought I just kept writing until I was done. I would love input.
Right now my soul says God has not spoken on the issue, and I should not take action until he does. That I need to accept that it is out of my hands. That even knowing is out of my hands. That patience is not just waiting a known amount of time, for an unknown answer, that it is waiting an unknown amount of time for an unknown answer.That I know that destruction, death, change, and loss all happen. They can all potentially happen, or none of them may happen. That the question is not one of my relationship but it is one of acceptance and moving on. My world is being destroyed to teach me a lesson in patience and trust and the limits of my control.
That the longer I fight it and put my faith in something other than God the more that will be stripped away. I put my faith into my wife and she is gone, I turned to my job and now it is gone, In a fit of existential crisis I have pushed most of my friends and family away.I turned to Yi and it said everything will go, then it would not answer anymore. That I need to accept that right now in this moment there is nothing I can do but accept and endure or give up. I have chosen to give up because I have interpreted the destruction of my house as being foretold by a divination that simply said everything will be taken away until you destroy yourself or overcome.
That none of this means that she will stay, or that she will go, it means that I can not always control my life, and that knowledge of the future is not always understood in the context under which it is said. That Job was told not to ask “why” because he could not understand, because he could not see far enough. Job needed to loose much more than I have. I should stop pushing because the tighter I grip the more that will be stripped away by my own actions.
I keep doing readings and now I am told she is cheating on me, or that she will be back in years, or she will only be back to use me, each of these strip something more away from me so that when eventually I see her I will come bearing the scars and lashes of these divination that are saying “what if she cheated...” “what if she is using you...”
The truth is my brain is being physically changed, even it is being stripped away. I can’t control that, I can’t predict that, I can’t even say if she will like this person, I don’t even know who I am after these treatments. I always plan and predict and now I am in an environment that I could not have predicted or planned for. I am stuck alone without my wife, without my friends, without my family, without the same brain I had 7 weeks ago, but I am certain that the pain of her loss may be too much to bear? Or maybe not, it may or may not happen. I may or may not want her back, that what hurts is the uncertainty and betrayal I feel at her part in that uncertainty. That she may have been taken away both as part of the trial and to keep her from seeing me face it
Who told you she is cheating on you ? There is no cast in the I Ching that can tell you as a fact such a thing. You need proper evidence to come to that conclusion.
Ahahahahha I have no idea@Olga Super Star We are still missing each other you and I. I asked Yi how best to help Olga on the forums understand my position. It said: 64>44
What does it say to you?
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