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One of those big gurus, I forget which one, Osho or someone, once said "People talk about the past as though it's filled with endless possibilities and the future as though it's inexorable fate and set in stone. When in fact, it's exactly the other way around.
I didn't intend to participate in this thread but some points really bother me.
You are calling your wife immoral for leaving you but no one is forced to remain in a relationship.
The way you talk about her scares me to be honest. I don't know why she has taken the deeds, but I would do the same if I felt in danger.
You talk about your need for a companion, but no one is responsible to stay with someone for so. OK, she's been aware of your condition. Then what? Many people have no special condition, start with love... then separate someday. It's part of the life.
You emphasize on your suffering but frankly, we don't know how much she has suffered during the relationship.
Whatever is happening now it doesn't mean nothing between you was ever true and you only hurt yourself more by demonising her perhaps. I don't know enough to say of course and I hadn't read the thread well enough to see about her taking the papers but she seemed reasonable enough initially, she said she wanted a break. She didn't cheat on you or go off with anyone else
You sometimes talk about the future as though it's a grim, pre-determined thing bearing down on you. All of these irrevocable, eternal vows, all these statements about "I'll never feel this or that again ... I'll never meet anyone again ... I feel like Algernon ..." It's not set in stone. Just survive it day by day and get through it and things will change. They can't do anything else.
One of those big gurus, I forget which one, Osho or someone, once said "People talk about the past as though it's filled with endless possibilities and the future as though it's inexorable fate and set in stone. When in fact, it's exactly the other way around."
The Vow
When the lover goes,
the vow though broken remains,
that trace of eternity love
brings down among us stays,
to give dignity to the suffering
and to intensify it.
- Galway Kinnell
The way you talk about her scares me to be honest. I don't know why she has taken the deeds, but I would do the same if I felt in danger.
The way you accuse your wife to ruin your dreams make me wonder if you've ever taken her needs, emotions, view of life into account.
When we have no agenda life leads us where we need to be. Those who let go find reward,
As for your question about having "no agenda" I do not htink it means having no direction. You have your wishes and goals in life, and they should not be denied (would not be possible anyway, we want what we want) I take having no aganda as more to let go of your firm ideas about how to reach these goals.
You speak of being gaslit. In such cases a person's perceptual and decision-making instruments have been damaged. If you set very detailed agendas at this time you will be doing so with damaged instruments.
it's not like a manual to erect a chair from IKEA with each step laid out
The I Ching does not say everything will change for the better. There are countless casts and combinations auguring misfortune, calamity, and other such stuff. In your cast, the situation in 23.6 is beneficial for 1 person, and not beneficial for the other. Who of the two of you is the most productive person? Who of the two of you is most constructive? And who of the two of you is a temporary destructive person?@irfan Things that will change, that does not mean for the better and the math supports things changing for the worse. The I Ching seemed to indicate something contrary to that.
You obviously did not read the whole thread,
And are biased due to your own recent circumstances.
Recusal perhaps.
Moss, I think Cuddly was unaware of the post you were responding to as I may have already deleted it.
Enqquery, could you please consider asking Yi something like this ...
"Please Yi, help me the best way to look at this thing I am thinking about/going through?"
He left in September 2020
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).