Clarity,
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I think I said way back at the start I would stay out of this one since it involved deception of others. Not that I claim any moral high ground exactly but cheating in relationships is wrong and that's a pretty fundamental thing IMO you can't fudge around.
But now I think you are even more deceived than deceiving
Do you actually believe this story ? Really ? Have you met her ? Okay so she's 'fragile' and on medication yet she pinned him to the bed and raped him and now he has a baby he doesn't want, love or care about. To him it was a 'liason' not 'love' so that means he has no responsibility for the life he just bought into the world ? Also no responsibility for a fragile woman on medication he enjoyed sex with. How many of them, women I mean actually in his life ? I get the impression there's probably more than the ones you even know about and he accomplishes all this in the name of 'love'. If people, babies, children get hurt along his path of deception there's not love.
Of course she didn't force him to have sex ! I wonder how often he spins this piffle to the various women he strings along. If you got pregnant he'd probably tell another woman you 'forced' him and you were 'fragile'. If she was that fragile why did he play around with her. It's just a classic situation of the man telling the woman he's with at the time the other women he's pregnated or slept with are too crazy/clingy/neurotic/on medication.
Right got that.
Okay so it just fell apart.
Then you contacted him and it was okay but there's another woman he's got pregnant so he has responsibilities now,
At a guess I'd say this was a really nifty get out plan so he doesn't have to wholly commit to you, so he can keep you in half relationship where it's always 'complicated' ie he wants to see lots of different women. He's good at all the love stuff, has the right words so you fall for it. Where I lose some patience with you is you don't empathise with these other women. Instead you believe the lies he tells about them. If he doesn't want a baby it's tough because he's got one and now that baby must be his priority.
Well I already said what I think of this. It's a ridiculous tale. He's probably told her you are fragile and on medication. If men want to play several women telling a woman the one he's kind of stuck with is mad/fragile/ it seems to be a good line for naive women. I think you are being naive.
So you asked 3 questions
Well she isn't making a father out of him he is a father. He is a father responsible for a baby now.
If he didn't want the baby he is going to have to want it now since that baby deserves everything from him, he's responsible for the baby. I think you said he already has another child also.
Perhaps 18.1 shows his own father behaved in a corrupted way so he's taken that on but now he needs to redeem that. Also maybe his new son will redeem him in some way.
You didn't need to ask again, the 'energy' makes no difference. This idea of keeping a low profile until he is delivered of the other woman and his son ? Been there before haven't you with his ex....how many times are you going to fall for this ? Bluntly he's no good is he. A man who comes and tells you, after you sought him out, that this fragile woman forced him to have sex and now he has a baby he doesn't want isn't a good man to get involved with. You believe all the bad things he says about the other women as mistresses who get stringed along for decades do. Wake up.
You don't need a soothsayer or a medium you just need to open your eyes. Also try having some solidarity with other women. Why don't you call this 'fragile' woman and talk to her ? I know you're going to say he didn't mean, when he said he was 'forced' to have sex with her, that she physically raped him but you know he can't really be emotionally forced to have sex with her either. It's a feeble story from a feeble man. Try talking to the other women he's stringing along in non committed relationships.
But now I think you are even more deceived than deceiving
Do you actually believe this story ? Really ? Have you met her ? Okay so she's 'fragile' and on medication yet she pinned him to the bed and raped him and now he has a baby he doesn't want, love or care about. To him it was a 'liason' not 'love' so that means he has no responsibility for the life he just bought into the world ? Also no responsibility for a fragile woman on medication he enjoyed sex with. How many of them, women I mean actually in his life ? I get the impression there's probably more than the ones you even know about and he accomplishes all this in the name of 'love'. If people, babies, children get hurt along his path of deception there's not love.
Of course she didn't force him to have sex ! I wonder how often he spins this piffle to the various women he strings along. If you got pregnant he'd probably tell another woman you 'forced' him and you were 'fragile'. If she was that fragile why did he play around with her. It's just a classic situation of the man telling the woman he's with at the time the other women he's pregnated or slept with are too crazy/clingy/neurotic/on medication.
Right got that.
Okay so it just fell apart.
Then you contacted him and it was okay but there's another woman he's got pregnant so he has responsibilities now,
At a guess I'd say this was a really nifty get out plan so he doesn't have to wholly commit to you, so he can keep you in half relationship where it's always 'complicated' ie he wants to see lots of different women. He's good at all the love stuff, has the right words so you fall for it. Where I lose some patience with you is you don't empathise with these other women. Instead you believe the lies he tells about them. If he doesn't want a baby it's tough because he's got one and now that baby must be his priority.
Well I already said what I think of this. It's a ridiculous tale. He's probably told her you are fragile and on medication. If men want to play several women telling a woman the one he's kind of stuck with is mad/fragile/ it seems to be a good line for naive women. I think you are being naive.
So you asked 3 questions
Well she isn't making a father out of him he is a father. He is a father responsible for a baby now.
If he didn't want the baby he is going to have to want it now since that baby deserves everything from him, he's responsible for the baby. I think you said he already has another child also.
Perhaps 18.1 shows his own father behaved in a corrupted way so he's taken that on but now he needs to redeem that. Also maybe his new son will redeem him in some way.
You didn't need to ask again, the 'energy' makes no difference. This idea of keeping a low profile until he is delivered of the other woman and his son ? Been there before haven't you with his ex....how many times are you going to fall for this ? Bluntly he's no good is he. A man who comes and tells you, after you sought him out, that this fragile woman forced him to have sex and now he has a baby he doesn't want isn't a good man to get involved with. You believe all the bad things he says about the other women as mistresses who get stringed along for decades do. Wake up.
You don't need a soothsayer or a medium you just need to open your eyes. Also try having some solidarity with other women. Why don't you call this 'fragile' woman and talk to her ? I know you're going to say he didn't mean, when he said he was 'forced' to have sex with her, that she physically raped him but you know he can't really be emotionally forced to have sex with her either. It's a feeble story from a feeble man. Try talking to the other women he's stringing along in non committed relationships.
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