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Hello!

This is my first post here looking for insight. I have been doing castings for a while throughout my life. Usually I am able to glean a fair amount of insight into whatever my query may be.

I have been franticly doing readings recently because I have been estranged from my wife. She said she didn’t love me anymore and that it wasn’t my fault, but she needed some time and space to figure out who she is. I am autistic and uncomfortable with change, she was aware of this before we got married, and she indicated that she felt like she could not go out and try new things because I would be anxious. Which is not the case. It is true I’d be anxious but I could get past it, as I have all my life. If she had simply told me, I could have taken action to deal with whatever she wanted to do. She just could not rely on me to be spontaneous. If she wants to do something, just tell me and I will make that happen.

We have worked out a trial separation agreement as part of that agreement we said we would not talk to each other except in an emergency for 3 months. We are on month 2, We are supposed to talk again in May.

During this time I have been working out, working on the house, and receiving Trans-cranial Magnetic Stimulation to deal with anxiety and depression. It is an interesting treatment. It did not work and I need to do another 36 rounds. It takes a lot to fix my brain I guess. I see a counselor and a psychiatrist to help me with depression and anxiety already.

I can say that she is the most important thing in the world to me and I don’t se a future without her (otherwise I would not have married her). Given my depression this outcome leads me to some pretty dark places. Which could could keep me from interpreting clearly.

I have received 23.6 to 2 as a response to the following two questions: (I will also list some additional responses to the same questions)

about continuing to pursue a romantic relationship with [my wife’s name] in May
23.6 to 2
19.1.2 to 2
11.4.5 to 43

Should I try to keep my marriage with [my wife’s name] intact
23.6 to 2
11.1.2.6 to 52
28UC

Top lines usually seem bad to me something has gone too far and is moving from its “proper place” (the hexagram the line is in) and encroaching on the hexagram that follows.

Motion in the top line of splitting apart indicates that the action of “splitting apart” is ending what follows is a turning point (Hex 24) As part of the splitting one is finally able to reach the uneaten “highest fruit”. Then superior man gets a carriage. An inferior man gets his house torn apart.

Normally the top line in a hexagram that’s is obviously about something being forcefully torn asunder would be straight bad news (which is obviously not what I want, but it is what I fear).

It seems to be saying that the time or our separation is nearing its end. Which it is. That I will be able to reach the “highest fruit” then either get a “carriage“ or get my house torn apart.

Well the house torn apart is pretty on the nose, and if it were not for the highest fruit and the boon for the “superior man” I would have said “that’s it then. Pack it in. It’s over.”

The hexagram does not say that it is over though, just that maybe it’s over. Right? For the inferior man it is over.

The question of keeping my marriage intact 28UC says that something has to give. That there must be a change. Which I agree with, obviously things were not working. It does not say this is at an end, only that it must change. Although the call to action seems at odds with call for peace and keeping still (11.1.2.6 to 52)

Regarding pursuing a romantic relationship with my wife in May it seems to be saying the time is approaching (19.1.2 to 2) and those specific lines call out the good fortune associated with persistence in a joint approach and once again calls for peace and determination (11.4.5 to 43).

I do not understand the repeated 2’s nor what Splitting Apart is trying to tell me. Is my relationship over and to accept it with peace? That is what I am afraid of. Or is it instead saying your relationship is changing but not over, be calm and don’t despair.

I know this is long, if you have made it this far thank you. I would appreciate any insight.
 
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I have received 23.2 to 2
Hello Enqquery, and welcome. First, I think here you mean 23.6 to 2, since that's what you mentioned in your title and with two other lines. Is that right?

And second, here you've given us at least six responses. Some people here may respond to all of them, but for me that many seems very difficult confusing to me - and it's not even my reading!

If I were to simplify it, I might be inclined towards one query, like: 'tell me something helpful about my relationship with my wife' - and the Yi's response is: 23.6 to 2. Is there a possibility that might work as well?
 
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Hello!

You are correct 23.6 to 2. I have updated my question to reflect that.

I apologize if I put too much, I was simply trying to be as thorough as possible.

My difficulty is in the understanding of 23.6 to 2 possibly 2 in general. It must be important because it showed up for two different questions.

Splitting Apart terrifies me because I know it is a change. I am not sure if it is a positive change (which for me would be a reconciliation) or a negative one.

I always ask each question 3 times because it gives me, in my opinion, a more complete picture. Like a short conversation.

I can not be sure if it is my hopes or fears that are coloring my interpretation.

I can try phrasing the question that way, and include the results.

Thank you again!
 
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To the question suggested “tell me something helpful about my relationship with my wife” I received:

11.1.2.6 to 52 again.
 
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Thank You!

Does that mean I am the lesser man whose house gets destroyed? How do I become the superior man who gets a carriage? What does 11.1.2.6 to 52 mean?

I can’t let this relationship end.
 

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To the question suggested “tell me something helpful about my relationship with my wife” I received:

11.1.2.6 to 52 again.
Hi Enqquery
These appear to be tough times for you and you are taking many steps to make the situation 'better'. Maybe there is a sense of you trying too much. For example, look at all the questions you have created, through which you are none the wiser.
Perhaps this question is telling you that in your current relationship with your wife what would be helpful would be to Advance through Keeping Still.
Look to achieve a common good (11) through staying calm and respectful (52). Make a true effort to resolve in your mind who / what should sit with you in your world. What thoughts / actions are helpful and which are not?(11.1) What's happening now is tough for you to reconcile, however look towards the best way to make it less tough for you both(11.2). Although things are falling apart see if you can step back from the fray and look at this from an honest / different perspective and perhaps a more hopeful image will appear. (11.6)

...or the reading may be nothing like this for you.

Good Luck
 
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Thank you!

I am going to consider this and the idea that it is over.

I am hoping that it is saying our relationship as it was is over and it is time for it to renew.

The highest fruit being the one that falls to earth so new growth can emerge. Maybe I am doing too much, or not waiting to see what the actions I have taken have accomplished before trying something new.

I have asked so many questions about the next month, 3 months, 6 months, a year, as new information becomes available, because the future will change as her feelings change.

Early on (2 months ago) the readings seemed to say Everything is OK, it will work out, just don’t relax simply because Yi says it will work out, take action to better yourself and your environment.

I have been taking action. I wonder if it is saying I am tearing myself apart. That I have taken too many actions.

Of course it could just be saying as was pointed out “it’s over move on“. If that is the case, there is no moving on for me. Her leaving is an event that I will not survive. She does not know because she does not need that weighing on her as she decides what she wants.
 
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Of course it could just be saying as was pointed out “it’s over move on“. If that is the case, there is no moving on for me. Her leaving is an event that I will not survive. She does not know because she does not need that weighing on her as she decides what she wants.

No I-Ching specific advice, I do want to point out that your identity may be heavily dependent on another's behavior, something you cannot (and should not) control. I grew up with western media- movies, music etc (I'm assuming you have too) which puts great emphasis on a romantic partner being a panacea that will fix your problems.

If you can't be happy on your own you won't be able to find that in a relationship. On a subtle level, you may be putting pressure or expectations on your partner that they need to "fix" you in a way. Maybe you already noticed this?

Perhaps the "lesser man" is the belief that you need someone else to feel complete. His house should be destroyed, making room for the great man who is already complete.
 

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Does that mean I am the lesser man whose house gets destroyed?
No. she is.
She is the one tearing the house down.
You'll get an opportunity from the situation ending. When someone says that they aren't in love with you... if you want to retain your sanity,
You'd better believe it.

I always ask each question 3 times because it gives me, in my opinion, a more complete picture.

Stop doing that.
Yi itself says not to do that in hex 4:
"The first consultation informs
The second and third show disrespect Disrespect deserves no information."
So, consider the 2nd and 3rd readings as meaningless, meaning:
don't consider them at all.
 
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If you can't be happy on your own you won't be able to find that in a relationship.

I am of two minds about this.

The first is “it’s not that simple...” : One of the songs at our wedding was “you ruined everything (in the nicest way)”. I was perfectly content on my own before I met her. It is different now that I have.

Like Charlie in ‘Flowers for Algernon’ sometimes there is no going back. It is not that she is a panacea, expected to fix anything for me. It is thatI know what it is like to be happy, and I know what that loss entails. I know that there is no return once that is gone.

It’s a legitimate question and one worth considering. How much of one’s happiness should be derived from one’s partner? How has media impacted my view of relationships.


Perhaps the "lesser man" is the belief that you need someone else to feel complete. His house should be destroyed, making room for the great man who is already complete.


The second is “Let’s ponder the finer points of co-dependence and western media when my relationship is not at stake and find out how to become the superior man in under a month?”: So I asked “how do I become the man my wife wants in a month” and I was told 57UC
 
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No. she is.
She is the one tearing the house down.
You'll get an opportunity from the situation ending.

That is interesting. I had not considered that. What would be the opportunity? Do you think it would be a renewal of our relationship?

Stop doing that.
Yi itself says not to do that in hex 4:

I first became interested in the Yi was after watching “Big Trouble in Little China” The first book I had read about it was “Rediscovering the I Ching” by Greg Winchup.

He pointed out that historically multiple supporting readings were done frequently and were referenced in Hexagrams. 4 and (I think his translation of 8?). 4 being the Hexagram that says “you did not pay attention to what I told you so I am not answering you a second or third time”.

Which is interesting because you can approach 4 presuming that all questions will be asked more than once, and 4 is an admonition to stop and consider what you have already been told, or that 4 is an admonition against asking the same question multiple times period.

I would need to find my copy of the book to cite it properly.


When someone says that they aren't in love with you...
You'd better believe it.

Specifically she said she was “numb” and “didn’t feel anything anymore” and a number of similar things during counseling. She did say she loved me before she left for our separation, and her text signing off before our 3 months of silence said I love you.

I simplified it to didn’t love me anymore. That could just be nit picking though, I am not saying you are not correct or anything of the sort.

Regardless “if she doesn’t love me anymore...” then she never loved me. She felt a chemical rush that she called love, but was either mistaken or lying (or a combination of the two) for 7 years.

Which would mean her vows were mistakes or lies. Which would mean you can’t trust anything that anyone says with regards to the relationship in which they are involved because it could change on a whim.

I have never been any good at getting the Yi to tell me about what someone else is feeling.
 

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That is interesting. I had not considered that. Do you think it would be a renewal of our relationship?

No, Not really, I don't.


Greg Winchup...pointed out that historically multiple supporting readings were done frequently.

Please underatand that a 'supporting' reading is fundamentally different from asking the same question multiple times.
Example: If I do not grasp the meaning of one of my readings, I ask supporting questions such as 'why?" or "why not?" ...etc
in order to triangulate the meaning.
These supporting questions are actually helpful, but repetition should not be done...
Yi says that. I encourage you to place higher regard on what Yi says than what Mr. Winchup says.
 

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You asked me to elaborate on my interpretation of 23.6:

There is a large fruit still uneaten. = Don’t be discouraged. Your life still has more to offer.
The superior man receives a carriage. = You have an opportunity to gracefully move on now.
The house of the inferior man is split apart. = Or you can stick around and tear yourself up.
 
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There is a large fruit still uneaten. = Don’t be discouraged. Your life still has more to offer.
The superior man receives a carriage. = You have an opportunity to gracefully move on now.
The house of the inferior man is split apart. = Or you can stick around and tear yourself up.
No, Not really, I don't.

Thank you! I appreciate your input and you are probably correct. I hope not because if she says goodbye I’m commuting suicide that night.
 
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Such a violent, thoughtless act would make you the inferior man.
AND It would cause her a great deal of pain.
This would not be an act of love for anyone.

I have been thinking about it for a long while. Ever since we had started having these problems.

Is it an act of love to cause someone pain for the remainder of their life? Obviously not, and I would not cause her harm.

She is making the choice not me. She is choosing to go. She will not suffer from the loss of something she does not want.

There is always darkness in the balance. The new fruit at the end of the splitting apart is whatever comes next.

If there is nothing I can do to save it, then there is no need for me here. I was looking for hope and a way out. There isn’t one.
 

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I would not cause her harm.
Your thinking is so very myopic right now.
You are not thinking clearly,
and should continue to see your counselor.

If you did that, it would certainly harm her.
I know a woman whose ex killed himself a few days after they broke up.
And it harmed her.
Suicide is the most selfish act a person can do. Don't be selfish.
 

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It's time to move on. The small person refuses to see that the seed which will bring new growth lies beyond your reach until you are willing to strip away the old and look for new growth. One who wishes to walk in the way of the Sages takes the action of trusting that garbage will naturally change into compost, nourishing new growth.

I'm guessing you are about as angry as you have ever been as you face this inevitable change. Listen to your counselor. Stay in your own business - that which *you* can legitimately control. Her behavior is not yours to control, and never has been. Anger is not the answer. Selfishness is not the answer. Love is the answer, working toward what is best for the other. Love sometimes means letting go.
 

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Thank you RindaR. I had not seen the significance of the fruit before as a symbol of stripping away the old flesh so the new seed could grow.

Enqquery -Thoughts of suicide often accompany the 23.Stripping Away experience. Think of them as the way your brain conceptualizes what you are experiencing as your perception of the world shifts. In your physical world things have changed. You have not seen your wife for two months. Your brain relies on your wife's presence for help in navigating your reality and cannot comprehend this absence. It's like your brain calculates that if she is not physically present YOU are not physically present. Your brain can't come up with any picture of life without her in it. You literally can't imagine going on alone. So your brain starts looking for plan "B" and comes up with Suicide. So you hear your brains' calculations and assume this is YOU. It's not! It's just your brain talking to you. You don't have to accept or act on the ideas that float by. Your brain only contains the knowledge and experience of this one lifetime. Your soul is eternal and has access to the knowledge and experience of infinite lifetimes. Now it's up to you to decide who is in charge here - you (your soul) or your brain (the knowledge you've gained so far in this lifetime)? Your brain may calculate this life is over, but what does your soul say? Next time you consult the I Ching address it as if you are using it as a connector to your future, wiser self.

Meanwhile I asked the I Ching what I should say to you and I got 39. Limping Onward. I read it and it sounds like advice for how one can go forward alone. It specifically encourages NOT struggling on alone but advises joining with friends. So I hope you'll keep us posted here as to how you're doing.

Feed your brain positive images! Listen to classical music!
"The superior man abides in what endures!"

Rosada
 
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This is long I am sorry. I appreciate all of your input. My responses are as they came to me in order. If they seem aggressive I apologize for that too. It is not my intent.

I know a woman whose ex killed himself a few days after they broke up.
And it harmed her.

How could it harm her? I don’t know the situation obviously, so I am legitimately curious.

I'm guessing you are about as angry as you have ever been as you face this inevitable change. Listen to your counselor. Stay in your own business - that which *you* can legitimately control. Her behavior is not yours to control, and never has been. Anger is not the answer.

I agree anger is not the answer. I’m not angry at all. I never said I could control her. I never wanted to control her, she is her own woman, her feisty-ness is part of what I love about her. It is for that reason that I did not beg her to stay, or stand in her way. I helped her pack. She said “thank you, I know it was hard to not show me how much this hurt”.

Selfishness is not the answer. Love is the answer, working toward what is best for the other. Love sometimes means letting go.

This is something I had been thinking about. Would not the same apply to her? She is being selfish, she is not working towards what is best for the other. She is not letting go of whatever it is that she is focused upon.

I am just getting out of her way. I am not stopping her from destroying everything we built together. In fact I will end up giving her everything. I am only stopping my self from suffering at the hands of her selfishness, right?

Your brain may calculate this life is over, but what does your soul say?

I thought about this too the calculate stuck with me. The odds of us getting back together is 21% based off of a meta analysis of studies performed by Ohio State University. That is what my brain calculates. I am not sure what my soul says.

I started writing bear in mind I am a Christian so if references to God offend I apologize I am speaking of the universe I guess. The Parental part of the universe. It is just a single long thought I just kept writing until I was done. I would love input.

Right now my soul says God has not spoken on the issue, and I should not take action until he does. That I need to accept that it is out of my hands. That even knowing is out of my hands. That patience is not just waiting a known amount of time, for an unknown answer, that it is waiting an unknown amount of time for an unknown answer.That I know that destruction, death, change, and loss all happen. They can all potentially happen, or none of them may happen. That the question is not one of my relationship but it is one of acceptance and moving on. My world is being destroyed to teach me a lesson in patience and trust and the limits of my control. That the longer I fight it and put my faith in something other than God the more that will be stripped away. I put my faith into my wife and she is gone, I turned to my job and now it is gone, In a fit of existential crisis I have pushed most of my friends and family away.I turned to Yi and it said everything will go, then it would not answer anymore. That I need to accept that right now in this moment there is nothing I can do but accept and endure or give up. I have chosen to give up because I have interpreted the destruction of my house as being foretold by a divination that simply said everything will be taken away until you destroy yourself or overcome. That none of this means that she will stay, or that she will go, it means that I can not always control my life, and that knowledge of the future is not always understood in the context under which it is said. That Job was told not to ask “why” because he could not understand, because he could not see far enough. Job needed to loose much more than I have. I should stop pushing because the tighter I grip the more that will be stripped away by my own actions. I keep doing readings and now I am told she is cheating on me, or that she will be back in years, or she will only be back to use me, each of these strip something more away from me so that when eventually I see her I will come bearing the scars and lashes of these divination that are saying “what if she cheated...” “what if she is using you...” The truth is my brain is being physically changed, even it is being stripped away. I can’t control that, I can’t predict that, I can’t even say if she will like this person, I don’t even know who I am after these treatments. I always plan and predict and now I am in an environment that I could not have predicted or planned for. I am stuck alone without my wife, without my friends, without my family, without the same brain I had 7 weeks ago, but I am certain that the pain of her loss may be too much to bear? Or maybe not, it may or may not happen. I may or may not want her back, that what hurts is the uncertainty and betrayal I feel at her part in that uncertainty. That she may have been taken away both as part of the trial and to keep her from seeing me face it

That was what my soul said.
 
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One of the key teachings from the I Ching is that things take time. Think of the sequence of 4. The Fool - 5. Waiting - 6. Arguing. An impatient Fool cannot Wait but without taking the time to negotiate agreements before commitment the coming together results in Arguing. I point this out because even though you didn't draw these hexagrams I think they have wisdom for you in how to navigate this Time Out. I think it's significant your soul is telling you the future is not yet determined. It's as if the negotiations are still going on at the higher levels and it's important that everyone stays calm so a true understanding can emerge. If you can't be patient and are pushing for a resolution too soon you may get your wife to come back but if she hasn't worked through her issues and reconnected with her inner feeling for you as a Lover she will be coming back to you from a feeling of being your Mother or worse, your Prisoner and eventually there will be 6.Conflict. So don't ask if she will come back. Assume that whatever happens will be for your greatest good and turn it all over to God or your Higher Self. Then ask what you should focus on now to use this time most wisely. If you can find a place of peace and calm and even joy now you will be able to then recognize that whatever happens is a continuation of good but if you indulge in dark thoughts now will not be able to see the positive opportunities awaiting you in the future. It's all a matter of how you connect the dots. Continually ask yourself, "What's the positive here?" and eventually, rather quickly in fact, you'll find you can see the benefit in all of this. Being negative is a way our brain tries to control things - if we expect the worse we're never disappointed, right? - consider this time as a challenge and refuse to give in to negative ideas. When you hear a negative idea in your brain literally say out loud, "Nope, give me a better idea." In fact, you might ask the I Ching, "what's the best perspective for me to have now?" Or "How can I view this?"
Best wishes,
rosada
 
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If you can't be patient and are pushing for a resolution too soon you may get your wife to come back but if she hasn't worked through her issues and reconnected with her inner feeling for you as a Lover she will be coming back to you from a feeling of being your Mother or worse, your Prisoner

That was never the relationship I wanted with my wife. She is the most important person in the world to me, I would do whatever was required of me to see her happy. There in lies part of the problem, she never had to prove her worth to me, so she never had the opportunity to find it for herself. So she is right now.

I start a different intervention at a surgical center. Even more of my brain is being stripped away. I start either Thursday or Monday. They say the experience is kind of like disassociation you see things differently when they are done. It takes a week or two to finish completely. Depending.

Is anyone familiar with the Lumpl and Goliath paradox?

What is so wrong with me that my head needs split apart? So I asked “about having the treatment done” and it said 23.1.2.5 to 61
 
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I asked “about not having the treatment done” I received 35.4 to 23.

Once again splitting apart, albeit not the focus.

The progress described in 35 is that of a powerful person advancing:
Advancing, Prince Kang used a gift of horses to breed a multitude.
In the course of a day, he mated them three times.​

The focus is 35 line 4 which is not talking about a powerful person at all:
Progress like a hamster.
Perseverance brings danger.​
That seems to say that persevering in small things is dangerous.

A hamster is not a large animal capable of taking action in a dangerous environment. That Constant Small actions are not enough in this case. Yes you are making progress like a hamster, right now Perseverance in that manner brings danger. In short do something more, small things will not cut it

Or is it saying keep doing small things you are not strong enough for big things? Making “progress like a hamster” is ok, but “perseverance” in the matter in question “brings danger”.
 

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I was reading a very interesting book called "Islands in the Cyberstream: seeking havens of reason in a programmed society", a series of discussions with the computer scientist Joseph Weizenbaum who has since passed away. He was a very human man and understood what makes us human through his involvement with Artificial Intelligence. At one point he says something to which I feel there is some sort of fundamental truth:

but you will experience that none of these methods can really hold what the dream really was. it turns out that every one of these methods destroys the dream. unfortunately, that’s how it is. a dream cannot be conserved.

if you really want to keep the dream, there is only one possibility: you have to let it go. then it could happen, that it comes again.

 
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if you really want to keep the dream, there is only one possibility: you have to let it go. then it could happen, that it comes again.

I have been thinking about this for a bit. I need to read the book! I understand that, when lucid dreaming, you need to interact carefully with the dream because it is fragile. At least that is how it has been for me. I like the way he presented it there.

I do not see how that applies in this case though?

I received my first infusion today. The next is tomorrow and the goal is for me to hallucinate for an hour or so the during the next 5 sessions as my doctor believes that is the best way to achieve a significant and sustained change.

I will let you know how the next one turns out!
 

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What I meant by that quote was that in my experience when a person manages to detach themselves of their need for something it is more likely that this thing will gravitate to them; to need something can give a repellent energy whereas to love but not to need can have a different energy
 
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I finished my first set of Ketamine Infusions. The doctor thinks I should do another 2 infusions at least. I am going to talk to my Psychiatrist. It is expensive, relatively.



Man it was weird. I thought the “Life and personality changing experience” thing was pretty much an exaggeration. Nope, I was in a different place. I got of lightly too. My brain is, as I believe I have mentioned, a tough nut to crack.

At the end I was having some serious hallucinations though. I had a couple long conversations with a Pacific Islander with Maori tattoos I referred to jokingly as Maui because he reminded me of the character from Moana.

Here is some of what I learned: I have weak bone.

Friends and family are like muscles. I am fortunate to have strong muscles. But strong muscles require strong bone, and my bone is weak.

I took it to mean I have strong connections to friends and family. That we care a lot for each other. However without will to limit things I could easily be torn apart by the various demands. Muscle is no good without purpose.

I also do not often ask much from others even if they are willing. So again, what good are strong muscles if not put to use. Which sounds strange like it was saying to use my friends and family but that was not the point. The point was take people up on offers of assistance.

Strong bone means knowing when to accept help, and when to decline. Knowing not to offer help often because that can weaken them, but to give it frequently, because that can strengthen both of us.

The key is knowing when, and how, to balance their needs with my own. Not in a selfish way. I must remember that I am their strength, their muscle, I need to help them without harming them. This is part of balancing their needs with my own too - None of this part was delineated, thanks Maui.

- Full disclosure, what follows does not make a lot of sense to me. There is more and I am still trying to parse it all. Most of it seems pretty crazy.

Maui explained that there are 3 flow states. Mind, Body, and Soul.

The one where you can do whatever it is you're doing without thinking. That is the body's flow state. This is the one experienced most readily.

Then there is the oracle flow state where you can answer any question posed to you (sort of like in the movie “Limitless”) That is the mind's flow state.

Then there is the last flow state is the lack of self and the understanding of oneness. Positive disassociation I guess. That is the soul’s flow state.

As to my wife, I did not respond to a “happy anniversary” text she sent as I was in the middle of my infusion at the time, and I was not comfortable in my ability to respond in the event the conversation were to continue. I just cried and was confused.

A couple of days later she stopped by the house to “pick up something” (a couple of teddybears) which she ended up leaving without anyway. She started off by saying she wanted to make sure I was OK because I had not responded to her text.

I said maybe we had grown complacent, maybe work and such took precedence. For whatever reason she has lost her fire, and I lost my drive.Whether or not her next relationship was with me, she was hollow without her fire. It is still in there somewhere, but I can’t help her find it this time. We talked for 2.5 hours she said I seem different and that she does not know me, that she doesn’t think she ever did.

She tried to kiss me because she “was curious” I turned away, laughed, and said I was not there yet, as I had more treatments and was “still cooking”, and she had a “fire to build”. We have a date in the middle of May

I asked Yi “about my upcoming date with [my wife]” it says: 59.2.3 to 53

When I asked “about my romantic relationship with [my wife] in the next month” it says: 52
 
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I asked Yi “about my upcoming date with [my wife]” it says: 59.2.3 to 53

I apologize I put the wrong reading in there. I have not been in an altogether great state of mind.

That being said in response to:“about my upcoming date with [my wife]” I received: 50.1.2 to 30

This is interesting because when I asked “about staying married to [my wife]” I received: 50.1.2 to 30 as well.

50: The Cauldron is about transformation. The creation of something new.
30: Clarity: Is about insight and understanding, as well as caring and nurturing something (a cow in the hexagram)

looking at the lines in 50.1.2: It seems to be pretty straightforward. Line 1: The Cauldron is overturned for cleaning, to remove something bad. Line 2: Now clean people are envious of the good that is in The Cauldron.

looking at the lines in 30.1.2: It also seems pretty straightforward. Line 1: Is confusion, chaos, and the admonition to accept that you don’t need to understand the journey of either yourself or others. Just accept that the journey, which leads to the next line, took place and had meaning. Line 2: The journey leads from the darkness (the chaos and confusion in Line 1) to the light of understanding and clarity.

So the question is how are these two questions related?

I am thinking that regarding the upcoming date: I am the thing in The Cauldron undergoing changes to get the Clarity I need.

I am thinking that regarding staying married: Our relationship was not working, it needed to be cleaned out. I believe Our relationship is in The Cauldron because neither of us are the people we were before, and something new will emerge. Whatever that new thing is it will need to be cared for, and nurtured.

I was asked to continue to update as I “Limp Onward” (Thanks @rosada). So I have been.

I think the “Splitting Apart“ occurred to break me down for “The Cauldron”. The Ketamine Infusions Start again this week, and I think those are part, if not the entirety, of The Cauldron right now.
 
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Others had pointed out that splitting apart meant it was over. That was entirely correct.

My wife said she wanted a divorce and her lawyer would be sending over the papers. I do not intend to fight unless she is making unreasonable requests. We have always kept our accounts separated so provided she does not want more than is hers (actually I said she was welcome to anything except the house, which was mine before we were married, and three things I received from departed family members) I see no reason to go through any extended court proceedings.

This is provided I make it to that point. I see no future of any kind, the divorce is simply so my family, not the person that killed me, gets what I leave behind.

I appreciate all your input, your assessments were on point. I wish you the best of luck and all the happiness in the future.
 
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